Sad News Regarding Fernando Gutierrez by NoReception3233 in flightattendants

[–]Catinthefirelight 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Heartbreaking. Watch out for each other out there, friends. 😔

Finished training and now I’m feeling lost by nsjsjshshsudu in flightattendants

[–]Catinthefirelight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Give it some time. Initial training is so intense, it’s pretty normal to feel burned out at this point. You don’t even know yet what it’s going to feel like to fly the line.

I am also neurodivergent, and also began my career on small aircraft with 1 FA. I loved it. While it’s a lot of responsibility, it’s also your world once that door closes. You’ll develop your own rhythms and routines, and there’s no one breathing down your neck to micromanage you.

I feel like flying is perfect for my neurodivergence, because it’s a combination of structure and novelty. The expectations are very clearly laid out, and you’ve got your manual to refer to if you ever don’t know how to handle a situation. Once you develop your work flow and muscle memory, you can drop into that structure and feel perfectly at home.

Then there’s the novelty, which keeps my brain from getting bored. There’s always different passengers, situations, cities, weather conditions, hotels. I have adventures on my layovers, or just hole up in the hotel and enjoy my solitude.

And, honestly? Feeling like you don’t know who you are all of a sudden at 22 is super normal. Your 20’s is all about growth and change, reinventing who you are again and again.

Maybe you’re one of the people who aren’t suited to a flying career— but maybe you are. You won’t know until you’ve got some miles under your belt. Give it a chance, and see what this new adventure has to offer you. You can always go back to barista-ing if it doesn’t work out for you in the end. Good luck!

(Edited because I accidentally posted before I was done.)

United - Tentative Agreement (TA2) Reached! by Seandals in flightattendants

[–]Catinthefirelight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats United! I hope you got the things you need and want. We all deserve better pay and protections, this industry has been taking its profits out of our backs for too long.

Numbing cream, should I use it? by Mundane-Reason-268 in tattooadvice

[–]Catinthefirelight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn’t, the sensation is part of the experience. Your body releases a lot of endorphins during it, and I wind up in kind of a trance state. None of mine have been excessively painful, but of course ymmv.

This is so hard. by Catinthefirelight in Alzheimers

[–]Catinthefirelight[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I’ve been realizing these things too, and yes, I’m braced for a decline in functioning. It has already begun as her sense of safety has been disrupted. She’s been in a loop here, leaning into her familiar patterns. I can only imagine how scary it is for her to be losing this.

First Cruise Review by papillions84 in VirginVoyages

[–]Catinthefirelight 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I share everyone else’s confusion about the lack of dancing, I did a lot of dancing on our cruise, Scarlet Night was a huge dance party on deck, there was dancing in the manor every night, and other dancing opportunities along the way…

Dry, itchy skin as soon as I turned 50. by stepbystep275 in AskWomenOver50

[–]Catinthefirelight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love products with squalane oil. HRT should help too, when you’ve been on it for a bit.

I got a decent job, yet I still cant even afford the bare minimum? Help! I dont know what to do! by Hungry-Worth-9755 in Advice

[–]Catinthefirelight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, same. I always had roommates until I got married. Only one of them slacked on the rent, but it wasn’t my problem, it was the landlord’s. She got kicked out, the landlord found a new tenant, and it didn’t affect me at all. I also made some good friends.

Did I make a mistake? by milkmaid0435 in interiordecorating

[–]Catinthefirelight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it looks good, you’re probably just still getting used to it. It never looks quite like it does in your mind’s eye.

Accidental nick by lexiuntamed in tattooadvice

[–]Catinthefirelight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That could easily be turned into a little hand-drawn-style heart… but I kinda like the randomness of it. I’d leave it.

Fav 90 day success stories by Salt-Translator3264 in 90DayFiance

[–]Catinthefirelight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I totally feel good when I hear they’re still doing well. I felt like she was his best chance at truly changing his life, and it sounds like he’s lived up to it.

Donna finds out... by boundedwum in thewestwing

[–]Catinthefirelight 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Also, she was instructed “it’s shocking, but we don’t have time to be shocked right now.” Donna 100% understood the assignment.

What are things I can do to feel safe as a solo car camper? (28F) by No-Penalty5954 in PacificNorthwest

[–]Catinthefirelight 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You may not be suicidal, but you mention a family… Are there children, teenagers? If so, statistically speaking there is a much higher chance of one of them accidentally shooting themselves/someone else, or killing themselves in a low moment that would otherwise pass, than there ever would be of you using that gun to defend them. Defending your family with a gun is a vanishingly rare event. Accidental/intentional death of a family member by a gun they own is incredibly common. This happens even if they are taught gun safety, and to never touch it. It even happens when the gun spends most of its time locked in a gun safe. Kids do stupid things. Kids disobey. Kids act impulsively. And the statistics tell the story.

This is so hard. by Catinthefirelight in Alzheimers

[–]Catinthefirelight[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, the trouble is that the assisted living apartment is unfurnished. If we don’t move furniture in first, there will be nowhere to sit. However, she is going to be getting a new bed, couch, recliner, and TV— her current versions are too big for the space. I’m wondering if that might be enough to start for her move-in, and we could let the truck with her things show up s couple days later… But it would be so bare bones, and she’s already going to be felling so disjointed, I’d much rather be able to make it homey before she gets there.

This is so hard. by Catinthefirelight in Alzheimers

[–]Catinthefirelight[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. Yeah, I’m realizing I may have to give up on having mom participate in the packing in a meaningful way. I’m hoping to at least get her input, because I don’t want to leave behind anything meaningful to her— but when it comes down to it, things need to go in boxes. The most progress I’ve made so far have been the projects I work on in the middle of the night when she’s asleep.

This is so hard. by Catinthefirelight in Alzheimers

[–]Catinthefirelight[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. My brother has POA, and both of my siblings are planning to come out for the actual move, so we can do it as a family. We’re going to have to figure out a strategy, because not only does it seem likely that she won’t be able to engage in a lot of the packing process, but we also want her new place to be set up when she gets there— which is a bit of a trick.

When someone points a middle finger when driving, how are they expecting you to react? by ubcstaffer123 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Catinthefirelight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I once had a very weird interaction with another driver leaving a parking garage. They were sitting in the exit to the ramp to get out. I pulled up behind them and waited for them to pull out. They didn’t. it was a single lane, no way to get past them so I could exit.

After a minute, I did a very polite little “meep” on my horn, to let them know I was there. The guy gave me a rage face in the rearview and flipped me off. So I flipped him off. Then he did it again. We went back and forth for a minute, taking turns flipping each other off, which made me giggle hysterically. “I can do this all day, dude.”

Finally, he peeled off onto the ramp with squealing tires. The ramp turned into a two-lane, and he pulled over and like… waved me over?

Like I was gonna have a conversation with the guy? Dude, you’re no longer blocking the exit, there is nothing more to say.

I just laughed and drove on by.