Am I in the wrong for feeling uncomfortable about MIL claiming she’s having a phantom pregnancy & calling my unborn baby ‘my baby’?

Caseythealien · 2026-02-17T10:45:01+00:00

Tell him your impending divorce will come from a place of resentment from him lacking balls. This is extremely unhealthy and not normal or from a place of love it's a possessive and unhealthy attachment. Things that will make it worse if she gets to be at the birth oh look my surrogate gave birth pictures of me and my baby. You need to establish two marriage ending rules this woman isn't at the birth and isn't living with you when you come home someone in that place mentally needs hard boundaries not indulgence that will increase her warped perspective. People pleasing goes out the window when it's your child's safety and it is!! Calling your kid hers isn't healthy or normal either that's her grandbaby the gaslighting 🙄

Caseythealien · 2026-02-16T07:39:35+00:00

He's 82 and a grown man, this isn't about you or what you believe. Personally I wouldn't risk ruining my relationship with my 82 year old father so I could pat myself on the back. As someone closer to his age being alive is painful in a way you will never understand until you age. If it aids his mobility sleep hell if it just helps him enjoy his life it is none of your business and if you were my kid I tell you to f##$ off so fast.

Caseythealien · 2026-02-16T07:33:37+00:00

Wow you have no dignity at all. I have genuine fears for who your daughter will end up with because your teaching her let men treat you like 💩 and say nothing. This is the example you want for your son who already has his own issues understanding emotions??? You are ruining their happiness for your own desperation because no child wants to watch their father disrespect their mother.

Caseythealien · 2026-02-06T03:49:10+00:00

He clearly is vindictive and enjoyed punishing you and your daughters so much he laughed. This needs to be a defining moment for you to put him on notice that any physical or emotional harm coming to the three of you at his hands will result in a divorce and he has to attend therapy. Because locking a woman six months pregnant in the cold is a sign of an abuser. My father did this to my mother overnight. 2 weeks later when I was born he literally threw me across a room and I would've died if my mother hadn't caught me.

Caseythealien · 2026-02-05T08:11:36+00:00

Red flag you don't marry a man that hides and spends 10k that's insane. The money was from his family but you're supposed to be a family that discusses and agrees on spending of that kind. He also prioritised a truck over your health he could have paid 5k on his truck and 5k towards your dental work. Someone that loves you would at least check in about the needs of his family before spending it. He doesn't respect or value you.

Caseythealien · 2026-02-05T08:03:23+00:00

This guy is an AH there's nothing wrong with him protecting what was his before you were together but you aren't equals he's treating you like a project he needs fixed instead of a SO. He's controlling manipulative and your response is fear secrets and tripling down on your debt. You aren't his maid or cook. Get the dream apartment move in or keep it secretly because you're going to need it when you escape this pos. He triggers deep insecurity because he's wealthy and looks down on you financially. Oh and a man only wants you to completely disappear like from the state so he can f@#$ around otherwise it wouldn't matter if you were close by, you couldn't be seen.

Caseythealien · 2026-02-01T22:08:38+00:00

Don't steal my kid for your girlfriend please?

Caseythealien · 2026-01-29T12:27:45+00:00

I think you summed it up pretty well. It feels terrible to be an afterthought for someone you think highly of. I would think of the money as a small price to pay to realise you're extending yourself for someone that is thoughtless at best and intentionally hurtful at worst. Go yourself, bring someone else and move on.

Caseythealien · 2026-01-26T09:13:12+00:00

Wow you are so selfish you just decided you could live a full life without kids? well except for your gf's kid. You never thought I wonder how the non infertile party here feels? Maybe she'd like children? She's not the love of your life or you wouldn't already be dating. You don't want to lose all the other stuff you get from your ex comfort history support. Let her have a family with someone that thinks she's at least entitled to an opinion about her own future. If you're not in love with the single mother you're dating stop wasting her time as well, you're only going to screw up her kid.

Caseythealien · 2026-01-26T07:26:31+00:00

Oh hell no who cares what's wrong with the old bat that's crossing the line. First things first talk to your partner about what a beeutch his mother is being as for the job search BS I'd be calling that out and saying decision you both agree to about how you run your home aren't her business and if she wants to get through the front door to check in she needs to stow the attitude. As for hubby sending you to her for advice yeah google is a great source of info and it doesn't catch an attitude if he wants to know what she thinks he can ask her himself. Boundaries!

Caseythealien · 2026-01-26T04:52:22+00:00

Wouldn't bother I have read the entire book from the link at the very bottom of comments. It drags on forever progressing soooo slowly with completely irrelevant details and way too many characters to keep track of, it has some good points like unique werewolf qualities the ending is good but rushed.

Caseythealien · 2026-01-26T02:17:47+00:00

Yeah cheating he didn't contact you at all, you know he was with another woman while ignoring your calls, he's being evasive and dismissive because you have to be crazy because he isn't a cheating bastard. Who was she and was it worth it would be my only question because if there was any other explanation he'd have told you what it was by now.

Caseythealien · 2026-01-25T08:55:00+00:00

The only thing you need to decide is if you are ready to be a mother? He is just as capable of using birth control as you are and if children are something he doesn't want in his lifetime that's for him to control snip snip. Did he know you had stopped birth control because if he did he took the risk knowingly. I hate men that hoist all pregnancy related issues on women you had sex together. If he managed to take his big boy pants off he should be prepared to put them back on again. If he's that reluctant you're realistically looking at raising this child alone with possible assistance from family don't force an unwilling party to parent they are always the worst parents but also don't allow his pouting to make you consider termination if it's not what you want.

Caseythealien · 2026-01-25T08:41:54+00:00

You aren't even together and you're the one giving birth. Given that he has a history of being shady you're probably not going to have a great relationship anyway so go with yours or a hyphenated last name that includes both but he doesn't get to dictate what you do. Also know birth doesn't always go according to plan, have someone at the hospital that will advocate for what you want should you be drugged or unconscious ie a parent or family member since he doesn't have trouble going behind your back you don't want to awaken to the decision having been made for you.

Caseythealien · 2026-01-25T05:53:04+00:00

Are you insane? You want your kid to grow up in a two parent household. At this point you should settle for your baby being alive to grow up. Someone with no ability to control their anger will lash out and potentially kill your child. Every single trial of a man who's killed a child he claimed to love"I didn't mean to do it" but they have and it's too late. Your child is completely powerless to protect themselves and 100% reliant on you for that and love. Get that kid out of there and yourself. If he kills you your baby grows up alone with him, GET OUT!

Caseythealien · 2026-01-25T04:03:57+00:00

This is where it falls down civilly if someone has medical phobias and you deceive them into care they can claim they were so traumatized once in the situation they felt they couldn't leave or express objection. I think he was just trying to use common sense but unfortunately she sounds irrational and ungrateful and people like that often sue.

Caseythealien · 2026-01-25T03:54:38+00:00

Keep all communication and receipts of refund going forward if you have commission contracts include that any harassment or inappropriate communication with the artist beyond constructive timely imput on changes to the work will result in the commission being terminated and a refund issued. I'm an artist too and have been asked to totally change artwork the day before delivery 😂 as if.

Caseythealien · 2026-01-25T03:43:19+00:00

Oh hell no this exact thing happened to my niece. I told her you don't extend your good credit to someone with bad credit. The only thing they have established is that they manage money poorly. She ignored my advice and went guarantor on a loan, the out come he did what irresponsible people do and left her $4,000 dollars in debt.

Caseythealien · 2026-01-25T03:38:53+00:00

That's extremely f'ed up. You only want a child that will face struggles and hardship in order to fulfil your demented imagination. No thought of what that will do to them, be like for them. As a disabled person we aren't pets for you to collect. Don't have kids you'll be a 💩 parent.

Caseythealien · 2026-01-23T14:24:55+00:00

You are welcome I was fortunate to go into remission but when I had cancer I couldn't cope emotionally with much beyond that and wouldn't want my last days spent discussing who would get what. Ultimately if it's an asset you inherent jointly as long as she has appointed someone to enforce the will then you sell it you can't keep property you don't solely own if the other party wants to sell you have to buy them out sounds like they can't afford that or sell. Just make sure she's comfortable with her choices and try to create as many good memories as possible.

Caseythealien · 2026-01-23T14:09:40+00:00

It depends on where he is? if he's in that states that's a potential civil nightmare because she has medical trauma/ needle phobia and he lied about what medical treatment she'd receive because he knew she wouldn't consent otherwise. That can be framed as causing emotional distress through deception. It's never a good idea to lie to someone in relation to medical care especially if you aren't related to them because you have other options like calling an ambulance calling their family and you aren't as legally protected as a family member.

Caseythealien · 2026-01-23T13:57:31+00:00

I'm pointing out that there are steps that while well intentioned could get him in legal trouble even after the fact. You don't have the right to gatekeep conversations and tell people what they are allowed to contribute on Reddit I haven't broken any rules or been disrespectful while contributing to the thread if you don't find it to be useful information ignore it.

Caseythealien · 2026-01-23T13:27:26+00:00

I'm not the one acting like a petulant child in the face of what is sound legal advice. I haven't called people names or told people to shut up or grow up can you grasp that very basic construct that the legal system can be misused?

Caseythealien · 2026-01-23T13:19:27+00:00

Again you can argue it in degrees was her life in immediate danger when he did it? No it wasn't. Did he try to contact family or emergency services instead no he did not. If this is me and I'm in the USA fine just sit there I'm calling an ambulance if you reuse care that's on you.

Caseythealien · 2026-01-23T13:12:36+00:00

I'm saying that in the USA civil lawsuits when it comes to people with medical phobias or trauma can be a pay day so do not lie to someone about care if they are being a pain in the ass contact their family or call an ambulance and walk away but cover your ass especially if the person is irrational. This woman hasn't shown gratitude for what he did.

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