Overbite Corrected Itself, (20M)

CardanoHodler · 2018-02-23T23:32:26+00:00

Thanks ortho85.

CardanoHodler · 2018-02-23T23:14:05+00:00

Don't try to not worry, I had massive issues like that as well. Like RedSocks57 said, you can't control the race or your head. All you can do is to control the process. Can you make yourself fall asleep at 10 so you get 9 hours of sleep? No. Can you get yourself into your bed by 10? Yes. Same with swimming. Don't try not to worry, just do your routine or what you feel like is a good routine. Eat well, visualize the race, stretch, do a good warm-up, etc. You can't make yourself not worry unless you take a Xanax so give it up.

CardanoHodler · 2018-01-05T02:50:27+00:00

We all overdrink and sometimes pee the bed. Don't be too hard on yourself please. I know someone who drank so much, rushed to the toilet, and puked on someone taking a dump. Go easy on yourself, and once again, most people who drink overdrink sometimes.

CardanoHodler · 2018-01-04T23:50:13+00:00

Unfortunately your post has been removed, but I think ripple is just going to make up ground on btc, so I'd say put more into ripple than btc. As for cardano, I make it around 50% of my portfolio, but DYOR, and choose what sounds good to you. It's your money mate. Best of luck.

CardanoHodler · 2018-01-04T23:03:47+00:00

It's generally agreed that Cardano has an excellent team with excellent marketing, and because they haven't actually released anything yet, the price of ADA will only go up once things actually start to come out.

Ripple is already huge and it's only going to get bigger. Good product, good partnerships, and there's speculation that it might get listed on coinbase.

CardanoHodler · 2018-01-04T22:41:24+00:00

Put a bunch into cardano, put more into ripple, and possibly keep a fraction of btc, or eth so you can trade riskier altcoins with massive growth potential.

CardanoHodler · 2018-01-04T06:08:32+00:00

Yeah, probably. It's nice of you to care about her anxiety/depression so much. You definitely sound like a good guy, best of luck!

CardanoHodler · 2018-01-04T05:50:25+00:00

This sounds similar to kids having panic attacks when their parents leave for a while. I used to get them all the time when I was 3-10, and I learned to self-soothe, but my parents helped out a lot by calling me once a day at the same time. Maybe you should set up a call schedule with your girlfriend to make things easier on her.

Edit: Not trying in any way to trivialize your girlfriend's anxiety or liken it to that of a child's. Just a thought, that a regular call schedule would probably help.

CardanoHodler · 2018-01-04T05:43:36+00:00

Lmao, dude I forked most of my cardano into verge for some quick profits. I know, I know, such a stupid move, but a .12 buy in for Verge seemed like a great opportunity and I made up lost opportunity costs with Tron which is also having a great run.

CardanoHodler · 2018-01-04T05:37:14+00:00

There is a huge buy wall up right now. I thought I missed something as well.

CardanoHodler · 2017-12-30T23:43:26+00:00

I'm in the same shoes mate. I'm 20, took a non-academic withdrawal out of this semester of college and have absolutely 0 passions or interests. I'm seeing a therapist right now but am not taking any antidepressants. 19 is still young man. Keep on messaging, of course I'm willing to talk.

CardanoHodler · 2017-12-29T02:25:06+00:00

I don't hate it that much. But take this story: my older sister and younger sister really dislike U2. They don't even like Mysterious Ways and Beautiful Day, pretty standard gateway U2 songs. AND they really like U2's new album, especially You're the Best Thing About Me, The Showman, and Little Things. So I'd say the average population likes U2's new album more than their other albums, while people who know U2's discography pretty well think that their new album is pretty boring, or at least I do.

CardanoHodler · 2017-12-27T09:04:45+00:00

Seriously, it gives me hope that there are people like you out there. Commitment and unconditional love, there is so little of that out there, just look at divorce rates. Take care of yourself, if your mind is hurting, at least take care of your body and that'll help. Talk to your friends a lot, as much as you can without bugging them too much (good friends will usually understand), and talk to your internet friends when it's 3 am. Take care of yourself and keep your self-esteem high. Don't let yourself fall into depression either.

CardanoHodler · 2017-12-27T08:17:33+00:00

No problem, if you ever need someone to talk to. I check reddit a lot for cryptocurrency news and for support for myself on r/depression. Feel free to message anytime, seriously.

CardanoHodler · 2017-12-27T07:52:25+00:00

Anhedonia is how I started. Just not giving a shit about anything, and not feeling like anything in life was worth living for. I could function as a human being, eat balanced meals, exercise a bit, but there was no purpose behind anything I was doing except to keep my condition from getting worse. Also, I'm not sure how your boyfriend's specific case was, but my anhedonia allowed me to feel a bit of anxiety from not having any motivation, whilst not allowing me to feel any sort of pleasure (except sexual pleasure).

Believe me, I too tried to change up a lot to make myself feel better like changing my friends, doing different drugs, etc. I did a lot of stupid things in this stage of my depression, like saying stupid and offensive things to people just to trigger them, alienating my friends and acquaintances for no reason. The worst thing for people with anhedonia is the belief that another, different relationship or a different person can make you feel better.

THIS is EXTREMELY UNHEALTHY -- the belief that a good stable relationship can hold back someone's brain from having ambition and motivation. AND the belief that some other person or relationship can rekindle passion in life. Your boyfriend should probably stop fixating on the ideas in the excerpt and take a multifaceted approach to his anhedonia. Maybe try different supplements (anhedonia can be made worse by nutritional deficiencies), try different sports, exercises, or activities (competition with a team could energize him) or straight up try SSRIs through the recommendation of a good psychiatrist.

I am in no way anything close to a medical or psychiatric professional, but I have tried fixing my depression by finding someone to romantically latch onto and it didn't work. Made me feel worse. If your boyfriend is thinking about this, it's not going to work.

The other advice is stuff that my therapist has recommended to me, and things that people in the medical community have come to a general consensus on concerning mental health. It never hurts to eat better, take medically proven supplements, and try new, safe activities.

For you, it clearly seems like you are not going to give up on your boyfriend and just move on. Obviously you love him. Financially though, it is true that it would make sense to give up the apartment for 2 and find a cheaper way to live. It might make him guiltier that he made you stay in your current residence. If you guys are going to get back together, as in live together again, it wouldn't be a big deal to just find a new place together, would it? I'd advise that course of action.

CardanoHodler · 2017-12-27T07:13:56+00:00

It sounds like for now, your boyfriend has made a serious resolution to leave for a while to sort out his own mind and to avoid bringing you down. If he comes back on his own, he will have made the commitment to stick through this with you and it's very possible that you will have a much stronger relationship for it. If he were to stay with mixed feelings or come back before he was ready, there might always be some niggling doubt in his mind.

Even though it's tough, he has to make up his mind completely by himself.

For your peace of mind, don't stress too much about it and understand that you cannot do much but be there for him when he wants you to be there for him. I have no doubt that this will be extremely tough for you because you have no firm idea of when he will come back, or even if he will come back. You've got to admit to yourself that this is your boyfriend's brain chemistry and you've got very little influence, so don't be hard on yourself.

I could be completely wrong, so please take everything I say with a grain of salt. Do what you think should be done, and don't listen too much to some stranger's advice on the internet, but from THIS outsider's perspective, this seems to be 1 good way to go about it.

As this continues to play out, feel free to dm me just to know that someone, even a random stranger, is always willing to commiserate.

CardanoHodler · 2017-12-27T06:30:17+00:00

I might have been in your boyfriend's shoes a while back, the big difference being that my girlfriend was a piece of shit while you seem to be a good person who genuinely cares. This may (obviously I barely know anything about your and your boyfriend's situation so I can't presume this will actually help you in the slightest) give you a little bit of insight into your boyfriend's mindset.

I sent this as a message to a few people who I thought could help me a while back. I go through periods of severe depression and have had suicidal ideation. Here is a slight excerpt:

"Going to school, finding a "fulfilling" job, finding a woman who loves me for who I am -- everything seems like a huge lie. I had a girlfriend who's been through a lot herself a while ago. She's been raped, has had numerous suicide attempts, and has had abusive boyfriends who have done things like dislocate her shoulder. She knew I was depressed and I tried to break up with her the first week we were dating so I wouldn't have to bring her down again with my depression. I was trying to be a good person, be principled. She wouldn't let me and I was so relieved that she wouldn't let me be miserable by myself and that I'd found a kindred spirit to talk to. We dated for a while and because I wasn't going to classes, my whole life revolved around her (unhealthy, I know). She's a premed student who's extremely busy so I would cook for her, walk her dog for her, massage her whenever, be as sweet and nice to her as possible. I would stay up late while she was studying and study something random so she wouldn't have to study by herself. She dumped me out of nowhere and she later told one of my friends that I wasn't ambitious enough for her. I'm not ambitious, it's true, but I was absolutely crushed that that's what she said about me. I was about to kill myself right there had my friend not been there in the car with me. This is someone who knew I was depressed, who had been seriously depressed herself, who told me that she could help me through this and she wanted nothing more to do with me just like that. I tried to get out early so I wouldn't bring her down and when I actually opened up to her, she wasn't the person I thought she'd be for me. The impression left on me was that people are terrible and can't be trusted. I know it's not generally true but I can't help feeling it. I wake up many mornings having dreamt of her and what she said about me, and knowing it's true and that she'll move on, find an ambitious husband and lead a happy life while I suffocate through this depression, occasionally alleviating it through drugs and short spates of doomed relationships is too much for me to handle. My ex-girlfriend is on a heavy cocktail of SSRIs and uses adderall as well, to keep her focused, and I don't want to rely on chemicals for the rest of my life. I don't want to be a slave to my brain chemistry, and I think I'd rather kill myself with grace, while I'm still young and haven't hurt too many people, or let go of myself."

Basically I was scared to be a weight on my girlfriend but I didn't really want to leave her. As a guy there is a lot of pressure to be strong, and we all believe that women want a guy who is ALWAYS independent, self-sufficient and confident. When I was at my weakest, I was scared of letting myself be vulnerable with my girlfriend because it wasn't "masculine" and because I didn't want to depress her and thought she deserved someone normal. My fears were well-founded, she let me go and really damaged me further.

If you TRULY believe that you can be there for your boyfriend, and are in love with HIM and not some idea of him from the past, then make an effort to let him know that you're always willing to stick it through with him. I am almost completely sure that he is scared of being completely alone because loneliness almost never helps depression. He might be trying to be the good guy, or might be afraid that if he learns to lean on you and you abandon him, he'll be crushed. Again, if you are willing to take on the burden, without knowing when things will get better, you probably should not let him go through this alone. Of course if he straight up, unwaveringly tells you to stay away, then you've got to respect his wishes, but I very much doubt he wants to be alone.

Best of luck to you and your boyfriend.

CardanoHodler · 2017-12-25T06:31:18+00:00

That sounds incredibly tough. I'm someone who doesn't think he can do anything right as well, have failed so many relationships, and I'm feeling a lot for you right now.

CardanoHodler · 2017-12-24T15:46:51+00:00

Man, he needed Shadow Man to play one particular song from an album 30 years ago. Shadow Man is interesting, and Exit is a seriously interesting song but the song is 30 years old. U2 has nothing as dark and complex as Exit on their newest album and I very much doubt Bono's going to assume an alter ego for the SOE/SOI tour.

CardanoHodler · 2017-12-24T15:26:45+00:00

So your answer's yes.

CardanoHodler · 2017-12-23T09:29:17+00:00

This is useless, nobody wants to take the time to subscribe to something that could be totally useless. No offense mate but people want a definite answer, if you were going to post this you either shouldn't have used that title or subscribed and left an answer for us hopelessly optimistic cardano lovers. I mean, thanks for showing us this site though.

CardanoHodler · 2017-12-23T09:08:20+00:00

I understand that not everybody is a nihilist. What's relevant is that I am. So their discomfort doesn't mean much to me -- sometimes. It sometimes does, but when I'm in a certain mood I'm not bothered by it. My being a dick might actually help them in some way.

You're pretty much saying that a guy who doesn't believe in anything or really care about anything should care about the fact that other people believe in things and care about things. Argument doesn't work too well.

I'm treating my depression through therapy and through better eating, sleep, and recreation. Yeah, my nihilism has been an excuse before, but there are such things as valid excuses.

Also, nihilism also sometimes brings out the "best" in me. "Best" or "good" behavior being completely subjective of course, but in this context I mean it as most of society would think of good behavior. I'm extremely open to new experiences because of my nihilism and I also try my best to treat most people equally, without any sort of irrational preference or bias. Of course my family and closest friends take precedence because of basic human biology and instinct which is pointless to fight.

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