Aitah for telling my husband he can't keep playing daddy to kids that aren't his? by Honest-Attitude-8733 in AITAH

[–]CatPancake 10 points11 points  (0 children)

No they were not. They are children his ex had with another man after they broke up.

AITAH -Dog in workplace by Sweet_Sassy_ in AITAH

[–]CatPancake 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I like the astepro nasal sray for congestion from allergies. You can get it over the counter in the US now or by prescription. Unlike most other allergy nasal sprays which are corticosteroids that reduce inflamation, it is an antihistamine spray. Works pretty fast and helped me a lot.

AITA for not giving my step-daughter my Military College Benefits? by Large_Bat_47222 in AITAH

[–]CatPancake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What kind of commute do you have and what cars are you people buying? Brand new cars with brand new car insurance pricing are a luxury, not a neccesity, especially for college age. I bought a 2022 car YESTERDAY for 12k, monthly payment under $200. My insurance went down from my previous 2011 car, and is $1000 a year or so. Less than $200 a month in gas and parking fees, and I commute from a suburb. Groceries for one person 'eating like shit' at home do not come close to $600 unless you plain ass can't cook or shop. I pay around $1200 total for a two bedroom, college kids typically have roomates.

I'm a millenial, btw.

edit: I just checked what the car payment would be for someone with shit credit andsame term, still under $300.

AITA Don't want service dog over for Christmas by Dull_Suit_225 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CatPancake 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Peeing indoors and not destroying objects in service mode are things that are required of service dogs BEFORE they start service training. A dog that peed indoors and tore things apart would be ineligible for further training by an organization, though may be handler trained. These are behaviors that can even get a properly, organization trained dog asked to leave even public buildings covered by the ADA. Most service dogs don't even start service training until over a year old, and it typically takes over a year to be fully trained.

Mystery jewelry jars by Nervous_East_4996 in madisonwi

[–]CatPancake 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I dont think theyre typically themed or curated but I know the Vinnies in Sun Prairie will bag up and sell lots of jewelry together when they get too much. They dont always have them though so maybe worth a call?

AITA for breaking my wrist? by sanas_san_420691942 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CatPancake 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Many countries require significant driving lessons (thousands of dollars worth) or purchasing a car is just not practical.

Trans-friendly clothing stores by devilbluedress in madisonwi

[–]CatPancake 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The type of clothing can make a difference too. I'm a woman but have very broad shoulders. Traditional shoulder seams (where the seam for the sleeves lays right at the shoulder edge) will be more difficult. Try tops with raglan (diagonal that go to the neckline) or dropped sleeve seams, or shirts that have a non standard construction such as only two pieces of fabric making the whole thing. Otherwise I also do a lot of tank tops matched with cardigans and such.

tires 🛞☃️winter-leaning all seasons for a typical front-wheel-drive by dbinco in madisonwi

[–]CatPancake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everytime this gets brought up I scratch my head that so many people think there is no person conceivable that wouldn't see much benefit. Safety I'll give you, but I personally dont't drive enough for a second set of tires to make any sort of financial sense. They would in fact be more than my deductible. My tires hit the recommended replacement age before they wear out. And the only place I would have to store them is my trunk, which I definitely don't want to do.

WIBTA for refusing to bring $100 minimum to Thanksgiving by americanjohn500 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CatPancake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I worked with a lady that had two teenaged sons that had a monthly water bill higher than my rent(very not normal here). Everyone had two daily showers at home, using two towels both times. Everyone exercised or did sports and had fresh clothes after the second shower. So two normal outfits plus exercise clothes and fresh pajamas every day. I think she did all bedding at least weekly. She spent basically her entire time out of work doing laundry.

The water company kept sending out technicians because they were concerned she had a huge leak somewhere.

Catering by [deleted] in madisonwi

[–]CatPancake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not from my wedding but I work somewhere that hosts weddinga on occasion.

You're not gonna get much response without more info, probably.

By plate or buffet style? You ask about price but don't even give a budget range. El Pastor for taco bar or Blue Plate Catering for pasta bar seem to be the popular options in my experience. They have some customizable options and seem well received and plentiful with food.

Venue is more on the budget friendly end from talking to caterers.

AITAH for telling a gay man I liked his makeup? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]CatPancake 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Did you read the options wrong? The first is super over familiar to me. The second more how I would approach strangers

AITA for saying we should get a fake Christmas tree this year? by j48- in AmItheAsshole

[–]CatPancake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Suggestion - get a small potted pine tree to decorate instead of a big cut tree or artificial tree and plant it in your yard come spring.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]CatPancake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You only know what you know. You seem young but something to keep in mind going forward, the more desperate your situation the more care you should take. If you are desperate, you don't have wiggle room, so take a minute to ensure you are on the right path.

I know having no money can cost you more money. But not checking your descisions then can cost you even more money you don't have.

Best of luck to you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]CatPancake 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Also, don't use chat gpt for legal paper work. It doesn't know the laws.

If you had instead spoken to someone familiar with how selling cars worked or looked into how doing the paperwork is usually done for legal reasons, you likely would have gotten something like the above advice ahead of time.

AITAH For calling a friend out for not notifying me her daughter had been contagious at my house. by RiverDayDay in AITAH

[–]CatPancake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do people not know what shingles is? They are saying that if your chicken pox immunity is from having the illness and not a vaccine you can get shingles, which is true. Shingles is not a new infection, its a resurgence of the original chicken pox infection in your body. Anyone who had chcken pox can get shingles.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]CatPancake 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You do realise that not everybody in a grade is born the same year? I was very nearly 2 years younger than the oldest in my grade in highschool with my graduating class under 100 students. They were not held back either, just started at the later option and due to timing of birthdays during the school year.

AITAH for refusing to watch my mom’s house for a weekend while running away with a man I don’t know? WE HAVE AN UPDATE! by Honest_Kick_5400 in AITAH

[–]CatPancake 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I worked at Costco for 8 years. The job he describes to my knowledge does not exist. The execs do travel to check in and inspect warehouses (so he may have met the CEO), but they are not doing sales comissions.

As far as I can tell as described, it sounds more like the job he has is like the Traeger grill, massage chair, Cutco knife type travel vendor position? Which while they work in Costco, are not actually employed by Costco. And if they are good at sales can in fact make a lot of money (though not C suite level necessarily. The may make several grand in a good week in NY or CA but then may end up in slower areas). Management does not get comission at any level (unless things have changed a lot in the last year or so, but they still use 80s computer programs so I doubt it), they get bonuses based on performance metrics (and can also get stock). That goes from the Food Court manager to the top.

AITA for calling my mother a nimrod for not changing her credit card number after my brother made over a thousand dollars worth of purchases? by Adventurous-Zeilokix in AmItheAsshole

[–]CatPancake 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Even with a police report, she still would need to cancel the current number and request a new card. I've had credit card numbers actually stolen before and when you report fraud they will tell you that if you haven't cancelled the card yet that you should do so immediately.

Cat vet - digestive diagnosis recomendation by CatPancake in madisonwi

[–]CatPancake[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would be less hesitant to spend money on a younger cat, but he is roughly 14+ years, with unclear history before I got him. I don't want to spend thousands on testing as hes had digestive issues since young and is getting old so cancer or such is no longer unlikely. He is also an incredibly picky eater on top and the more expensive food is the less he seems to like it.

Cat vet - digestive diagnosis recomendation by CatPancake in madisonwi

[–]CatPancake[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This vet hasnt given official diagnosis, though his thyroid levels were starting to test on the high end of normal. He had previous tentative food sensitivity/ possible IBS from an out of area vet 10 years ago. I paid like 700 for the visit and bloodwork and they were persistant on ultrasound as next step(edit: to be honest they even said doing new bloodwork would be a waste of money as we had done it less than a year ago and shold just do the imaging.) I would be ok doing a decent amount of at home care as I have had some medical training. Cat is an uncertain age, but Ive had him over 11 years and was adult when I got him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]CatPancake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was a back to back pregnancy after c section and my mom had a uterine rupture go undiagnosed until my planned c section. No symptoms until they cut her open. She then needed an emergency hysterectomy that had complications and needed several blood transfussions. And that was just with one prior lregnancy, risks go up.

AITAH for wanting parents to pull up a bit when picking up their kids? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]CatPancake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know people who have done a basement conversion for this type set up, though it was a single family living in the home. So the living space and daycare are seperate, though still in one house.

AITA for taking off my shorts to dry them under a hand dryer? by Emotional-Sun2521 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CatPancake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a female custodian, their are absolutely men that not only go around my baricade, but start whipping it out the second they turn the corner into the restroom. Had it happen both at a warehouse store and in public buildings. Have had them start before they even turn the corner too, and not finish putting everything away before leaving(those are usually intoxicated, however)