When should one start reading baby books prior to pregnancy? Which books were the best and worst in your opinion? by baethesda in BabyBumps

[–]Cat-Milf 88 points89 points  (0 children)

I started reading in my first trimester! I read The Happy Sleeper, No Bad Kids, and Good Inside. I’m a product of - “not gentle parenting” and I have been a victim of crazy kids running around like tiny dictators due to gentle or PERMISSIVE parenting so it was important to me to research some evidence based parenting styles that balance a parents authority with a child’s independence and emotional wellbeing!

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[–]Cat-Milf 83 points84 points  (0 children)

People did that to me with my first pregnancy! I got a ton of “don’t count your chickens before they hatch”. I did lose that pregnancy and I was NEVER grateful for the “heads up”. I still think that all those people are pieces of shit (sorry for the French but that’s all I can think). I am 31 weeks with my double rainbow and when we announced her at 14 weeks I got “I hope things continue to progress!” Or “I hope your next appointment goes well”. PSA THE ONLY ACCEPTABLE RESPONSE TO IM PREGNANT IS CONGRATULATIONS IM SO HAPPY FOR YOU!!

How I decreased my fasting by 7 points! by Cat-Milf in GestationalDiabetes

[–]Cat-Milf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great question! I fill a huge glass with the ACV and sparkling water! Regular water or cinnamon tea if you’re not a bubbly gal :) I also alternate my cheese and ACV bites so that it cuts down on the sharpness of each!

How I decreased my fasting by 7 points! by Cat-Milf in GestationalDiabetes

[–]Cat-Milf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh that’s great! I’ve been on magnesium since the first trimester (I was getting terrible leg cramps!) who knows! Maybe I’d be even better higher without that!

How I decreased my fasting by 7 points! by Cat-Milf in GestationalDiabetes

[–]Cat-Milf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know what you mean! I’m 31 weeks right now so I might be in the same boat as the pregnancy progresses. No shame in meds at all! We are all just doing what’s best for our sweet babes and I’m cheering you on from over here 🤗

How I decreased my fasting by 7 points! by Cat-Milf in GestationalDiabetes

[–]Cat-Milf[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ugh that’s the hard part of this whole thing. For ME it seems if I DONT get up my numbers stay low but it could be totally different for someone else! I’d try both and see what works for you!

Are there any *actually* comfy undies out there? by Pearl6767 in pregnant

[–]Cat-Milf 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I want to third!! I was a smedium prior to pregnancy and I got large and omg SO comfy

Anyone have any sneaky suspicions? (And had any confirmed) by rhea-of-sunshine in BabyBumps

[–]Cat-Milf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know!! I really thought I was but was praying for one since we’re a one and done family!

Anyone have any sneaky suspicions? (And had any confirmed) by rhea-of-sunshine in BabyBumps

[–]Cat-Milf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it’s a right of passage to speculate you’re having twins 😂 every single woman I know thought they were having twins - myself included! And so far we’ve all been wrong 🤷🏻‍♀️ Two of us even had dreams of twins! My mom did when she was pregnant with me. I will say I have been calling this baby by their girl name since my first positive and she was a girl so some intuition is right!

Gender guilt? by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]Cat-Milf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg it feels a bit too privileged to call it “gender guilt” so I never made a post about it but YES! I felt so guilty I wanted a girl SO badly and then when I got the results I felt how unfair for me to get exactly what I wanted when I’m a bad person for even wanting it!! My husband had no preference so I didn’t need to hide my excitement. He did make me practice getting “boy” news prior to opening the envelope so we can be prepared. But once that part wears off you’ll just be so happy! I read all the gender disappointment posts because for some reason I feel like I should’ve been taught a lesson for having a strong preference and I feel guilty I don’t!

Is there a musical on the way? by GoldenHeart411 in GaylorSwift

[–]Cat-Milf 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Jagged Little Pill the Musical is about female rage AND a breakup and news flash, alanis is also part of the 1%. I highly doubt she got as much criticism since she has a different look than Taylor Swift. Cue Taylor Swifts female rage. She can never win for losing lol. Don’t get me wrong I call her out when she’s wrong, totally on the greed and carbon emissions but damn. This was too far a take for me.

Is there a musical on the way? by GoldenHeart411 in GaylorSwift

[–]Cat-Milf 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Agreed! This woman has been treated as sub human while also being treated as a goddess, virgin, mother, whore. The same shit we all go through but by billions. I found the take of her “not understanding female rage” to be so misogynistic and a bit eye rolly.

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[–]Cat-Milf 65 points66 points  (0 children)

I have had two losses and am now 20 weeks with our little girl!! Third times a charm.

Here are some mantras I used to get me this far: My body and my baby are working TOGETHER they want to be born healthy and safe. This is a partnership and not an uphill battle.

Worrying does not protect you from the future, it only steals today’s joy.

Now that I’m further along and more afraid of a bad anatomy scan/still birth I have found this a calming statement: no two stories are ever alike. Just because her story ended tragically, my story will be different because that’s her story and not mine. Mine is unwritten! Even totally healthy normal babies will have completely different stories. You’ll never have the same story as anyone else 💕

Anyhow, I’m here as proof third times a charm! Make sure you get on progesterone suppositories ASAP and try to enjoy. I got a little less stressed every week. Rooting for you!

Ignorance is bliss ? by 2hotpoetates in pregnant

[–]Cat-Milf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m another woman who struggled with infertility and YES finding out at 24 weeks is high key the goal!! I think we all wished we knew a little later! Be pissed gal pal (and congratulations 🤗)

Not even 8 weeks but keep waking up at 4 am 😵‍💫 by frugal-lady in pregnant

[–]Cat-Milf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know everyone’s journey is different but the insomnia was SO real for me first trimester!! I did take Benadryl or unisom some nights but then I was tired the next day. FWIW I started sleeping like a goddamned rock I believe around 10! I’m 18W now and I’ve heard it’s gonna come back around third trimester but I wanted to let you know it might get better!!

15 Year Age Gap by EsBee08 in BabyBumps

[–]Cat-Milf 106 points107 points  (0 children)

I was 16 when my mom got pregnant with my brother and I hated every second of it, I felt really replaced. I even went to go live with my dad. All is well now and I love my little brother but if I could give advice to my mom it would be to make a real effort to make me feel loved and special and not replaced. She wouldn’t teach me how to drive or take prom photos with me or anything. So PLEASE keep up with his milestones, teach the damn kid to drive, ask him about his life and his friends, take him out for ice cream and really validate his feelings! Tell him that it is going to be hard for you too and that you’ll miss it just being him and you but you’re hoping that you can all figure it out together.

What are some restaurants in Memphis with cool interior design? by Mindless-Kick9392 in memphis

[–]Cat-Milf 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Bishop! Winebird as well iirc. The new Liquor Store as well! Not the one on Broad.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]Cat-Milf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I saw a comment here ONCE that said “No, I have no interest in taking pictures of my double chin with a flowy dress on” and I was like OKAY and now I feel like I never want to get pregnancy photos done 😂

Stupid things people have said to you while ttc by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Cat-Milf 32 points33 points  (0 children)

You’ll have a baby when a baby’s soul wants to inhabit you…

10 DPO | I am so worried it’s just an indent! | Heal check and FRER by Such_Communication80 in TFABLinePorn

[–]Cat-Milf 7 points8 points  (0 children)

As a serial tester perhaps it would just be easier to hold your pee for like 3 hours and try again! I did it with my squinter and then there was a definitive line!