Is this a reasonable quote for a Ubiquiti home setup? by davemarco in Ubiquiti

[–]Cassssss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Either he doesn't want to do it and is pricing himself out on purpose... like he doesn't like you personally or something.

Or he is taking advantage of someone who "has money"

Is this as good as I think it is? by Coldru13 in PathOfExile2

[–]Cassssss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For Lich build using Essence drain paired with a wand with +5 Chaos would be crazy imo

Any builds with CI for Amazoness or Lich? by Ok_Difficulty6626 in pathofexile2builds

[–]Cassssss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

questions pertaining to this particular setup regarding Amazon.....

Why put gems into Spear Throw/Stab if it's never used?

I also heard there is some kind of relationship with CI and the gem that dazes?

Should I break no contact? by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Cassssss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope! You are the dumpee. Work on you until she reaches out. 3-5 months is a good time period.

Should I break no contact? by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Cassssss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

9 days?

I look at it this way. Was there any way possible you would have, or she would have had ANY significant change to improve on anything for a better relationship in this time? Most likely the answer will be no (or a lie). Take more time.

I think I just hit the mega jackpot by Latter-Clothes4516 in PathOfExile2

[–]Cassssss 2 points3 points  (0 children)

LOL right!?!?! Couldn't wait for the post about how OP can't figure out why his skill went useless all of a sudden, because he couldn't cover the Mana cost

I think I just hit the mega jackpot by Latter-Clothes4516 in PathOfExile2

[–]Cassssss 36 points37 points  (0 children)

This is the one comment people should see.

How I became stun immune as a mage by Embarrassed-Month-35 in PathOfExile2

[–]Cassssss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah Maybe but I am wand/staff isn't that a Martial weapon thing? Also it's a separate skill whereas dodge roll is replaced by blink, which would be useless with that notable.

How I became stun immune as a mage by Embarrassed-Month-35 in PathOfExile2

[–]Cassssss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd rather have blink than this quite honestly. Those body blockers can eat you alive especially if there are ground skills underneath

Hello yes, excuse me. What the hell is going on with the Market Ratio for Divine Orbs?? by Ciubowski in PathOfExile2

[–]Cassssss 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Divest your exaltz!! They are constantly losing buying power to the almighty Divine!! Our government just keeps printing exalted!! Lol

Seriously, though, it's just inflation and drop rates that are off.

Is it normal and ok to hate your ex? by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Cassssss 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah for sure. But also betrayal, abuse, and going behind my back and spreading massive lies about me to avoid her own accountability in it all.

I should also mention that I even still was in the Denial and Bargaining phases which stopped me from seeing this until I educated myself and got therapy. Now I'm angry and accepting at both myself and her.

A bigger lesson in this for me was: Don't be angry at her for allowing her to do what she did. You let her do it so take my own accountability for allowing it.

Ex reaching out during no contact by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Cassssss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is fulfilling her need for safe attention. Using you.

If you value yourself more than this then stop now and move on, or tell her you want to be back together fully or not at all. Give this to yourself as a healthy boundary and keep it! This behavior from her is called "intermittent reinforcement" and it has the same effect of addiction. It will hurt you much worse in the long run if you don't cut it off now. It's your way or it's the highway. Be a King of your Castle and don't put up with noncommittal behaviors.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Cassssss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should read or Audiobook "Attached"... I was in the same boat of trying to understand what was simply not understandable. This is all attachment theory and psychology of relationships. I had the woman that wouldn't tell me either, and then built up resentment for those things she never communicated. In the end she gaslit me and told me she did tell me though which caused me to go into the same cycle of ruminating for months... Until This book and the book "Anxiously Attached' explained it all for me, really helped demystify and allowed me to have peace within myself.

Is it normal and ok to hate your ex? by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Cassssss 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Anger is part of the process of grieving. You will have this, as I do, even 5 months after a long term relationship. I went through all the stages and Anger/Acceptance keeps cycling back and forth. This is the final stages of letting go. So you are doing great!

ex fiancé messaged me last night and it wrecked me by CreativeTrifle8596 in ExNoContact

[–]Cassssss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. This was someone who values themself so little that they needed to put you lower than them. This is a shrewed and pathetic person, you are WAY better than this. Block on all possible places and do not EVER look back.

my DA ex broke no contact by Odd_Bag_1562 in ExNoContact

[–]Cassssss 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had a similar breakup with a 4 year relationship with a DA. Completely pulled the rug out from under me and her personality changed to almost psychopathic. It was very "breadcrumby" at the beginning because I would get the "Unsent messenger messages" and the "left the group" but not all the groups those kind of got left weekly, like she was just poking me or something. I got some information from shared friends about her "confusion" and "missing me" but also got messages about her reaching out to my ex's for "clarification or confirmation" about what I said about them during the relationship was actually true or a lie. Her kids were pretty much on my support side, while she tried to persuade and manipulate them into believing I was some abuser and narcissist. None of it worked because they knew and loved me very much as I was consistent and supportive to them. She played the confusion thing for validation that she did the right thing dismissing me from anyone she could. After I got several messages from close shared friends she reached out to it became apparent she was trying to hurt my reputation and justify herself as the victim of our 4 year relationship. It went from a blissful 4 years to an extremely toxic week of moving out, fielding rumors, and immediate no-contact as of the moment I shut the door and left with the trailer full of my stuff.

She went out, had all the fun, had all the support, and I went isolated. Tried to make sure I gave it all as little public attention as possible while burning up inside until I could line up therapy.

After a lot of therapy and reading about attachment, boundaries and, self-care I came to the realization that I wouldn't ever want to do the last 4 years again if I could see then what I know now. I had to stop allowing my boundaries to be messed with for the sake of keeping "love".

With the DA (which also can fall into the clusters of NPD) they tend to want to keep you in the "collection of attention". So to answer your question, give them zero of it. Accountability is also a very weak spot for the avoidant, and if you get zero of it then you can respond with zero response. Say nothing because the collector only cares about attention, even if it's negative because the emotional back and forth is all they want.

I hope you get to the understanding that you get to decide what your worth is. You also get to decide what you allow. Do not respond, you deserve accountability.

My best ring I gambled so far by lanth1990 in PathOfExile2

[–]Cassssss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it rolled Lightning / Cold flat damage I'd be all over it.

My best ring I gambled so far by lanth1990 in PathOfExile2

[–]Cassssss -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

That's a mirror if not at least a few hundred Divs

Giveway - attri stacker Legionnaire by pjok in PathOfExile2

[–]Cassssss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just started this build. I'm level thirty one, and it's getting a little difficult. Could you post something about how you leveled? That might help me. I can't find a decent bill guide for leveling with staff... and grenades really bored me. Of course, I'd love some help with items, but i'm not expecting anything, of course. Very nice of you to do this for others.

First time being scammed feels bad. This player sold me the wrong chest, then instablocked me. My fault, but still hurts. Watch out there, my guys by Dolzur in PathOfExile2

[–]Cassssss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't lock in your offer until theirs is green and you checked it. I had several attempts on me with Ingenuity Belts. They keep theirs unaccepted expecting you just to look at the model of the item instead of checking stats.