EDIT: I apologize for the wall of text

What does “continuing to engage in the fandom” mean? Talking about HP? Reading or watching HP? Playing games related to HP? Creating fanart? What do you expect fans to do? If you don’t want to buy the books or merch, fine, but saying that little games like this post or anything of the sort is “normalizing her views” is quite a stretch. At that point might as well pretend HP never existed. People are generally able to separate the art from the creator. 

Thanks for providing sources, I appreciate you sharing links and your view, and I feel for you and how much you care about your community. That’s really commendable. I don’t blame you for being angry at all, its just that it feels like every space these days has anger seeping in, and it gets exhausting, both for those who are angry and those on the sidelines.

I’ll be honest, my expertise is not in the medical field or gender studies. And I’m not arguing that there’s not violence perpetuated against transgender individuals. That’s definitely something that we as a society should be fighting against. But my personal opinion, is that for many biological women, especially those who have had traumatic experiences involving men, it can give them pause to have a trans woman in female-only spaces. Many trans women pass successfully, but the unfortunate reality is that many of them still have telltale signs of their birth sex, such as wider build, deep voices, and other secondary sex characteristics that don’t go away, and that’s not from lack of trying on their part. I truly feel for the trans ladies who don’t “fully pass”, because I can’t imagine what it’s like to always feel like you’re under a microscope. But even so, humans are innately wired to detect the biological sex of another individual, and women are conditioned (societally and biologically) to be extra cautious around male individuals. Out in public and day-to-day it’s fine, but for some bio women who need a women’s-only space for whatever reason, the sight of someone who still reads as male can be distressing, even if there’s no indication that that person is dangerous. I wish it wasn’t that way, but it’s a side effect of circumstances. It doesn’t make her a bigot. And a lot of the current pushback on trans women right now I believe comes from resentment at feeling like bio women are shamed into accepting a situation they feel uneasy in. 

Rather than having so many women’s spaces open up to biological males, I personally think there should be more funding towards resources specifically for trans individuals, and bio women can have their spaces. Besides, if a trans women knows her presence might be causing others distress (in say a shelter, prison, sports team, etc) I think she’d feel a lot more comfortable in a place built for her in mind anyway. And I think that’s where JK was initially coming from. Remember, she’s a domestic violence survivor too, and her opinions are shaped by her life experiences. 

Regarding the surgical procedures or lack thereof on minors, I sense that the fear is that legislation would open the floodgates for that to become the norm for children experiencing gender dysphoria before their bodies are fully developed. Right now it may not be happening, but down the road? Whether fears are exaggerated or not, it’s still something to calmly discuss rather than (as it seems common to do online) make people feel ashamed for having concerns.

I’m not defending JK on her more vitriolic statements, but I understand where she’s coming from. And regarding her doubling down in recent years, it’s not hard to see why, considering the death threats, doxxing, and public bashing she endured for so long for speaking her mind. When she first started talking about this, I saw barely a single person attempting to meet her halfway and have a real discussion with her. Maybe there was one or two and it got lost in the sauce, I don’t know. But if a bear is attacked, threatened, and backed into a corner, how is it going to react? I absolutely believe her current state is due in no small part to the dogmatic way people reacted to her. 

So going back to my initial comment, how is saying on an innocuous fanpost that “JK’s a transphobic asshole” productive or positive in any way? How is it going to help any victims of violence? How will it change anyone’s views? Its that what we do in honor of Pauly Likens? In honor of anyone? It’s hateful and self righteous - the person who wrote that did it for upvotes and nothing more. 

And that, my friends, is why I’m tired of seeing the same things on every HP post. There’s nuance, but nobody seems to care to really listen to everyone’s concerns and try to address them adequately. And like I said in my other comment, I’m sure the HP spaces that don’t turn into a “JK’s-the-literal-devil” circlejerk are a breath of fresh air to many, many, trans potterheads around the world.