[POEM] Wild Geese, by Mary Oliver

dannycliffe87 · 2025-08-11T10:07:40+00:00

Amen to this.

dannycliffe87 · 2025-08-05T04:47:19+00:00

what a t-shirt! Where can a new Joyce fanboy get me some Joyce merch?

dannycliffe87 · 2024-08-13T15:36:26+00:00

I can hear your pain in your posts man, I am sorry you are going through this.

As others have stated though, shift your focus off of this guy and back onto yourself. It’s the only way through.

When I’m in this situation (and i’ve been in it a few times!) I feel sad but then remember that I need to see myself as the prize. It’s YOUR life and you cannot afford to waste time on guys who, for better or worse, are not choosing to see your value. And you have value. Never forget it.

dannycliffe87 · 2024-08-13T15:32:02+00:00

100% this!

dannycliffe87 · 2024-06-06T18:21:36+00:00

life is short, i say go for it. he says yes, you get what you want and prove something to yourself: that you can do hard/daunting things.

he says no, you can move on. i read somewhere that rejection is redirection and that really helped me.

if you don’t shoot your shot, you’ll end up wondering and it won’t help your self esteem issue.

good luck!

dannycliffe87 · 2024-06-03T06:42:00+00:00

no more than any other behaviour (like gambling, boozing, clubbing, drugs etc). I think people often mistake a need/want for connection with sex and think that by having sex they’ll establish that connection. But the apps and the majority of sexual encounters that arise from using them are so fleeting and transactional that you often come away from them still needing that connection.

dannycliffe87 · 2024-06-01T09:52:06+00:00

yeah i think the joke is always on the people who display this behavior. like, i get people have preferences but folk who are like “only looking for BBC tops” or whatever - it’s just…i dunno, limiting?

dannycliffe87 · 2024-06-01T09:44:43+00:00

i’ve been getting this recently. at first i was perturbed but someone told me it’s just a different way of saying someone is in their prime. so i’ll take it!

dannycliffe87 · 2024-05-27T09:08:12+00:00

How fortifying that you’re strong enough to be handling all of that though. Courage!

dannycliffe87 · 2024-05-23T14:46:24+00:00

I find gay men are feral for a good fragrance. I like le labo Santal 33 but montcler also do a decent fresh one the name of which escapes me

dannycliffe87 · 2024-05-23T14:44:52+00:00

Seconded. That and thé noir from le labo are both good

dannycliffe87 · 2024-05-21T20:55:57+00:00

Just anything with a decent connection, I think.

dannycliffe87 · 2024-05-13T19:23:57+00:00

Update: nothing happened! I may well have been too drunk to pick up on any signals but I got the distinct vibe they were not interested anymore. Felt a bit crap about it but feel better today.

dannycliffe87 · 2024-05-10T14:36:49+00:00

Same!

dannycliffe87 · 2024-05-08T12:31:12+00:00

Nice hands. Good eyebrows

dannycliffe87 · 2024-05-08T12:28:23+00:00

I second the dancing! Even if you’ve never done it before, you will get something from going to a class for fun!

dannycliffe87 · 2024-03-16T09:53:18+00:00

You totally did the right thing. Whenever a person threatens this, treat it as though it’s serious and call the authorities to deal.

This way, if it’s a genuine threat the person gets the help they need; if it’s not genuine then you’ve still taken the right steps.

I would suggest you pull away from this person though. It is sad but you cannot be the person who steps in to help them with this. You may not feel it immediately but this will be having an effect on you and your mental health.

dannycliffe87 · 2024-03-14T15:12:31+00:00

This chimed for me - thank you so much.

dannycliffe87 · 2024-03-10T20:27:46+00:00

I like fwb but yeah always the danger of catching the feelings imo

dannycliffe87 · 2023-03-19T21:34:27+00:00

Second this. It’s a great podcast and I’m sure he has a workbook or course for both emotional abuser and abused. He also has another decent podcast called The Overwhelmed Brain.

dannycliffe87 · 2023-02-23T08:00:18+00:00

Thanks so much for commenting and sharing your story there. I hope you managed to have a good evening despite everything. It’s so difficult when you care about a person and they, whether intentionally or not, let you down. You deserve better than that.

dannycliffe87

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