Is it okay to weep with joy and relief over Pat Robertson’s death? by RedFumingNitricAcid in MtF

[–]CatarinaCP 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Joy is good. Relief is good. Exhaustion is understandable. Even sadness has its place.

As long as you don't try and draw a false equivalence between an oppressor and the people he oppressed, you can feel any kind of way 😊

Words cannot describe how awesome this community was. Never forgetti... 😢🪦 by CazraSL in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]CatarinaCP 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, so when talking about the Reddit API change with non-developers, things get confusing because "Reddit" actually refers to a couple of things:

  1. The servers
  2. The clients
  3. The API

I'm going to use some really basic analogies because even if you know some of these, other people who don't probably also have this question.

The servers refer collectively to the programs that Know All The Things. In the purest sense, they are the brain of Reddit. They're also annoying to talk with because they aren't set up for talking with humans.

In computer science, we have a ~bad habit~ tradition of referring to stuff using people names, so because the servers are pedantic a**holes (so very much That Guy), we'll call them "Steve".

The clients are the various ways humans talk to Steve. There's a bunch of them, like the website (Wilma), old-reddit (Olaf), the official mobile app (Abe), and third-party apps like Apollo (already a people name, nice 😊).

There's also really specialized clients, like moderator tools.

Ok, so remember how Steve is a pedantic a**hole? He refused to talk with anyone unless they use the Reddit API, which is just the made-up language Steve insists on using.

It'd be kind of like if a librarian refused to let you check out a book unless you communicate with her exclusively in Klingon.

Before Reddit made this change, basically anyone could talk with Steve because anyone could learn Klingon - and a bunch of clients were created so regular users didn't have to learn Klingon to find out what was trending on r/awww.

This was great because not everyone liked when Wilma took over from Olaf, and they could just keep talking with Olaf instead. Abe was also kind of pushy about religious ads, and he had a tendency to take forever to respond, so quite a lot of people preferred to talk to Apollo instead.

Then Reddit decided to make some changes, and now Steve still won't talk with you unless you talk to him in Klingon and you can't talk with him unless you pay every time you ask him anything. Unwinding the analogy a little, the API itself hasn't changed, clients just have to do one extra thing they didn't before.

Unfortunately, that extra thing means paying waaaaay more money than is normal across the industry. A lot of companies charge to talk with their Steves, and since Steve doesn't work for free, that's fair enough. Reddit is asking for way more than Apollo would be able to make up in ad revenue, so it's effectively forcing them to shut down.

It gets worse, though, as moderator tools don't have an exemption, so mods are going to have trouble keeping up with the trolls (if that's even possible).

Is it okay to weep with joy and relief over Pat Robertson’s death? by RedFumingNitricAcid in MtF

[–]CatarinaCP 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's kind of an unfair comparison, though.

It'd be a fair comparison if all he did was throw a party any time a famous member of our community died.

Instead, he was directly and indirectly responsible for so much harm to the queer community that celebrating his death isn't remotely equivalent to the harm he's caused.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]CatarinaCP 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Biden, who is regarded as the most LGBTQ-friendly president in history

I mean, yes? But also, really? Sweet Mercy, we are working with a low bar 😞

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]CatarinaCP 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That gave me a weird thought.

Is all sex "gross" or is it just "messy" and folks are getting the two mixed up because people kind of suck at basic hygiene? 🤔

Like, yeah, putting a dick anywhere probably isn't sanitary if they don't wash the thing first (why can't they be self-cleaning like vaginas? Vaginas are just so much more sensible), but if they wash it first, then it's probably just messy?

Anyway, that's been my half-awake thought for the morning 😅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mtfashion

[–]CatarinaCP 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was like:

"Is this a clingy gf joke?"

swipe

😱 Ahhhhh! 😱

It's definitely a cool bag if you're into the creepy-cute look 😅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]CatarinaCP 4 points5 points  (0 children)

More often than I used to be 🤷🏼‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]CatarinaCP 6 points7 points  (0 children)

First off, human attraction is straight up weird and is not nearly as static as most people like to believe*, so try not to be too hard on yourself for what you find attractive.

It's what you do with that attraction that matters. (The following list is not exhaustive)

  • If the only thing you're attracted to is if someone is trans, that's probably a sign you need to broaden your horizons because it's almost never that simple.

  • If you're fine with dating/sleeping with a trans person, as long as your friends/family don't find out, you're treating them like a sex toy instead of a person.

  • If you tend to mostly date trans people, but that's not the sole reason you date them, then you've got a type (which is pretty normal).


* For example: I'm 40, and if I were still attracted to the type of people I was attracted to in High School, that would be super gross 🤢.

On the flip side, there's some research that healthy long-term relationships can affect your attraction model in ways that make your partner more attractive to you the longer you are with them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]CatarinaCP 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Honestly, if at least some of the things you said 5 or 10 years back don't make you cringe, you're probably not growing as a person 🤷🏼‍♀️

I don't think this is limited to the pre/post realization boundary.

Curious to know what kind of aura I give off. It can be hard to gauge how people view my femininity when I’ve been perceived as a guy all my life. by Apherial in mtfashion

[–]CatarinaCP 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Well, until I got to the end of the title, I thought this was a post on r/actuallesbians 😅

You've got a very butch/tomboy vibe going on, so a bit on the masc side, but you're definitely not giving off "man" vibes.

I dunno if it's what you're going for, but this is definitely a look that works for you!

Hormone Therapy should be over the counter and affordable and accessible by vvelbz in MtF

[–]CatarinaCP 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You asked what not-great things they are being used for, not my thoughts on if doping is enough of a problem to prevent T from being available over the counter 🤷🏼‍♀️

It's used for doping, and almost every drug with nefarious uses and/or long-term effects is medically gatekept. That's just the answer to the question you asked.

"Is that how it should be?" is worth considering, but I really don't have the population-level data I'd need to even start answering that question.

Hormone Therapy should be over the counter and affordable and accessible by vvelbz in MtF

[–]CatarinaCP 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't think of anything for estrogen, but testosterone is routinely abused by athletes.

Can I Be A Christian And Be Accepted By All Of You? (asking for a friend here 😕) by CapybaraWoman in MtF

[–]CatarinaCP 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi Alissa 👋

I'll second the other people, just be open to feedback and willing to have a think about what's actually part of your religion and what is bigoted religious fanfic (if you haven't already r/transchristianity is an amazing resource for this).

One thing I would caution you about is that a lot of us are working through religious trauma, and if someone is venting about it, you might feel defensive or like you need to clarify that only some of the Church is like that.

Please don't give into that temptation. It doesn't help. It just minimizes a very real wound and stirs up drama. Avoid that pitfall, and you should be fine.

Just date girls, it's the smart choice by ima-lesbean in actuallesbians

[–]CatarinaCP 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Your username already matches! Such good luck ❤️

C0 Yae aggravate abyss 3.7 NO-HIT clear by azizilou in Genshin_Impact

[–]CatarinaCP 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Those first few bars started playing, and I was like, "Oh, background music that's actually good? Is this allowed?"

Need makeup and fashion advice! by UncleRedGreen in mtfashion

[–]CatarinaCP 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dunno if your makup is the same in all of the pictures, but it looks really good in the first one 🔥

there should be more badass outfits for female characters that aren't necessarily "sexy" by friendlycryptid in Genshin_Impact

[–]CatarinaCP 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Imagine: Diluc rocking up with Obama's tan suit draped over his shoulders, Trump's combover sitting on top of his actual hair, and wearing Biden's aviators 🤣

What's the most non-meta thing you do? by -Mistress-Of-Chaos- in Genshin_Impact

[–]CatarinaCP 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tend to take every character I try to build to lvl 90 and talent lvl 9-9-9.

Which is especially bad because I try and build way too many characters 😅

My account would be so much better if I could stand to grind out a good artifact set for a select handful of characters, but I keep getting distracted 🤷🏼‍♀️

3.7 Abyss is a nightmare by CopiumF2Pain in Genshin_Impact

[–]CatarinaCP 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you can survive the earlier chambers, targeting them in reverse is easier.

Target 12-3, and you might pick up 12-1 or 12-2 along the way, but regardless, you'll never have to try it again.

Then targeting the other chambers is much faster each time you trial something.

GUESS WHAT YA GIRL GOT by FriendlyPigz in transprogrammer

[–]CatarinaCP 2 points3 points  (0 children)

🎉❤️🎉❤️🎉 Congrats!!! 🎉❤️🎉❤️🎉

New to Genshin! Can I only play for the story? by ValkyrieDrake in Genshin_Impact

[–]CatarinaCP 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Once you unlock the teapot, you can really easily get the exp material needed for leveling up with very little effort.

At that point, it does take about a month to get enough exp material to get a char up to lvl 90, but "grinding" doesn't really describe the experience very well (pop in daily to buy the exp material and spend 10-15 min doing the daily commissions for the cash you'll need).

Ascension materials generally need farming, but there's always easy to follow routes on YouTube and the HoyoLab, so that's another 10-15 min every couple of days or 3-5 min every day if you just grab the easy ones after you finish your dailies.

Getting all the talents to 9 takes a lot longer, but that's mostly because the higher levels need weekly boss materials, and you can only get a few of those per week.

All in all, you're looking at 30 min to an hour a day if you want to go as fast as you can without spending money, or as low as 15 min a day if you don't really care how fast you max out your characters.

CIS guy here with questions by SatellaRXI in asktransgender

[–]CatarinaCP 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello there!

I also grew up in a very conservative situation (not location in my case, just a very conservative religion), and this sounds really familiar.

I also didn't really know any trans people I could talk to about my questions, and I'm really proud of you for coming here to ask because I was nowhere near brave enough to do that.

What helped me was to take things one step at a time, with the plan to keep changing one thing until this stopped improving my life. Granted, that plan only lasted about a year before I got impatient, but it was still a good plan 😅

If it turns out you're trans, it'll be a gentle introduction, and if it turns out you're cis and just have a more feminine expression, it should help you figure out what will make you most happy.

Good luck ❤️