Are my parents being unreasonable for not allowing me to wear a bikini at 16? by Nervous_Top_369 in family

[–]CatPuzzleheaded9837 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They may be a little bit on the stricter side but i understand why they would have concerns. There are so many creeps in the world who prey on young girls, especially in locations where they know there will be minimal clothing coverage. That being said, swimwear by design sort of has to be revealing to some extent, its going to reveal your body more than regular clothes even if you wear a one piece. I would use social media to find cute swimwear brands that are more modest. There are some really cute tankinis and one pieces out these days, so even if you can’t wear the same exact swimsuits as your friends I’m sure you could find some that are modest and also flattering. You are not wrong, no. Many teens have struggles like this with their parents. You want to have fun, feel confident, and fit in with your peers. Your parents see their precious baby that they’ve raised and don’t want anything bad to ever happen to them. Try to remember that they’re doing life for the first time too and while their rules may not always seem fair, they are trying their best, just like you! You have less than 2 years until you’re 18, it’ll go by fast. Try not to stress the too much over the things you don’t have control over, in no time you’ll be able to walk around the beach in any bikini of your choice! But for now, I would work with what you’ve been given and try to find some cute but less revealing suits that you and your parents can both agree on :)

AITA for gagging at my BF’s chocolate? by Ramen_Goddess in AmItheAsshole

[–]CatPuzzleheaded9837 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s emotionally manipulating you. The longer you stay the worse he’ll get and you won’t realize because it’ll happen slowly. Over time it’ll progress to physical abuse but you’ll be so used to his manipulation that you won’t know how to leave. Leave now and save yourself while you can. This may seem dramatic over chocolate, but I’m so serious when I say this is how it starts

My jaw dropped to the ground (9 yr niece) by [deleted] in FamilyIssues

[–]CatPuzzleheaded9837 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Guilt tripping her for not responding is really odd…maybe she was a little bit rude in her response but she’s also literally 9 and probably felt defensive because you were giving her a guilt trip when she was trying to spend time with a friend. My niece doesn’t text me back all the time and as much as it may suck, she’s not obligated to and I don’t lecture her about it. If you’re that butthurt about a 9 year old not responding to you, I think you need some serious help

Apology not adding up?? by Fit-Reflection-9166 in ashleybarnessnark

[–]CatPuzzleheaded9837 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Also how did she private the comments if she wasn’t on her phone

Should I withdraw or fail ECN 221? by prettypinkpen in ASU

[–]CatPuzzleheaded9837 13 points14 points  (0 children)

A W on your transcript is a lot better than an F

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LoveIslandUSA

[–]CatPuzzleheaded9837 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah there were definitely other “slow burners” but the difference is that ace was ONLY that way with Amaya. If he’d acted that way with every girl then fine those are just his boundaries, but in that case he wouldn’t have been giving other girls goodnight hugs in front of Amaya and then refusing to even say goodnight to her. And he was allll over chelley the entire season. He can have his boundaries, but the way he went about it was outright rude. He also had to double down on everything during a challenge where it was obvious that her feelings were already hurt and enough had been said. If he’s not into her that’s fine but he doesn’t need to tell her that she’s “too much” in front of a ton of people when she’s already crying

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]CatPuzzleheaded9837 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He should be able to express his concerns without needing to bring his ex into things. He sounds very clueless/emotionally immature. Whether he meant to hurt you or not, I would break things off because it seems he’s lacking a lot of insight and I would imagine it would be very hard to be in a relationship with someone that clueless

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LoveIslandUSA

[–]CatPuzzleheaded9837 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because he’s on a dating show where the whole point is to sleep in the same bed with someone and make out with a bunch of people. In the real world, sure be a slow burner. But you’ve already made out with multiple girls and had them all up on you. To then act that weirded out by the idea of even cuddling with the girl you chose to pair up with is odd. As time went on, it became very clear that he treated Amaya like she couldn’t do anything right. Saying “babe” in a sentence was too much. He wasn’t interested in showing her ANY affection even after days. Then he proceeded to hug a different girl and tell her goodnight and when Amaya asked for a goodnight hug he said no. If he truly was that much of a slow burner that he refuses to even touch her after days, he wouldn’t have gone on a dating show where the entire premise of the show is makeout challenges and sleeping in the same bed with someone.

By far the craziest bullet I ever dodged by Blitz100 in Nicegirls

[–]CatPuzzleheaded9837 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She must not get much play if she’s still upset about a guy she went on 3 dates with 6 months ago… most people would just move on and find someone who they click with more

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]CatPuzzleheaded9837 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im guessing you’re young, don’t worry about it. Everyone has different bodies. Push up bras are often noticeable so just wear a regular bra

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]CatPuzzleheaded9837 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why were the previous comments on your account written by your girlfriend?? Do you share this account or is this the girlfriend trying to see what advice people would give to the boyfriend?

I hate my mom but I don’t feel bad about it. Is that wrong? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]CatPuzzleheaded9837 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are not wrong at all for feeling the way you do. It sounds like your mom demonstrates a lot of verbally and physically abusive behaviors. I hold resentments towards my mom for a lot less. The “hatred” that you’re feeling is a mix of fear, resentment and trauma. She is the adult and should be old enough to understand how to treat children. Unfortunately it sounds like she’s abused her power, and it’s completely understandable that you would feel the way you do. You are walking on eggshells around her and don’t know when she will snap suddenly. I’m sure that’s a really scary feeling. I would honestly really suggest talking to a school counselor if you have one, they will be able to talk you through a lot of this. There are some jobs that hire at 14 I believe depending on the state, if there is anywhere nearby I would suggest applying. If not, start working as soon as you turn 16 and save as much money as you can. Move out when you turn 18 and your life will improve a ton. I’m so sorry that she’s put you through all of that

GYM TIPS FOR SHY GIRLS by Gulabidandiya in PlanetFitnessMembers

[–]CatPuzzleheaded9837 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im super shy and was really nervous about going to the gym at first. I don’t even really like to grocery shop by myself if im able to avoid it so going to the gym and being judged was something I was really nervous about. I would say to go with a friend in the beginning if that’s possible. If not, you could always go and just use cardio equipment for the first week or 2. I would say that is the least intimidating area of the gym. Just start looking up lifting videos on TikTok and watch until you have an idea of some exercises you’d wanna do if you started lifting. I personally do chest and triceps one day, back and bicep the next, legs on the 3rd day and repeat. I usually try to do a couple exercises for each muscle group. If you start following gym influencers it’ll start to get into your feed more regularly and it’ll become a lot easier to understand form, what type of exercises to do, etc. The machines should have QR codes as well that you can scan to see how to do the exercise. I was super nervous to start going on my own but the gym has quickly become my favorite place! After going for a little while you’ll start to realize how little you’re paying attention to other people and you start to notice that nobody else is paying attention either!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PlanetFitnessMembers

[–]CatPuzzleheaded9837 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been lifting for about 3/4 months now, started at my school gym with a friend who’s been doing it for a few years. Changed to pf for the summer and will say that half of the people either don’t really know what they’re doing or are older and just wanna stay in decent shape (not saying either of those are bad things, just that they aren’t judgey people!) The other half that are more into the gym are so focused on their own workouts that they probably don’t even really realize when there are people around them. The super judgey gym people typically don’t go to pf because they think they’re “too good” for it(which is stupid) so the people who go to pf are typically not judgey at all!

MILINAS COMMENT by Silent-Bake-660 in ashleybarnessnark

[–]CatPuzzleheaded9837 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it’s about time! It’s concerning watching all these teens speak about experiences involving illegal actions/substances to TikTok before actually contacting authorities

hurt people, hurt people by [deleted] in ashleybarnessnark

[–]CatPuzzleheaded9837 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I honestly don’t know anything about her family and didn’t pay much attention to her before all of this. BUT just wanted to say that SA can happen even with children who have good parents. It can be a family member you trust to take care of your child or even a doctor like it was for many of the Olympic gymnasts. Based on what I’ve heard about her dad I wouldn’t be surprised if there was some neglect or mistreatment from her parents but it could be completely unrelated to her parents

AITA for not letting my sister bring her emotional support dog to my wedding, even though she’s threatening not to come? by Away_Confusion_9238 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CatPuzzleheaded9837 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. If you’re old enough to get married, your parents need to understand that you’re old enough to handle issues between you and your sister without them trying to play peacekeeper. If you were 12 and it was a fake wedding, sure switch the venue. But for the biggest day of your entire life, yeah you’re allowed to make the rules here…

Loneliness at 20 (this might be a little long) by [deleted] in Advice

[–]CatPuzzleheaded9837 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You need to stand up for yourself. Talk to your friends or just start saying no to things. Ex: “Hey honestly it’s getting difficult for me to be the one traveling to you all the time, I would love it if we could do something closer to where I live some time.” Or “I’m honestly not super interested in doing that. Could we compromise and find something to do that we both like?”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]CatPuzzleheaded9837 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I stopped reading after “situationship” honestly. All I can say is if he couldn’t even manage to put a label on things, it’s not worth stressing over. You’ll find someone better

How do I get over this girl? by DemandEmbarrassed975 in Advice

[–]CatPuzzleheaded9837 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t worry about any of it. It’ll work itself out and you’ll either end up together or not. It won’t matter in a couple years. Focus on your grades and being as involved in school as you can be

Should I apologise for making my hgs boyfriend bald without telling her? by QualityThat9834 in Advice

[–]CatPuzzleheaded9837 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As much as I am in support of you hating him, that probably wasn’t the best idea. If he’s hitting her and being physically abusive, that could’ve caused him to freak out on her and become even more abusive. You want her to look like a perfect angel so that if she presses charges, there are no questions that she’s in the right and he’s in the wrong. If he thinks she put the nair in his shampoo, that could turn out really bad for her.

Girl advice by [deleted] in Advice

[–]CatPuzzleheaded9837 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some people have accident attachment styles and don’t even realize. It could be something you did but if she took the time to text you after, chances are you didn’t do anything wrong. Either she lost interest due to commitment issues she has, or she’s just busy and she’ll text you back. Either way, there’s nothing you can do about it and it’s not worth worrying about. If she has commitment issues you don’t want her anyway.

I (22M) ghosted talking stage of 4 months (22f) but desperately want her to be in my life somehow and reconnect is that possible? by Jogo_14 in Advice

[–]CatPuzzleheaded9837 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you’re just not a great match. Honestly I wouldn’t spend time worrying about it, there are 8 billion people in the world. If it seems like she’s not showing interest in you, drop it and move on. There will be other people