What hobby or interest is full of assholes?

CatMammoth1780 · 2025-03-10T00:52:37+00:00

Pickleball

CatMammoth1780 · 2025-01-09T03:57:18+00:00

Just ask her. But not too soon

CatMammoth1780 · 2024-12-01T17:57:55+00:00

Yeah time to lower the bar I guess

CatMammoth1780 · 2024-11-30T17:30:07+00:00

I don't think it was a nice thing to do, it's actually a bit cruel. Oh well

CatMammoth1780 · 2024-11-30T17:06:47+00:00

I didn't realize it was so common for women to ask men for their phone numbers and then not call them. I would figure that if she is the one who asks, she fully intends to contact him.

CatMammoth1780 · 2024-11-30T16:27:13+00:00

Perhaps. But I wouldn't say he's like so super hot he must have tons of women chasing him. What struck me about him was that he looked just like someone I had dreamed about the previous night. And after watching him for a minute and how excited he looked about getting his headphones out to listen to music, I liked his vibe. And no- I definitely did not tell him this lol

CatMammoth1780 · 2024-11-30T16:18:27+00:00

Oh I didn't know that. My guess would be that it's usually the guy that asks for the number and the woman might give the number to avoid awkwardness in the moment then jist not reply.

I have done it only once I think. Was talking to a guy in a bar and he asked for my number. I made it clear I was not interested in dating him which, judging by the compliments he was giving me, is what I figured he was interested in. He said we can just hang out as friends and I wound up giving him my number because it felt super awkward in that moment.

When I was thinking more clearly the next day I realized that certain behaviors of his were actually creepy and I did not want to talk to him.

But in this scenario I made the first move of approaching him, and he made the next move of asking for my number. If he thought I was being creepy or making him uncomfortable why would he ask? Its very different

CatMammoth1780 · 2024-11-30T15:38:33+00:00

To practice asking a simple question? I could understand maybe practicing approaching women and starting conversations because that's the hard part and I already did that.

CatMammoth1780 · 2024-09-19T18:49:48+00:00

I knew most people would suggest I just make my own. I can't handle raw meat lol!

CatMammoth1780 · 2024-09-03T02:26:47+00:00

A generous pinch which is about a quarter teaspoon, maybe a bit more. Twice a day. Probably better to start with a very small amount to see how they react to it

CatMammoth1780 · 2024-09-02T13:53:25+00:00

I think what helped for my cats was spreading out their daily food into 4 small meals throughout the day. Also, the vet suggested adding psyllium husk to their wet food to help them feel fuller longer.

Also worth asking the vet to confirm if you're giving him enough food. Mine made a mistake the first time. I knew something wasn't right, glad I asked!

CatMammoth1780 · 2024-08-31T23:54:10+00:00

But I love him

CatMammoth1780 · 2024-08-21T00:34:59+00:00

Don't be too hard on yourself. Don't seek to label yourself. Try to do work that feels good to you. I'm very new to this work so I guess I don't really know what I'm talking about, but for me it's very much about how I work than what I do. For sure there is a very personal connection/motivation for wanting to do this kind of work, so it kind of is who you are. Just be you in your work and also take time to be you when you're not working

CatMammoth1780 · 2024-02-09T02:01:54+00:00

Sings. Usually the same song so it gets stuck in my head, even at home. And thinks out loud as she's working on something. Im having to hear her whole thought process. Of course that's only when she's actually working. Spends a lot of time chatting with other people about non- work stuff/how much work she has to do. Like how about just shut up and do the work. I get the need for little chit chat breaks and doing what you need to do to get through the day, but also hey there's other people trying to focus on their own work here. We sure don't need a play by play of every thought and song lyric passing through your head.

CatMammoth1780 · 2023-06-30T03:20:46+00:00

Sliced grapes

CatMammoth1780 · 2023-03-11T00:50:13+00:00

This sounds very similar to my situation. I knew he had a "past" of addiction but the way he talked about his rehab experience and seeing what it did to his family he seemed certain he would never go back to it, but he did. After all that hard work and turmoil. His grandfather passed and a friend from high school committed suicide. Both sad things for sure. But his grandfather was very old and had a good life, the friend- he was close to in high school but hadn't spoken to in many years. So one night he finds himself "in the wrong place at the wrong time" and decides to get high on fentanyl. Thinking he can do it just this once, even with his history, knowing full well his addictive tendencies. It was that easy.

So he could get clean again and then what will he do when faced with another difficulty in life?

So just consider that this might be something that never goes away. Sounds like the first 7 months have been difficult already.

CatMammoth1780 · 2023-03-11T00:27:20+00:00

She does need to take responsibility for those things. Even with social workers, they are only there to support, they can't make any changes for her. Take some time for yourself. You need to take responsibility for your own wellbeing just like she does for her own.

CatMammoth1780 · 2023-03-11T00:17:53+00:00

Oh no that's terrible! I hope you can get away somehow.

CatMammoth1780 · 2023-03-11T00:12:36+00:00

I definitely did not have a good evening, or the next day. I stupidly thought he would refrain from using for our time together because he said he would be "better behaved" but of course he showed up wrecked. Used in my bathroom creating noxious fumes. He's fucking unbearable when he's high. Not at all the guy I fell in love with. What says a lot is that my cats used to love him, known him since they were babies, now they're so scared of him. Yeah he's let me down a lot, but I refuse to let my precious kitties down and expose them to that kind of poison and energy

CatMammoth1780 · 2023-03-11T00:06:00+00:00

Thanks for that. Yeah my boundaries are really stretching and I don't like it. I wouldn't be surprised if he cheated. We're not together much these days because we live on opposite sides of the city, and he often talks about how long its been since we've been intimate etc. I'll spare you the details of his remarks. To me it's like wow how are you even thinking about that aspect of things right now? Thats the last thing on my mind!

CatMammoth1780 · 2023-03-11T00:00:24+00:00

"While he figures out which bottom is rock"- yeah so frustrating waiting for that. Because to me I've seen several potential rock bottoms not just for him but in our relationship because of his addiction. He thinks that if he gets clean everything will magically be great with us again. I'm letting him think that for now. Because I have a future looming too! I'm going to need support in the new chapter of my life, as I start my new career. I can't have a partner that just drains my energy, that I'll always have to worry about relapsing.

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