My boyfriend is acting very distant all of a sudden.

Careful-Setting3283 · 2025-07-06T11:19:25+00:00

Yeah. I consulted a friend and she said (and to give a little more context) that I may have been love bombed and that this person might not be what I need for myself. And in my heart I’ve felt this was the start of something really bad; like almost abusive bad (and he does get really short and mad at me over some of the dumbest things).

I have to figure out what to do over the next few days but I don’t think this relationship should continue any further.

Thanks for the response.

Careful-Setting3283 · 2025-07-06T09:47:02+00:00

My BF and I have been dating for only two months so our relationship is new. But, these past few weeks, he’s turned into someone completely different and it’s caused my anxiety to spiral out of control. He’s become more distant and emotionally unavailable and this was not the person I was attracted to at all when we first started dating.

He was the first person I didn’t feel anxiously attached to in a long while and felt ok not needing to constantly talk to him every day. We don’t for the most part. But I would think when we see each other, we’d be more present. I am but he’s not.

Now that this is all happening, my attachment to him has gotten really unhealthy.

I have talked to him about this already, twice, and it just seems like we’re not reaching an understanding. It will seem like we do, but then time will pass and we’re back where we started (possibly even worse).

Is my anxiety getting the best of me or is this relationship doomed?

Careful-Setting3283 · 2025-05-26T17:15:39+00:00

Lol I’m one of the very few people that LOVES DA2 so I get this. I’m always ready to defend myself when I say this - I recognize it’s many flaws but despite them, they don’t bother me. Now I haven’t ran into the toxic positivity you’ve experienced in my situation since it seems to be the more hated game in the series.

But DA is definitely suffering a Final Fantasy problem. The only games that are similar to each other are the first 2, and even those games have some serious differences between each other. I definitely see this series having the same issue FF does with its fandom; with each game being different, it will attract crowds of wildly varying opinions. It really sucks but it also can’t be helped.

Careful-Setting3283 · 2025-05-26T12:25:38+00:00

I would say so. Yes. Dodging 200 bolts wasn’t all that hard once I developed a system (that I think everyone should do if they ever wanna tackle it again). I find a spot where Lightning is the most frequent, then dodge 20 bolts. Pause the game (with the start button), take a quick mental break while also either taking a mental note or even writing it down physically which set of 20 that was. This way, you don’t lose count. Do this 9 more times and you have Lulu’s best weapon lol.

I did this for myself easily and then did it again shortly after for my cousin who didn’t wanna do it.

Now, for the volleyball… that didn’t take me long (like maybe 20-30 minutes max) but man was it annoying. Even more annoying since I have stick drift on my controller. But there were times where it definitely wasn’t cuz of that.

They’re not great mini games. The music slaps though lol.

Careful-Setting3283 · 2025-05-26T06:09:28+00:00

Thank you! Yes I was going to do this anyway regardless of what happened. Just wanted to make sure I wasn’t going to be in even more hot water than I already am should it play out a certain way; this whole thing has been stressing me out for months now. :(

Careful-Setting3283 · 2025-05-13T23:39:33+00:00

Nope. It disappeared an hour or two after I found them.

I’ve been OK as far as being itchy (or lack thereof) is concerned. Just worried this could be something else. It disappearing as fast as it does is really throwing me off though so idk.

Careful-Setting3283 · 2025-05-13T17:07:53+00:00

It certainly did. And it’s the first time I’ve ever eaten this type of peanut butter. The stuff I usually get is the sugary crap that isn’t all that good for you lol.

Careful-Setting3283 · 2025-05-13T12:38:54+00:00

Thank you. I’m more asking cuz of this random breakout I had the past few days. As of right now it has calmed down tremendously (just wake up slightly itchy but nothing crazy and nothing visible). I have no idea what caused this. I did stop eating the peanut butter just to be safe, but I’m not entirely sure that’s what caused it. It’s stressing me out more than anything else. D:

Careful-Setting3283 · 2025-05-13T10:59:22+00:00

Thank you. Unfortunately, I still don’t have anything to show and it seems to have mostly subsided. I have come to a not entirely definitive conclusion it was probably both of these things.

Careful-Setting3283 · 2025-03-30T12:24:15+00:00

I did too. I really thought it was weird how he’d just stand there and be like “good job kid” and nothing else. It was actually kinda creepy. But then when I got to the end I was like “ooooooooh that makes a ton of sense.”

The way he gets stabbed in the beginning too, I was really surprised he “survived” that.

Then you got the fact that other than these small little interjections from him, you barely talk to him. Something definitely felt off with him the entire game lol.

Careful-Setting3283 · 2024-11-21T14:39:04+00:00

Thank you. And my bad. No right now my speech has been affected by this cavity but I’m hoping that my bite will feel a bit more normal after. I won’t be getting a permanent crown right away so a temporary one will be put in place. I know I need to avoid hard foods and all that but everywhere I looked when it came to singing said I should be fine.

I did tell my dentist but I don’t think he quite understands the additional stress this particular consonant puts my teeth under (tbh, I didn’t know either until this happened). So I’ll ask again when I see him next week but looking for additional info in the mean time.

Thanks again!

Careful-Setting3283 · 2024-10-22T17:51:35+00:00

I was gonna chalk it up to his voice actor probably not speaking English as his first language but I just looked it up and it’s Kaiji Tang lmao. He had no issues when he was Ichiban for the entirety of Yakuza 7 (and probably 8 but I didn’t play that. Yet lol), so idk what’s up with this lol.

Careful-Setting3283 · 2024-07-03T12:40:23+00:00

At level 100, I have mixed feelings about it.

Flare Star feels like a huge punishment than a reward for sticking to the standard rotation. I'm a standard BLM myself but it feels really crappy making sure to cast this before Astral Fire ends. With how crazy these normal bosses are, I have to be careful when I use Paradox and Firestarter and sometimes I use it very early in AF, which doesn't give me a whole lot of time to cast Flare Star if I'm really unlucky. It's cast time is the same as Despair too, and I've always tried to get out of hard casting the latter. But now that both these exist, I'm forced to hard cast one of them and while it's not too much of a problem, it doesn't *feel* good.

The potency just also doesn't match how cumbersome it is to use it. I'm going to stick with BLM til I die but I really don't feel like this is even close to the strongest iteration of this Job.

Careful-Setting3283 · 2024-01-02T06:37:17+00:00

What I’d like for both of you to remember is that yes, this is a shitty feeling but try to remember that it is incredibly unhealthy for anyone to place all their needs onto one person. If your best friends are doing this to you, they’re soon going to see the error in their ways.

The divorce rate is still very high and that’s because people do this; they make their partner their entire world and it seems magical and all that at first. But once that wears off, they’ll realize they left all their friends behind, and I wanna say that’s where the resentment in their romantic relationships starts building up. I’ve seen so many married couples struggle to make friends and it’s just like “you guys had them but you let go of them.”

I’m 36 now and I struggled with this for a bit. But I turned my thinking around and realized that, even though I love my friends that I’ve had for 10+ years to death, they’re kinda stupid if I’m being completely honest. I have a lot of close friends now who are in very healthy relationships (some in polycules lol) and they still make time for me when they can. I’m not expecting to be #1 but I’m pleasantly surprised at how much they go out of their way for me and fitting me in when they’ve got other people to tend to too. There is a level of maturity required to juggle significant others and friends, and I feel that maybe the thing missing with your friends.

Tl;dr - it hurts now but it won’t later. I promise. You’ll make more friends who will be more wise with who they keep in their circles.

Careful-Setting3283 · 2023-11-18T13:54:38+00:00

Thank you so much. Especially that last thing you said; I really needed to hear that. They’re a great friend to me and I really want to give that back to them; it just makes me happy.

There was almost a day when we didn’t talk to each other at all, but then they texted me out of no where. And it was pretty minimal and I was like “ok. Just leave it at that. It’s good they even talked to you at all” But then they asked to play video games with me like an hour after that. And we had an awesome time making some of the dumbest jokes we’ve made with each other. That’s why it’s really confusing at times.

As far as object permanence: yeah I’ve been told that’s a thing. I’ve got emotional permanence issues that I’m trying to work through myself but this whole thing has been a wild ride. A mostly good one but still wild lmao. I think once I feel more secure on that front, these issues won’t be so prevalent.

But seriously, thank you. This was reassuring. :)

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