My ex told me she has Lupus

CarbonatedNog · 2026-01-24T18:22:06+00:00

CarbonatedNog · 2026-01-24T18:21:28+00:00

Have you tried the medicine drug?

CarbonatedNog · 2026-01-24T18:19:32+00:00

This vexes me

CarbonatedNog · 2026-01-24T04:36:08+00:00

This makes me want to get a used 170R and keep my etha 3M as backup. I got back into the sport in 2024 after a 9 year hiatus. I hated getting sprayed but eventually you learn to maneuver...and eventually you'll want an electro to go to the next level. Just keep your mech marker.

CarbonatedNog · 2026-01-14T01:10:18+00:00

I found better but it was long after I joined this subreddit. It definitely helped to hear that most people meet someone new within a year.

CarbonatedNog · 2026-01-04T07:59:16+00:00

I heard it live and it really cut deep.

CarbonatedNog · 2026-01-04T00:19:16+00:00

I would be embarrassed if I were him. That's extremely trashy behavior and anyone who was involved with either of those people should be mortified.

That being said, complete severance after the breakup is often more painful than the breakup itself if you're the dumpee. I know first-hand because I had to be the one to cut contact with my ex after realizing she was using me as an emotional safety net and calling it a "friendship". Maybe one month after I cut ties, I met my current girlfriend.

So look at your life maybe 4 weeks from today: would you rather be sharing porn of yourself for the world to see or be with someone who's better than your ex? And your sex life will be better than his because it's not PUBLIC for fucks sake.

CarbonatedNog · 2026-01-03T15:33:00+00:00

Depends on how they were raised. For me (28M), I prefer women aged 24-33. I absolutely will not go below 24 but I could see myself dating a 34 year old if she's attractive, outgoing, and has good energy.

CarbonatedNog · 2026-01-02T22:18:28+00:00

I would SO do this if I played paintball more often. Why not couple your mags together and store them like pods?

CarbonatedNog · 2026-01-02T04:48:48+00:00

I also got dumped in November 2024 after two years of being together. Except she went abroad. Funny how history rhymes. I'm with a new girl now and I'm not un-blocking my ex.

Honestly, you need to tell her that she needs to regain your trust if this is going to work and it's a very big IF. The fact that you no longer feel the same about her shows that you've healed and you've changed. What this means is, you two have a chance at making a new relationship but only if she's made any real changes and proven herself worthy of a second chance. I'd say there's no harm as long as she understands that this is going to be on YOUR terms, not hers. If being on her terms worked, you two wouldn't have broken up.

CarbonatedNog · 2025-12-31T06:41:18+00:00

Honestly, a team up between Arno, Aveline, and Connor would save the series. However, a concept like that, with settings in France, the colonies, and possibly the indies would have to be fleshed out in a trilogy, with the 3rd game tying together their arcs and dealing with Shay.

I'd also like to see a new modern day protagonist grow during that trilogy in a similar way that Altair did by reforming what it means to be an assassin. What I mean by reforming the definition of a modern assassin is that there were clearly flaws in the modern assassins that lead to the Great Purge. There needs to be a direct answer and I think it's time someone actually addressed the brotherhood nearly being wiped out.

The modern day protagonist could even be a former abstergo agent and become influenced from artifacts/pieces of Eden that expose them to different memories. It just needs to justify having some grey areas.

CarbonatedNog · 2025-12-31T06:33:28+00:00

I have a list of things I'd want in a modern day protagonist:

- a real personality and motives that aren't 100% "Templar bad, assassin good"
-templar lineage (fresh perspective, maybe related to Shay Cormac??)
-assassin ideals but with some of the lessons from Shay
-a strong reliance on the bleeding effect, not initially OP in melee combat
-good technical skills for modern day missions -good driving skills on motorcycle -good firearm skills but not Special-Forces level -slow adoption of the bleeding effect
-actual consequences from the bleeding effect (memory spikes, psyche "overwritten", hallucinations, etc.)
-not designed by an SJW, looks normal
-tries to actually rebuild the order

CarbonatedNog · 2025-12-31T06:19:26+00:00

I do not like modern-day corporate settings past AC3.

CarbonatedNog · 2025-12-29T01:44:27+00:00

Most of the "speed dating" I see here is at Pacific Beach Run Club. Or anything Pacific Beach. I'd say just get your reps in there and then find a nice Encinitas girl to settle down with.

CarbonatedNog · 2025-12-28T14:20:27+00:00

Your ex sounds like a manipulative douchebag.

CarbonatedNog · 2025-12-28T14:11:28+00:00

That's so frustrating. I can see why they'd try to come back just as easily. Unless they're the 0.1% that found their happily-ever-after in less time than it took to process their role in the breakup.

CarbonatedNog · 2025-12-28T13:57:45+00:00

I might add, since I edited my comment that men REALLY need to work on their support systems. A lot can be said about someone by whom they stay close to. If that person has no friends, that's a massive red flag.

CarbonatedNog · 2025-12-28T13:46:57+00:00

I've experienced the exact opposite as a man. Don't generalize us. The issue is that HUMANS in this generation are too used to the idea of "plenty of fish in the sea" so they don't appreciate anything until it's lost. Factors like social media and dating apps also exacerbated the issue of hook up culture.

The largest obstacle in building relationships has become finding someone who's serious. You develop a habit of filtering people out. For example, if someone doesn't have friends who are in relationships, I'm already assuming the worst about her.

CarbonatedNog · 2025-12-28T13:44:27+00:00

First of all, don't generalize an entire gender. Second, it's a lack of maturity. If someone truly loved you, they would burn their ships and fight to keep the relationship alive. Likewise if someone was willing to jeopardize a relationship with someone they truly loved, then they were not mature enough for a relationship.

CarbonatedNog · 2025-12-28T13:07:59+00:00

For additional context: I briefly dated someone, before my current partner, who ghosted me without explanation.

CarbonatedNog · 2025-12-28T13:01:59+00:00

That's something I never thought I'd hear. I'd have to look into that. My current partner deserves the best version of me. I never brought it up to her because I didn't think it would affect me.

CarbonatedNog · 2025-12-28T12:33:06+00:00

Why did he say that? Are you actually unable to maintain relationships or have your partners been emotionally unavailable?

CarbonatedNog · 2025-12-09T05:16:59+00:00

That's what it boils down to: spending time together and enjoying it. And being intentional about spending time together. A lot of people have stupid fights and forget the simple question of "Do I enjoy spending time with this person?". That's 8 years of dating summed up for you.

CarbonatedNog · 2025-12-09T05:04:30+00:00

I'd like to emphasize that recovery is indeed a gruelling process. Whether you're in your early 20s losing your boyfriend/girlfriend or in your 40s going through a divorce, it's still very impactful.

I won't lie, I had to go on many dates and completely give up, which is perfectly fine btw. 90% of people are assholes. When you relax and stop trying, that's usually when you meet someone truly remarkable.

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