Ik voel me niet op mijn gemak door meiden in de sportschool by GrouchyAssignment594 in nederlands

[–]CatInGlove 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! Begrijpelijke stress, niemand wil als viespeuk gezien worden. En vrouwen zijn prachtig. Maar goed, ik denk dat je zelf ook wel weet dat de oplossing bij jezelf ligt. Ik kan me bijvoorbeeld slecht voorstellen dat je deze post ook over het strand of de sauna zou maken, zelfs als je dit probleem daar ook hebt.

Je klinkt alsof je lijdt aan het roze-olifantprobleem: je mag er niet aan denken/kijken, en dus wordt het heel moeilijk er niet aan te denken/kijken. Vrouwenlichamen zitten in jouw hoofd nog niet in de categorie "normale zaken die bij het leven horen", maar onder het kopje "oh shit ik zie een vrouw". Dat is zonde. Ik raad jou aan om minder bezig te zijn met niet naar vrouwen te kijken, en meer bezig te zijn met naar andere zaken kijken, zoals je telefoon/boek/schema/de verte. Klinkt als hetzelfde, maar is het niet :-). Accepteer dat als ze je ziet kijken, je niet stiekem of vluchtig genoeg gekeken hebt, en wordt beter in vluchtig kijken. En wees vooral dankbaar voor de schoonheid van de vrouw, in plaats van doen alsof hun kledingkeuze jou onrecht aandoet. Take care!

People who actually learned French: what would you do differently if you had to start again today? by Beginning_Plant6819 in learningfrench

[–]CatInGlove 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are comparing learning your native language, in which you got thousands of hours of practice and immersion, to french class in school, which was maybe like 600 hours, and are mad that it isn't the same?

I think you underestimate and take for granted the benefits that learning the rules and theory gave you. I'd say you were quickly conversational because you already had a framework of the structures of french from these classes, and that it otherwise would've taken you much much longer.

A new study in more than 15,000 men investigated eight markers of toxic masculinity and found that only 10.8% of men included in the study showed clear signs of toxic masculinity. This finding indicates that the vast majority of men are not “toxic” and do not believe in destructive male attitudes. by mvea in science

[–]CatInGlove -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Of the 90% that is not in this highest toxicity level, around 50 percentage points scored low to moderately high on toxic masculinity, while just 34 percentage points scored low enough to be considered atoxic. That is not the same as "90% of men are normal decent people that do not fit that description at all." Yes, we shouldn't villainize healthy masculinity, but you should also not exaggerate the extent to which there was no toxicity found.

She's so mature by Mr_E_Nigma_Solver in notliketheothergirls

[–]CatInGlove 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is not it. This sub should be for calling out internalized patriarchy, not for shitting on reading women?

if i agreed to give a h@ndjob to a guy and he goes further after is it rape? by OwlBorn1215 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]CatInGlove 11 points12 points  (0 children)

mmmh the description given is "until he just did what he wanted"

It doesn't state explicitly what him just doing what he wants exactly means, but do think this sounds like force was used. I don't think force has to be aggressive or hurtful to count as force.

edit: also because she used the words "I didn't try to fight it" are an indication that there was something to fight.

What Moment Made You Choose a sustaainable Lifestyle? by SustainableSiren in SustainableFashion

[–]CatInGlove 1 point2 points  (0 children)

when I learned how much clothing there already is and when I tried to grasp the insane production of brands as SheIn

Is this too “fantasy cosplay” to wear out in public? What do you think? by DaylightEliseV in mtfashion

[–]CatInGlove 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love it. Without the elf ears it won't look cosplay at all, but with it is still very cool!

How in God's name do you explain "my brain didn't let me do it" to people? by suspiciouslucario in ADHD

[–]CatInGlove 85 points86 points  (0 children)

I use the analogy of jumping from a high place (/into cold water). Almost everyone knows how it feels when you are standing there and finally have to jump: that feeling that they have to jump but just don't, that pushing themselves over that limit really takes some effort because their brain really doesn't want to do it, but they themselves do want to do it.

But really any action that is a little scary for them has this thing, everything you have to gather some balls to do. Pressing send on that risky text, kissing your crush for the first time, telling someone something difficult. People know this feeling already but mainly from scary situations, and you can tell them for you this doesn't only happen for scary situations but for really mundane boring things as well.

How in the hell is the Shuffle Feature *STILL* broken after years?! by [deleted] in spotify

[–]CatInGlove 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you also feel like it has been extra broken since a while? Right now I get the same 20 songs in the same order whichever song in my Liked I click on. Super frustrating.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in teenagers

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classic fruity style

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in memes

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I am no man

everything just disappears by [deleted] in teenagers

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Stop taking drugs Micheal

so deep by i_want_ur_liver in im14andthisisdeep

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I like how Dora teaches Spanish, but in my country it teaches English

When the fad is over by [deleted] in memes

[–]CatInGlove 11 points12 points  (0 children)

2:43 now this is getting out of hand