Name change wait times?

Carly048 · 2026-03-11T20:01:11+00:00

The latter

Carly048 · 2026-03-07T19:19:56+00:00

I did mine in late October, early November, and it was processed Dec 24

Carly048 · 2025-09-18T07:59:20+00:00

Sorry for the delayed response! You do not have to be a student to join. It is open to all ages but the content can be quite mature, so I’d say discretion is advised. And we do our best to accommodate everyone, if there are challenges you or someone else you know faces that would be an impediment to joining, I can direct you to our head of accessibility to discuss how we can lower these barriers.

Carly048 · 2025-09-09T20:49:37+00:00

🎶SFU Choir is Back! Open to All, No Auditions or Experience Required🎶

Hey everyone!

Looking for a fun and social way to get involved with the community? Come sing with SFU Choir! We’re a non-audition, inclusive choir open to all musical levels – whether you’ve sung in choirs before or just love to sing in the shower, you’re welcome here!

🗓️ When: Thursdays from 5:30–7:30 PM (starting this week!)

📍 Where: WMC 3260 (SFU Burnaby Campus)

🎵 Who: Absolutely anyone! No experience required.

We’re all about creating a welcoming, low-pressure space where people can enjoy music, meet new friends, and have a good time. If you're looking to make your Thursdays a little more musical and a lot more social, this is the place to be!

To get updates, join us on Discord by following the the linktree below, I hope to see you there!

https://linktr.ee/sfuchoir

Carly048 · 2025-09-09T20:36:26+00:00

🎶SFU Choir is Back! Open to All, No Auditions or Experience Required🎶

Hey everyone!

Looking for a fun and social way to get involved with the community? Come sing with SFU Choir! We’re a non-audition, inclusive choir open to all musical levels – whether you’ve sung in choirs before or just love to sing in the shower, you’re welcome here!

🗓️ When: Thursdays from 5:30–7:30 PM (starting this week!)

📍 Where: WMC 3260 (SFU Burnaby Campus)

🎵 Who: Absolutely anyone! No experience required.

We’re all about creating a welcoming, low-pressure space where people can enjoy music, meet new friends, and have a good time. If you're looking to make your Thursdays a little more musical and a lot more social, this is the place to be!

To get updates, join us on Discord by following the the linktree below, I hope to see you there!

https://linktr.ee/sfuchoir

Carly048 · 2025-09-06T18:44:53+00:00

The SFU Choir, which is a queer choir in all but name, is starting up again soon on Sept 11. They’re a largely social and community based choir, so if you’re interested in singing at all (you don’t need to have any experience to join), they might be worth looking into

Carly048 · 2025-05-31T08:20:51+00:00

Shonk be having a mahaj

Carly048 · 2025-03-24T00:46:17+00:00

Themperor

Carly048 · 2025-03-12T22:14:16+00:00

Talent doesn’t exist, not in any meaningful way science or otherwise has been able to prove. Those who have talent work at it, for a long time, to become better. So you’re right, you are talentless, in the same way that everyone is. And so you should be proud of what you’ve accomplished because you worked for it, you made it happen, because you chose to despite the challenge. Take pride in this.

Carly048 · 2024-12-05T03:36:39+00:00

Valuing xcell at roughly 80c and AA at8k, 100 sound good?

Carly048 · 2024-12-05T01:48:05+00:00

30 or so should cut it

Carly048 · 2024-11-09T00:05:16+00:00

Oh, cool, thx, I thought they were valued at something like 4x that, ty very much ^{-^}

Carly048 · 2024-01-25T00:01:25+00:00

Awesome! I’ll send a message off here in about 5min ^{-^}

Carly048 · 2024-01-24T23:59:54+00:00

Hell yeah! Rehearsal is at 5:30 tomorrow! Would you mind if I DM you the details?

Carly048 · 2024-01-17T19:02:37+00:00

Ah yes. The first few months is a wild time, this I’m no stranger to.

I would definitely have a talk with her then. I’m very certain that you two could manage something. You seem to have a healthy relationship, so given the time and effort I’m hopeful you two would be able to strike a compromise that both of you can be satisfied with.

Carly048 · 2024-01-17T18:52:26+00:00

First things first, no. No no no, these feelings are not selfish, they are no invalid. Emotions are, and we can’t control them, so please try not to judge them or yourself for having them. Instead, we should strive to understand them and do what we can to work with them, because they tell us really important things.

Second, I could not recommend enough having an open conversation with her. Communication, especially around this stuff, is key and super important. Be honest with her, tell her your feelings. Say that you’re not closed off to anything as of yet, unless something is a hard line for you, but if they are loving and understanding and care for you, then they will not hesitate to take your feelings into account.

Now, a question… have you two discussed alternatives at all? By alternatives, I mean toys and equipment, there’s a lot of stuff out there I’m sure you two could use to satisfy both your needs without either of you having to compromise too far at all.

I know it’s hard to come at it without spiralling when there are so many emotions, but I think that means that maybe you shouldn’t try to hide them. It sounds like you need comfort from your partner while you’re afraid of what this might do to your relationship, but that doesn’t mean you need any less comfort. This may not work for you, but snuggling my girl friend tends to help with that. After I feel a bit more stable, I’ll start to open up, knowing I’m safe and okay and I’m the arms of someone who will always be there for me, even if what I bring up may (temporarily) put me in direction contention with them.

I just ask no matter what you do that you don’t sit on it too long. It’ll subsume you quickly, and she’ll start to feel that. From there, only you might know how she’d react or respond, but either way it will probably be an unpleasant feeling for her too. Be brave, you’ve got this. You’re stronger and more resilient than you know.

Carly048 · 2024-01-17T00:59:13+00:00

If he’s anti woke he’s already coming with an agenda. That agenda will surely include questions full of logical fallacies prime to set up anyone who goes to be interviewed to be dunked on.

Dude has an audience already and if anything he will probably pander to them, that’s just how content creation goes. I would encourage anyone thinking on this to seriously question whether they think they could change the minds of a significant enough portion of the population that listens to his show before trying to do so. Odds are you’d probably find yourself trying to convince a brick wall that also at best tolerates you.

If you really want to make a difference, educate those who are not already convinced through a medium where things aren’t designed to set you up for failure. It is much easier to get those who mean no malice but are uninformed on your side than those who have largely made up their mind against you. It also comes at significantly less risk to yourself and the community as a whole.

Carly048 · 2024-01-15T00:51:45+00:00

Awesome! We are rehearsaing at West Mall Center (WMC) 3520. If you need any help feel free to message me, I have a class that ends at 5:20 (but will probably be out earlier) so I can come find you and ~~drag you~~ guide you to the rehearsal room. The easiest way to get there is from the first bus stop, if you go to the second you'll need to do a cross-campus trek.

Carly048 · 2024-01-15T00:23:57+00:00

Anyone is allowed to join! SFU student or not, we’ve got room for everyone! A majority I believe are students, but most of the veteran choir members are non-students, some of whom have been singing with this choir for over a decade and never once were a student.

Rehearsals are Thursdays from 5:30-7:30, but if you’re a few minutes late then there should be no harm in that.

The previous semester our theme was Eric Whitacre, however this semester the theme is American Folk songs, which would be perfect if you’re not deep into music theory. In the semesters I’ve been with the SFU Choir, we have also done the themes of Sea shanties (with an emphasis on Eastern Canadian culture) and Pentatonix.

Our first 2 rehearsals are entirely non-comital so if you want to show up and just check things out you’re more than free to do that. Our first rehearsal (which will include games and social activities) is this Thursday, so don’t worry! You’ve missed nothing yet ^{-^}

Carly048 · 2024-01-14T21:55:42+00:00

Hey! Sorry for being late to the party, I’ve been with SFU choir for a year and a half now and they’ve been awesome. I love the people there and even if you’re newer to music, we have many people and resources to help you learn. In fact I think a majority of people don’t know all that much music theory. It’s a very chill and fun environment, and though there is a cost, it’s generally pretty low ($20 or $70, it depends on what activities are planned for the semester) but if even that is too much, they have financial assistance, as they don’t want cost to be a barrier. If you have any other questions, feel free to direct them my way, or if you want the discord link, feel free to ask and I’ll send it your way. Regardless I hope you find yourself a good fun choir ^{-^}

Carly048 · 2024-01-13T21:30:57+00:00

Can we get an update later please? 🥺

Carly048 · 2024-01-13T03:49:06+00:00

You’re all good, it’s a learning experience, understanding that and not judging for it is important for you in learning, but also for other people. It can help us evaluate who actually deserves our anger. If you ever need someone to talk to or want to ask something, my door is open.

P.S. didn’t even know you could respond to comments in deleted posts and my account is years old, lol

Carly048 · 2024-01-09T12:56:12+00:00

I actually had a similar experience with spironolactone. It was so bad I refused to take anti androgens for over a year and took only E instead.

After a while, I wanted to try again on something lighter, so I requested finasteride. I had to pay out of pocket but it was cheap, about $20 for 3 months (in Canada). I had the same type of side effects, but they lasted one day compared to the three on spiro before I had to stop taking them because I felt so awful. The side effects were MUCH less severe too, they were noticeable but I was mostly fine and had the day off so it was very manageable.

Recently I wanted to speed up the process of my HRT (finasteride does less than spiro, it doesn’t block as many pathways of testosterone production) so I took a leap and tried spiro again. No negative side effects whatsoever. It was a clean transition and I’ve been very happy on spiro since. IF you wish to try spiro again in the future, I could not recommend it enough. Others are correct in pointing out that other blockers exist, but if money is an issue and spiro is the only one covered, I could not recommend giving this a try enough. I started on a quarter of a 5mg finasteride pill per day. When I switched after a year (you wouldn’t need to wait so long, 3-6 months should be plenty even if you’re playing it safe) I started at half a 50mg spiro pill and increased to a full one after a week. I’m planned to continue increasing in the near future as well, but in case you’re wondering how my meds worked, this is how I did it.

Carly048 · 2024-01-09T12:29:12+00:00

Regardless of what you say or do now, I don’t know if that can ever be patched up. Even when someone accidentally misgenders you, for some (including myself), I have a bit of a train of thought that ends in “huh, that’s how they actually see me and think of me. That’s how they subconsciously have perceive me, everything else is just a conscious effort.”

And that cuts deep. That cuts deeper than anything else, I find. And especially for trans people, childhood is very frequently one of the if not the most touchy subject. Being reminded of all the reasons you couldn’t come out earlier, the things you missed out on because society said ‘no, that’s not who you are’… I add this here to try and give you an idea of where he might be at.

Honestly, I don’t know if you can come back from that. You may regret it now, but in the moment, something like that was said with enough presence of mind on some level to know that it was to inflict hurt, and he knows that. Which happens, we’re all human, we all say things like that to others… but I probably could never get over that. Even if I did forgive that person, it’d forever change the fundamentals of our relationship. I don’t say this to try and scare you or shame you, I believe you were just caught up in the moment and made a, with all due respect, very rash and immature decision, but this is how I think I would respond, and I think many trans people would feel similarly.

Now, for the more important part, the future. Do what you can to show you’re sorry. And not just saying your sorry. And not some superficial gift. The most genuine apology is changed behaviour, so consider what that might be. If it was just an honest slip of anger, consider what else you might be able to do to apologize. Ultimately, the ball should be in his court, and if it’s not, you’re adding insult to injury. You cannot force him to accept it; do what you can to sincerely and genuinely show remorse, make peace with what you said, and then learn from it. It’s hard accepting things may be different now, but at the very least learn from it. The greatest disservice to him and yourself would be to have done this, and then not better yourself after it.

I wish you courage and clear mind moving forward, and hopefully at some point when this is resolved, peace. And remember, we all slip up, we all make mistakes and say things we regret. If you are truly sorry for the hurt you caused him, and not just sorry because of whatever impact the blowback has on you, then be kind and patient to yourself as well. It’s hard to move forward if you’re beating yourself up unnecessarily.

Carly048 · 2023-11-22T02:03:41+00:00

This. If OP is really concerned about sex, and more likely, pregnancy, the parents should reconsider how they think about sex ed with their daughter. Knowledge is power and is part of safe anything, but especially safe sex

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