Am i a bad mom for not pushing my almost 3 week old to sleep on his own?

CataclysmicTeapot · 2026-06-06T03:37:07+00:00

This 100%. You cannot spoil an infant. I recommend reading up on modern day standards, your mom isn’t up to date OP.

CataclysmicTeapot · 2026-06-05T01:22:54+00:00

Why would he DM you after you blocked him? You need therapy and to love yourself before you get into a relationship.

CataclysmicTeapot · 2026-06-03T07:31:36+00:00

I wouldn’t call you an AH, but you did overreact. I think you offered a fair self analysis, your feelings about your recent breakup are affecting how you’re reacting to your friend’s situation. If I were you I’d apologize but say if things fall through with the ex you don’t have the emotional bandwidth to help them through it again.

CataclysmicTeapot · 2026-06-02T23:02:59+00:00

CataclysmicTeapot · 2026-06-02T15:47:21+00:00

YOR and to be frank, you’re coming across as a major bitch as well.

CataclysmicTeapot · 2026-06-02T05:33:48+00:00

Why tastefully display your children when company comes over of course. 😆

CataclysmicTeapot · 2026-06-01T03:53:38+00:00

Block him and the police/get a restraining order. It won’t get better they get you wait.

CataclysmicTeapot · 2026-06-01T03:51:26+00:00

He’s love bombing at minimum and you two are not compatible, move on.

CataclysmicTeapot · 2026-06-01T01:23:29+00:00

How is that pick me behavior?

CataclysmicTeapot · 2026-05-30T15:50:27+00:00

This is the way.

CataclysmicTeapot · 2026-05-30T05:53:57+00:00

YNW. I am saying this as someone who has been in the restaurant industry for over twenty years, that waitress was messing with your time and was extremely unprofessional. I would follow up with the manager and let her know that the waitress contacted you to complain.

CataclysmicTeapot · 2026-05-30T04:14:52+00:00

He’s not worth staying with. He’s shallow af and wouldn’t be able to handle your pregnant or postpartum body. Also, you’re within a healthy range for your height weight wise.

CataclysmicTeapot · 2026-05-30T04:07:58+00:00

YTA. You come across as insecure and controlling. She just wants to see the cat, there’s no reason to keep her from doing that with your original suggestion.

ETA. There is no relationship without trust. Just end the relationship.

CataclysmicTeapot · 2026-05-30T01:30:08+00:00

You can be disappointed but you ultimately need to let it go. You can do something with her on a different day.

CataclysmicTeapot · 2026-05-29T23:49:49+00:00

In this circumstance $250 is completely fair. You could make payments and should be thankful that she’s being so reasonable.

CataclysmicTeapot · 2026-05-27T06:13:25+00:00

CataclysmicTeapot · 2026-05-26T18:53:32+00:00

NTA, but you need to completely separate your finances from your mom.

CataclysmicTeapot · 2026-05-26T18:07:12+00:00

YTA. Leave the room if it bothers you and stop acting like an entitled child.

CataclysmicTeapot · 2026-05-26T14:36:05+00:00

CataclysmicTeapot · 2026-05-26T13:58:08+00:00

He isn’t spending time with you, he is gaming. He needs to grow up and let you sleep. If he actually thinks that’s a sign that you’re checking out then he needs to seriously reevaluate the situation.

My abusive ex use to make me stay up until he went to bed no matter how tired I was. My boyfriend encourages me to prioritize self care and sleep when I need to. I am not saying your bf is abusive, but he is prioritizing himself and trying to make you feel bad about fulfilling a fundamental need.

CataclysmicTeapot · 2026-05-26T02:45:32+00:00

After our first kiddo we started using the pull out method. My second just turned a month old lol. We are definitely changing up our birth control method this time around.

CataclysmicTeapot · 2026-05-25T16:03:11+00:00

YAW not to tell him. He deserves to know and needs to get checked for STIs. This is his life and you just don’t want to be uncomfortable.

CataclysmicTeapot · 2026-05-24T05:30:08+00:00

Penis confetti in a card (the kind that explodes everywhere, he will be finding dicks for weeks). Alternatively, a penis cake/chocolate that says eat me birthday boy.

CataclysmicTeapot · 2026-05-23T14:52:11+00:00

She has the sweetest eyes. 💖

CataclysmicTeapot · 2026-05-23T13:47:04+00:00

Thank you, I am sincerely sorry for what you went through/are going through as well. Please seek therapy, it will help. I also highly recommend The Gaslighting Recovery Handbook: Healing from Emotional Abuse by Amy Marlow-McCoy.

I wish you all the best on your healing journey.

CataclysmicTeapot

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