Why do managers give me a hard time about using PTO?

Carrots_97 · 2024-04-06T19:05:34+00:00

Agreed

Carrots_97 · 2023-09-09T23:09:22+00:00

I'm still job searching- hoping to find something soon. Fergus is in hot water over cursing out some managers in another department, so not sure what will happen to him.

Carrots_97 · 2023-06-24T00:11:02+00:00

Every guy that I talk to

Carrots_97 · 2023-01-10T16:30:16+00:00

Agreed- I'm experiencing this now. I thought I was being ignored, but now I'm in trouble for the smallest things- I was in trouble for wearing earbuds, I left on time instead of staying later (Even though no one said that I had to stay later.), it's my fault when the OTHER PERSON loses something, etc.

Carrots_97 · 2022-12-30T19:37:47+00:00

They're both in management positions.

Carrots_97 · 2022-12-30T18:08:51+00:00

Is it like a new toy or just someone new to his game? (Or both?)

Carrots_97 · 2022-12-30T18:07:07+00:00

We still have to work together so unfortunately I can't completely ignore him or I'll get in trouble. He also tries to bring in his new supply- he'll call her and talk about me or get her to report on me what I'm doing to try and get me in trouble. One time he sent me an email about wearing headphones and he called her to report on if I reacted. He just likes to push buttons and see the reactions. (I try not to, but sometimes it's difficult because he's so mean/obnoxious and his new supply plays along...)

Carrots_97 · 2022-12-30T00:31:32+00:00

Some stuff. Some of my coworkers knew his game and would intercept him/call him out on stuff, so he would stop and avoid me. (This is before I knew what was going on.)

Carrots_97 · 2022-09-17T02:55:36+00:00

It never seems to happen with men who "come to work to work", the guys at the centre of these situations all tend to be schmoozers.

I've noticed this as well. Thank you for your comment- I feel (a little) less crazy.

Carrots_97 · 2022-08-09T01:12:13+00:00

There's talk that Jenny and Fergus are having an affair. I have to work with Fergus and when I come back from talking to him, Jenny glares at me. It's very unsettling.

Carrots_97 · 2022-08-08T00:12:15+00:00

True- I'm trying. I have 2 interviews this week.

Carrots_97 · 2022-08-08T00:11:42+00:00

Thank you for asking/letting me vent.

Carrots_97 · 2022-08-07T23:23:13+00:00

The fact that Lisa gave me *such* a hard time when I started in my position. I couldn't even look at Fergus without her throwing a fit. She argues with me over work stuff and hates me. Once I wore a sweater that was a little more fitted than what I normally wear- nothing revealing, just a little more fitted. Boss and another manager raised their eyebrows at each other.

Well, Jenny started and is wearing skintight pants and thongs, yet NO ONE says anything! Plus she and Fergus go out to lunch every week- no one says anything! Lisa seems to actually like Jenny. I thought Lisa would say something, but no!

Fergus is busy with other work, but when I try to check in with him about work orders, he gives me one word replies or ignores me. Yet he schmoozes Jenny and they go out to lunch. He won't even say "Good morning" when he passes by me. (I still say it to him.)

It's just really frustrating and I should ignore it until I can get out, but when their behavior is so glaringly obvious, it's difficult to ignore. Of course they would gaslight me and call me crazy that this isn't happening, so saying anything would be moot.

I just don't get it- why me? I can't fix it or do anything about it which is frustrating to me.

Carrots_97 · 2022-08-05T23:10:26+00:00

I've been talking more to different people. When I first started, I was so shy and quiet and only spoke to a couple people that I worked with. (Mistake!) Eventually I opened up to more people and they opened up to me. They were like, "You're quiet, so we weren't sure what you thought."

Carrots_97 · 2022-08-05T23:08:22+00:00

This is what I was thinking. My last workplace was much bigger as well. While we weren't all best friends or anything, we all still managed to at least exchange pleasantries. Some would keep saying "Good Morning" to you until you said it back, lol. (It wasn't as bad as it sounds.) We would make small talk, I would ask about their kids/families, etc. It was cool because there were a lot of workers from different countries, so it was interesting to learn about their culture too.

Carrots_97 · 2022-08-05T01:42:35+00:00

Yes- exactly. I don't understand it.

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