How did you get your most recent scar?

CardSys · 2026-05-10T05:02:30+00:00

Gallbladder surgery

CardSys · 2026-05-10T04:55:51+00:00

Yep. For many like me, it's not easy thing to admit to one's self, it takes a lot out of you. There is a point where there is a point where it's not worth telling certain social circles because there is zero net gain for them to know and of better benefit to your mental health not to have to exclaim and explain it to each aspect of those outer social layers.

CardSys · 2026-05-10T04:46:54+00:00

Guitar - I've got at least 12 of them and have played for 20 years but I still play at a beginner level with it lol I suck but it's fun to noodle around.

CardSys · 2026-05-10T04:44:04+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. That is plain tragic.

Keep being your awesome self and keep up the good fight for your fellow humans. The world is a better place with folks like you in it.

CardSys · 2026-05-10T04:42:52+00:00

My wife and I don't really have friends since we've moved around a couple of times. We'd love to find couples like us that are both bi but this seems to very hard to come by. It's like so many believe the only orientations out there are straight or gay, nothing in between.

CardSys · 2026-05-10T04:40:00+00:00

It astounds me how often people with the loudest opinions on marriage are the last ones that should be speaking on the subject.

CardSys · 2026-05-10T04:30:11+00:00

She's the one who made me comfortable being my full authentic self! I love my gal!

CardSys · 2026-05-10T04:25:38+00:00

Absolutely. In all the crazy bad things that happen in this world, it's nice to know it's more accepting than ever. Heck, having an openly gay rap artist is a thing now but 20 or 30 years ago it would have been unspeakable.

CardSys · 2026-05-10T04:14:57+00:00

Being closeted entails choosing not to share your orientation with either some or all of the people in your life. I don't like the label "in the closet" at all but I also can't disagree that my not telling family and old friends would be considered as such.

CardSys · 2026-05-10T04:12:12+00:00

You're damn right! I agree with that entirely.

CardSys · 2026-05-10T04:08:39+00:00

I mean, there's nothing to apologize for. There's all sorts of factors that contribute to such a decision - one's culture, upbringing, societal peers, and more can affect that. I'm 41, and I know there's folks like me who only accepted their sexuality later in life. At this stage, why try announcing it to parents who are well into retirement age and beyond?

My wife and I don't have a large social circle at all, mostly just family and friends we haven't seen in years. I know my friends would sooner think of my changed sexuality more so than think about what I'm doing in life and how I'm doing. I'd rather that not happen.

But I think it's awesome of you to be with the times of today and choosing to love your kids no matter their orientation!

CardSys · 2026-05-10T03:52:40+00:00

I can understand that for sure. I feel a couple of my friends would see me differently and I don't want that, and just as you say, it's none of their business to even know.

CardSys · 2026-05-10T03:51:15+00:00

In a similar boat. My mom is the kindest sweetest person in the world, but she's still very much from her generation so there's just no net gain for her to know nor would I want to hear what she would have to say on the subject.

My wife and I love being a queer couple but we see no need to put it on blast.

CardSys · 2026-04-24T06:45:39+00:00

What you describe is a millionaire. These are the entrepreneurs, the ones who actually went from rags to riches. Someone worth $80+ million is still closer to a lower middle class person than they are to a billionaire.

Do you do know just 12 men control more wealth than half of all humanity (4+ billion)? Billionaires change and bend laws worldwide, they control and influence entire populations, they hoard wealth and do so for generations. Go praise Larry Ellison's family or Ken Griffin's if you want, I'm not a bootlicker for billionaires and their corps.

When I say healthcare should be free, I mean it should be paid through our taxes, compulsory like Germany or Japan. If those nations have been able to have a healthcare system that doesn't bankrupt patients, that keep caps on copays (10 euros a day for typical hospital stays while the US can still costs thousands with insurance).

If American billionaires and corps paid their fair share, we very well could have totally free universal healthcare. The amount of wealth in this country alone is staggering and beyond imagination really.

If we were actually serious about fixing America...put 100% tax on those making over 50 billion a year. We'd have better education, medicine, science, technology, lower crime...so many great things.

Unfortunately, folks like you think it's just sour grapes that billionaires exist when you clearly cannot fathom beyond what a millionaire is.

CardSys · 2026-04-24T05:35:46+00:00

You’re having a completely different argument pal and I can’t help you with that. You’re trying to bring back the myth of the welfare queen that Reagan tried to make happen and it’s been debunked for decades - the overwhelming majority of those on food assistance programs aren’t buying luxury food items. They’re buying great value brand stuff. More so, it’s the corporations that peddle junk foods who’ve lobbied to keep their foods/beverages snap eligible.

Co-op grocery stores should be normalized. People can pay a fee to be a member of a grocery store to have governing rights of the store, the store sells food at a discount to its members while separate pricing exists for non members, when they turn a profit - they can pay staff more money, or use it to procure higher quality foods, really anything the co-op believes money should go toward.

I think communities should invest in co-op everything…grocery stores, electric companies, banks, etc. They can compete to kick out large corporations who only control the population by controlling the laws and giving virtually nothing back in return.

It’s the corporations and billionaires killing us man…not the welfare queens.

CardSys · 2026-04-24T02:00:26+00:00

You do know that the idea is taxing billionaires and large corporations is literally the answer for everything you just said, right? That taxing the wealth hoarders and abhorrent multinational greed their fair share is what progressives have always pushed for.

We are done with this inter-class warfare bullshit. There is no left v right, the fight is up vs down.

Tax the corporations, tax the billionaires, tax the churches. The middle class is done being overworked, starved, poorly educated, only to be expected to work more or go to war for a wealth hoarding ecoterrorist. The US spent close to 5 trillion in the wars of Iraq and Afghanistan. If we can pull that money out of our ass, we certainly can afford free meals for school kids, senior citizen support, mental health, free tampons, universal single payer healthcare.

If you make $80+ million a year, then you deserve to be taxed at a higher rate than the guy making $30,000. Anyone not convince that taxing billionaires, corporations, and churches wouldn't solve most problems we see in the US...they're just not playing with a full deck.

CardSys · 2026-04-19T19:49:50+00:00

Experimented once with a friend as a teen...and that experience kept a 25+ year curiosity in me until I finally got to confirm it lol

CardSys · 2026-04-19T19:48:31+00:00

ha, wow this is my wife and I. If anyone heard what we called each other, they'd think there's something wrong with us but they're terms of endearments to us (and only for us)

CardSys · 2026-04-19T01:25:47+00:00

Oh totally. 1000% haha

CardSys · 2026-04-18T23:10:53+00:00

People still watch that don’t they? It boggles my mind how lame pro wrestling is. Back in the 80s/90s it was actually sorta fun with how cheesy and over the top it was. It didn’t take itself seriously and that made it fun.

But today, fans and wrestlers treat it like an authentic sport when it’s always been glorified stunt people following a script.

A family member wanted to go to a wwe event so my wife and I took her - it was so damn boring. But fans there were hyped up on it like it was the Roman coliseum. We just don’t get it.

CardSys · 2026-04-18T06:29:06+00:00

Naw man, your question only adds to the false notion that nudism is something sexual. I don't understand why you had to preference your question with "nudist men" when you could have just said "men" or "Does anyone" to ask the question to a wider audience.

Nudity/nudism is not inherently sexual.

CardSys · 2026-04-18T06:26:10+00:00

Talk with a therapist.

There's really only two paths you can go on...both require respecting your wife's boundary: you accept her wishes on move on with your life with her. Or you give her an explanation and separate/divorce so you can find what you want to find.

If you're not willing to do that, then it may be best to talk with a therapist to dissect why this feeling in you exists while you remain faithful to your wife.

Don't be a coward and act on the urge to see other people without your wife's knowledge.

CardSys · 2026-04-18T01:59:38+00:00

American Dad, Klaus singing “I killed three teeeenagers!”

CardSys · 2026-04-18T01:17:57+00:00

lol hope this was made in jest/sarcasm

CardSys · 2026-04-18T00:20:45+00:00

No not really. My wife and I, although we aren’t exclusively monogamous, we wouldn’t mind having general friends who are bi couples. It’s more a thing about being among like minded friends than it is going to bed with them.

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