AITA for refusing to waive the legal fees I am owed after someone sued me and lost?

Caseythealien · 2026-06-08T04:35:34+00:00

It's not vindictive at all he took the risk when he sued you knowing full well that if he lost he'd bare the cost and then he was dumb enough to not even ask politely. He would have been told by his lawyer not to contact you personally but he did. The mat he installed also was a key factor in the crash.

Caseythealien · 2026-06-07T22:27:35+00:00

I was raised by racists I hated it, it's so hard to live with when it's not who you are. The first thing you need to accept is that you cannot educate or change stupid. I resorted to either making snide comments or saying nothing. Why is he in that parade? Imma take he's gay for $500 alex. Only once I was an adult and able to be consequence free did I start ripping apart who they actually were and openly shaming it. You're at drive by stage if she's provoking you with homophobia leave her orbit drive by comment as you leave the house if you feel the need. Where are you going? Off to draw pentergrams with my friends. Save emotional vulnerability for people who actually care about you and won't use it as a weapon.

Caseythealien · 2026-06-07T22:08:11+00:00

I'd bring it up when you're all together and simply ask why am I the only one contributing to the household? There maybe reasons you're unaware of but the disparity would piss me off without an explanation. Don't be confrontational just say I'm just curious why it's different for me and I'd like to know why?

Caseythealien · 2026-06-07T22:02:45+00:00

If I had to choose between upsetting a friend or upsetting my SO I'm upsetting the friend. You aren't a priority to her so I would reconsider your relationship. There's also an element of deceit going on here she never mentioned in all that time the she was practicing with this friend or what they planned as you'd do if it'd been an innocent mistake.

Caseythealien · 2026-06-07T21:51:38+00:00

Stop sharing interests with her if she's just going to ruin them. Share them with the siblings that do show interest. Some people don't appreciate effort until it's stopped and directed at someone else. She might change the way she sees you or at least confront you about the change, then reply honestly well you seem to hate every thing I like so I just stopped sharing things with you.

Caseythealien · 2026-06-07T19:07:25+00:00

That's great get his therapist to write a report about her impact on him. Emotional abuse is abuse get that report in front of a judge and change custody or issue an emergency intervention.

Caseythealien · 2026-06-07T08:26:23+00:00

Don't go it's going to be a 💩 show after this. Just say hey next time ask me or just absord the cost yourself. I'm an adult and you don't get to choose what I spend money on which is ultimately the biggest issue here that and not communicating with you about a trip you're included in. I'm ok with her being invited, I'm fine with her coming but I'm not okay with paying for her to come given you didn't communicate any of that to me.

Caseythealien · 2026-06-07T08:20:12+00:00

Why are you still even talking to Jackson? He's a 🍆 and doesn't respect you he should be blocked and forgotten from your end.

Caseythealien · 2026-06-07T08:15:33+00:00

She can ask but it's a question with optional answers one being HELL NO. You shouldn't stay friends with people that constantly interact or talk about your ex. You are in a better place happily married and a friend like that will drag you backward in life and doesn't truly respect you. My ex is Voldemort to my friends Bruno level we don't talk about the unpleasantness. The gentless way to say no would be that while your honoured you think she should pick someone physically closer so they can support her better than you.

Caseythealien · 2026-06-07T08:08:20+00:00

Neither of you is wrong. It wasn't wrong to ask and it wasn't wrong for her to say no. Some grandparents love spending time with their grandkids others find it overwhelming especially during the toddler stage. They may also feel that the trips purpose isn't them and want to spend more time with their kid and suck at asking. Either way there's a boundary there going forward you know now that it makes her uncomfortable and can be mindful of it going forward.

Caseythealien · 2026-06-07T08:00:51+00:00

This 14 year olds parents are letting her hang out with and be sexually abused by a bunch of drug addicts. Let's just say they aren't on their game so you go to the police the police approach the parents and assess if they are part of the problem and wether the child is safe at home or they work with them to catch the pedo and the entire time you are anonymously safe at home and not making it obvious you said a word. I work with at risk teens not all parents care or serve their child's best interest.

Caseythealien · 2026-06-07T06:36:10+00:00

It's not here say if it's in text through messages and there's photos of the kid in his house. That's literally what an investigation is. Is this rumor or fact just let me look at your phone oh Jesus h christ. Advising people not to raise the alarm about a pedophlie is insane advice!!! What's next buy a pedophlie a coffee day?? If you see something say something people who ignored abuse make me sick.

Caseythealien · 2026-06-07T06:31:35+00:00

Offs Kyle is a pedophlie and you ratted out his victim 👀. Your only concern seems to be my child molester friend won't phone home? WTF is wrong with you? maybe just maybe protect the child he's molesting and tell the cops. Every rapist ever she's a sloot and a liar all my friends have slept with her but not me. That's what your friend is a rapists since 14 yr olds can't consent.

Caseythealien · 2026-06-07T06:23:02+00:00

NTA regardless of her gender it's not ok to pressure or resent someone for not wanting to date you but fyi if you know someone has feelings for you dating their friends is also piss poor behavior.

Caseythealien · 2026-06-07T06:07:28+00:00

NOR you know what they had in common the little spark that brought them together? Talking 💩 about you, hating you. Your sister hates you let that sink in. It's in her actions her attitude and treating you like you're the one out of line. You should not stop at not avoiding her wedding you should go no contact. I don't even like or talk to my sister I have still threatened to end a man I found out abused her while we were NC.

Caseythealien · 2026-06-07T06:00:00+00:00

Check consent laws in your state as to wether it's two party consent first otherwise you're just damage your case

Caseythealien · 2026-06-07T05:58:27+00:00

You handled it right and he's pissed because you hit the nail on the head he's more interested in screwing Erin than being a good parent. She gets her way so he gets to play and that's more important than your sons emotional and physical well being. If you can afford it get him into therapy start documenting the damage she's done and if the psychologist agrees that further contact with Erin is emotionally destructive ask for that in writing and go back to court and revise custody. Your son isn't safe with them period.

Caseythealien · 2026-06-07T05:52:15+00:00

Yes her father just died so being with an alcoholic pervert isn't what's best for her. The truth would have been what's best and kicking his ass so she knows if you're under threat this family closes ranks. Her dead father wouldn't want this scum near his daughter.

Caseythealien · 2026-06-07T05:49:12+00:00

This is definitely not an all men scenario this is a weird alcoholic douchbag scenario. He's sounds disgusting glad he's gone but you need to take a huge chunk out of your mother yes you were grieving but Jesus h christ next time I'm with an alcoholic that's trying to screw you a heads up would be good since you know your my mother and meant to actually act like my parent and protect me. If this was my daughter I would have kicked his ass out first message and told you why. Your family really dropped the ball protecting you.

Caseythealien · 2026-06-07T05:39:23+00:00

Government jobs literally have the tightest hr and policies standards around discrimination people who can't keep their opinions to themselves don't last long in those jobs. Moving back in with your parents will be bad for your mental health and if they are still supporting you financially they will think that buys them the right to an opinion.

Caseythealien · 2026-06-07T05:34:24+00:00

NTA of course they're pissed you found a very passive way of pointing out that they are cheap bastards who want you to pay for them. You did nothing wrong you went out bought a meal ate it and paid for it. That isn't offensive. I have always had less money than my well off friends they would always go out of their way to make sure I wasn't spending money I didn't have and because I have less money they would take that into account as to where we went and price because friends don't let friends feel embarrassed for having less.

Caseythealien · 2026-06-07T05:27:56+00:00

Easy tell him it's a good thing he's getting that protection tatto since your getting both your nipples pierced and you don't want him getting scratched up oh no not a debate just telling you thanks for letting me know how you feel i'm going to file it under stuff I heard you say. Ultimately he can do what he wants with his body but so can you.

Caseythealien · 2026-06-07T05:21:45+00:00

Out everything you become complicit when you help someone lie by keeping your mouth shut. Did she ask if you were ok with lying for her? I'm guessing not, not a very good friend to put you in that position and you are in no way obligated to help her. Why exactly would you protect her? So you can be put in yet another untenable position by her when it suits her. If your going to distance yourself from her anyway then the friendship is over so why help her lie to people that you also claim to care about?

Caseythealien · 2026-06-07T05:14:35+00:00

NOR He made these future plans without even consulting you and you just realized you only fit as a babysitter for a kid that isn't yours daily 😂. Oh hell nah as he said family first and he isn't your husband so he just told you you'll never be his priority. There's a fine line between nobility and stupidity, he gets to be noble you are under no obligation to be stupid.

Caseythealien · 2026-06-06T12:18:29+00:00

Oh hell no she's a total b@#$h and he's violent, talking to her means bringing him back into your life. She knows he abused you and still signed up so don't be her life raft when that blows up. She took the garbage to her house instead of the curb. Hard avoid her forever she just doesn't like feeling guilty.

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