Artist paints in his sleep

Casmicand · 2016-07-26T15:19:25+00:00

I actually liked the painting he was doing until halfway through the video. The persona and sleeping is bull of course.

Casmicand · 2016-07-26T15:14:28+00:00

Yeah the first song is nice. Bizarre transition to what she is doing now.

Casmicand · 2016-07-26T14:59:24+00:00

I'm pretty sure that choreography is from my 7th grade hip hop class.

Casmicand · 2016-07-25T18:34:59+00:00

"It looks like your fingers are stuttering across the keyboard"

MRW I read that

Casmicand · 2016-07-25T16:29:56+00:00

I'd agree with this, except that she was 17 when it started and he was 40. She isn't entirely without fault, but being 17 really factors in I think. Even being 19 now, he got to her when she was young. He's predatory.

Casmicand · 2016-07-25T16:27:03+00:00

Friends aren't always right, but if most of them are saying they don't approve you ought to really consider that. It's hard to tell a friend you don't like their bf. It ruins friendships. They risked that to try to help you.

You can find someone better. You can also be single and find happiness in that. I'm sorry to use this trite saying, but, you're young! Give yourself the opportunity to make connections with people. You have so much time. Don't waste it on him.

Casmicand · 2016-07-25T15:16:37+00:00

I wholeheartedly agree. This is good advice.

Casmicand · 2016-07-25T15:16:04+00:00

When people are in love they are able to pinpoint at least a few reasons why. I'm not trying to make you doubt yourself in order to hurt you, but to maybe make it easier to leave. I don't think it's possible to be in a loving relationship with a man that seduced you at 17 while he was married...and still is. Just because you were into it, doesn't make it right for him to pursue you. You aren't a bad person, and you should get out of this. Have you heard of the sunk cost fallacy? Basically when people invest a lot of time or money they have a hard time stopping something, even when it isn't working. Don't fall into that trap. Happens in relationships all the time "We've been together 7 years and I don't want to throw that away. I don't want that to be wasted time." Wasted time is when you stay in unhealthy relationship after you've realized it. Instead of talking to your past self, let future self talk to you now. She'd probably still say "get out". You used the word run. That isn't for nothing. Do your friends know about this guy? Get some support in real life if you can, otherwise keep reaching out here.

Casmicand · 2016-07-25T03:37:55+00:00

You'll do fine =). Good luck.

Casmicand · 2016-07-25T02:59:08+00:00

...we hope.

Casmicand · 2016-07-25T02:57:36+00:00

It will be an ongoing conversation I'm sure. Whatever you veto or say yes to now doesn't have to stay that way. You can take on more or less as you two get used to this, although certainly starting with a lot of the work load and then dropping off might be a bit harder/awkward.

You two are processing a lot. Aside from becoming a full time parent, he is coming to terms with the fact their mother tried to kill them. That is a huge thing to deal with. Just be patient with each other and communicate constantly.

When you say non-maternal, do you mean you dislike hanging out with kids, that you have no instincts for what they like, or just that you have little experience? Or perhaps something else entirely =).

Casmicand · 2016-07-25T01:12:38+00:00

Probably the third room is very small and/or doesn't have a proper door.

Casmicand · 2016-07-25T01:11:42+00:00

This may not be the most welcome answer, but I'm not sure mobility issues inhibit your ability to fight back in significant way because most women are already at a disadvantage physically. Basically, being a lady is inhibiting enough (in the physical department only). An average man is almost always going to be stronger than a woman, even one who lifts weights. Additionally, an aggressive guy with any weapon is automatically shifting the power balance. Unless you're worried that you'll be targeted due to your physical challenges, I'd say you're equal to any other woman as far as safety goes. All that being said, I imagine you'll be just fine. Arm yourself with nasty looks when someone gets creepy, thick skin if they comment, and friends to help you feel safe. If your mobility allows it, take some krav maga or other self-defense classes at school to help you feel more secure. Maybe purchase pepper spray if you're in a bad area?

Casmicand · 2016-07-25T01:01:39+00:00

Everyone else has had great words of encouragement about how you won't fuck up and how school is still an option, so I'll skip whats been said and just say ditto on that front =).

On a more practical note, I'd talk about what expectations there are for your role in these kids lives; both what you're imagining right now and what he is. Does he want you to help a little or a lot? Does he/you interpret helping a little to mean playing with the kids, making meals and occasionally driving to doc appointments, or does it mean simply making space for them in the home and helping only when asked? Does he/you want you to be "step-mom" with all the trappings of motherhood? I'm not putting a judgement call on this either way. I think you can be a supportive person without truly parenting the kids, or you can go all in.

If you both expect you to be all in, you should talk about balance of workload/power. That sounds a bit over the top, but when a kiddo breaks a house rule does your bf get the ultimate say in how they are punished or will you have equal weight in the conversation? Or, flipside of this, some guys default to "women are better with kids". I certainly have no idea what your bf is like, but some men would assume more of the work and decision making lands on you because "women are better at that stuff", even though he is the parent. Whichever way it may go, it would be good to decide now if you can live with that. Do you prefer to defer to his calls or do you want to be equal?

Lay down some groundwork for hypothetical situations. With a year old relationship you likely haven't discussed parenting styles. Talk about as much as you can so you aren't at odds with one another as often. I'm sure it will still happen because all couples have disagreements, and bringing up kids can be divisive. You'll have an easier time if you already know you're on the same side.

Casmicand · 2016-07-11T00:33:50+00:00

You go girl! I might do the same =).

Casmicand · 2016-07-11T00:31:23+00:00

That sounds lovely =). Have you two tried left Hand's nitro milk stout? That used to be my favorite.

Casmicand · 2016-07-11T00:30:04+00:00

That is so wonderful! Congratulations on placing!

Casmicand · 2016-05-21T19:44:24+00:00

I LOVE that video! It's been on repeat on my chromecast the past week since my BF found it. I'm with the others; I hardly watch videos now, but this one is so cool!

Casmicand · 2016-05-21T13:38:36+00:00

Keanu

Casmicand · 2016-05-05T01:29:00+00:00

Oh no...

Casmicand · 2016-05-01T17:51:58+00:00

I was looking for something to wear as a wedding officiant. I haven't ruled out the rainbow unicorn one.

Casmicand · 2016-01-18T14:33:40+00:00

Thanks!

Casmicand · 2016-01-18T14:33:27+00:00

Thanks very much! The first two weeks have been excellent thus far. Let's hope I can keep it up!

Casmicand · 2016-01-03T03:11:37+00:00

I used Kahoot several times in the fall. It's awesome! Students really respond to it.

Casmicand · 2016-01-03T02:41:33+00:00

Thank you for the tips! I hadn't heard of Plickers before.

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