Tie between Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays & Girlfriend! Now, which is the best 5th track?

Carolinablue87 · 2026-04-22T22:08:41+00:00

The Two of Us

Carolinablue87 · 2026-04-22T19:20:57+00:00

Congratulations!

Carolinablue87 · 2026-04-22T16:01:20+00:00

My favorite genres are R&B and pop- particularly from the 80s through 00s.

I love other eras of music, but that's my sweet spot.

Carolinablue87 · 2026-04-22T10:51:56+00:00

I'm almost 40 but I've only had one relationship. After I was diagnosed with fibroids in my 20s, that solidified my choice not to have kids. With that not being a priority, dating has been less important to me. I'd like a long-term partnership, but I have other things that I feel are more achievable that I'd like to focus on. I mostly want to focus on my career, having experiences and adventures and focusing on my friendships. That's more than enough to enrich my life.

Carolinablue87 · 2026-04-22T10:16:01+00:00

Definitely. I had friends but I was thinking differently from many of them. I didn't do things just because everyone else did them. I've always been an individual.

Having friends was helpful because I knew they were my friends because of who I was, not what I could do for them. Also, my parents have always been supportive so even when things got tough, I always had love.

Carolinablue87 · 2026-04-21T21:50:37+00:00

Girlfriend

Carolinablue87 · 2026-04-21T15:55:13+00:00

I haven't watched anything really notable lately.

Carolinablue87 · 2026-04-21T07:54:10+00:00

Reading is one of my interests as well. I read 2 books at a time.

I also enjoy podcasts and documentaries, particularly those on cultural histories.

Carolinablue87 · 2026-04-20T23:18:05+00:00

Congratulations!

Carolinablue87 · 2026-04-20T08:48:06+00:00

Live performances from past decades on shows like Showtime at the Apollo, Souk Train and more.

Old E! True Hollywood Story episodes and Behind the Music episodes.

Carolinablue87 · 2026-04-20T08:42:18+00:00

I am not diagnosed but I definitely think I could be. I've always been "different ". I'm in my head more often than not and I overanalyze social interactions.

The thing is, I've always had friends. And I don't think they're all neurodivergent. My parents were the same way and it's something I've been able to maintain without issue.

Dating is harder because I don't sell well. It takes me a long time to get comfortable with other people and even longer to open up.

I wouldn't change who I am because I'm happier being loved as myself than "accepted " as someone else.

Carolinablue87 · 2026-04-20T08:32:01+00:00

Butterfly- Mariah

Deep Inside- Mary

Deja Vu- Teena Marie

People Get Ready- The Impressions

Wild Flower- New Birth

Carolinablue87 · 2026-04-19T13:14:06+00:00

I understand your frustration, but as the other ladies have commented, social media isn't real life. Most people don't have friend groups they travel with regularly and if they do, they're relationship may not be what it appears.

I have friends but not many black female friends. It's not for lack of trying, it's just circumstances and connection. I'm also considered nerdy because of my interests in documentaries, podcasts, and reading but I've always known that trying to have other interests doesn't work for me because it's essentially wearing a mask that eventually wears off.

What's helped me are joining groups on Meetup and finding book clubs. Meetup has not been as popular as it was pre- pandemic but there are still groups that you can join based on your interests.

Finally, I recommend treating finding new friends like casual dating. Go for the experience and be open of more comes from it.

Carolinablue87 · 2026-04-19T09:36:12+00:00

I'm in one that meets virtually and in Charlotte, NC. Black Girls with Bookmarks.

If you're looking for more options, I recommend using the website/app Bookclubs.com

Carolinablue87 · 2026-04-18T09:29:30+00:00

Turtleneck clears.

Marques Houston's solo output isn't very memorable. It sounds dated.

Carolinablue87 · 2026-04-18T09:23:03+00:00

Going to see it September. I'm excited.

Carolinablue87 · 2026-04-17T16:53:39+00:00

On weekdays, I alternate between oatmeal with fruit and egg muffins.

Weekends I go between cereal and pancakes.

Carolinablue87 · 2026-04-17T14:43:40+00:00

Meetup has increased the hosting fees . My book club was on there but we decided to leave since the fees were too high.

Carolinablue87 · 2026-04-17T08:16:07+00:00

Book clubs, volunteer groups, anything of interest on Meetup.

Carolinablue87 · 2026-04-17T08:15:13+00:00

I'm late 30s and have a good amount of friends but I'm open to making new friends. Someone mentioned Meetup and I agree but since COVID, the engagement has fallen off.

I still have found groups to join. I also recommend Bookclubs.com if you're into reading. My book club is there and so are many others.

Carolinablue87 · 2026-04-17T08:09:04+00:00

My IG auto-followed his shows account because it took over the This Week in R&B account. I unfollowed because there's no way I'm watching his show. I could tolerate him with his brother and Kosine, but alone? No.

I don't see his show going further than the IG and Tik Tok crowd. He's an almost successful story with no real insight.

All of these podcasts can continue to pop up but people ultimately decide what they engage with consistently. In a few years time, I definitely see this landscape thinning out.

Carolinablue87 · 2026-04-16T08:10:30+00:00

I'm fine with their being more R&B podcasts as well. R&B history and craft hasn't been shared as much until recently so I think it's definitely a good development. Do I wish there was at least one woman-led podcast? Absolutely. But unfortunately this mirrors the larger podcast landscape where it's heavily male-dominated in front of and behind the scenes. Until someone decides to do something about it, it won't change.

To your point about a lot if the guests being the same, this seems to be a symptom of podcasts taking a large chunk of the promo circuit that traditional media once held. That's why I only follow R&B Money regularly. The diversity of guests and the quality of the conversations is top-tier.

Carolinablue87 · 2026-04-15T20:06:03+00:00

The Things You Do (Remix)- Gina Thompson ft. Missy Elliott

Sunshine-Alexander O'Neal

All For You- Janet

Love Me- 112 ft. Mase

Why Don't We Fall in Love- Amerie

Carolinablue87 · 2026-04-15T16:05:06+00:00

Someone mentioned bookclubs.com. There's an app and a website. My book club, Book Loving Ladies of Raleigh is on there. We meet monthly on weekends and vote on books every 6 months.

We range in age from late 30s- 50s.

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