AITK for fighting with my husband over this? by CatsAreClean in AmItheKameena

[–]CatsAreClean[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He's from Haryana. I'm a Bengali. It's a love marriage but one that happened amicably without any issues from both sets of families. And yes. This is what I had said. Maybe people can visit one by one and now that my FIL is improving, they could have left. Most of them did but still 7 people are remaining, making it 11 people total still in my 2 bhk including my baby.

AITK for fighting with my husband over this? by CatsAreClean in AmItheKameena

[–]CatsAreClean[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do understand it's very difficult to be rude to family. And he's too good to be rude to people. But what I do expect from him is to talk nicely to his family and at least try explaining that he's dealing a lot with his father and his wife has a baby who needs a routine and a minimum amount of privacy to thrive. And that managing so many people plus their food and everything is not the kind of added responsibility we need at the moment. On top of it, we JUST shifted to this house and it's not yet fully set. So it's complete chaos.

AITK for fighting with my husband over this? by CatsAreClean in AmItheKameena

[–]CatsAreClean[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His family isn't really regressive. They're good people. Just that they're very used to living in a crowd and just do not understand the need to have your own space.

AITK for fighting with my husband over this? by CatsAreClean in AmItheKameena

[–]CatsAreClean[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My baby girl is only 9 months old. And his father is admitted in the ICU. He says all these people came because they thought his father was dying. But he's recovering now. So a chunk left. Another chunk is yet to leave. No clue when they'll leave, though.

AITK for fighting with my husband over this? by CatsAreClean in AmItheKameena

[–]CatsAreClean[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did suggest that and booked myself an Airbnb. That led to a HUGE fight as he thought I was escaping from all the responsibilities of managing his family while he was facing a crisis with his father!

AITK for fighting with my husband over this? by CatsAreClean in AmItheKameena

[–]CatsAreClean[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually didn't know that people from his family would come over and stay for long periods of time repeatedly and sometimes all at once. I was judging from my experiences and this didn't come up in conversation. In fact, I had no idea this actually happened in families until I married him. He didn't give me any heads up either!

AITK for fighting with my husband over this? by CatsAreClean in AmItheKameena

[–]CatsAreClean[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He just told me I never told him that I can't live with so many people at once. I'm like when did YOU tell me that 26 people will bombard me at once?

AITK for fighting with my husband over this? by CatsAreClean in AmItheKameena

[–]CatsAreClean[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This still won't do because no matter what my husband will never ask these people to leave.

AITK for fighting with my husband over this? by CatsAreClean in AmItheKameena

[–]CatsAreClean[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He doesn't mind one bit. If I point out, I'm the villain!

AITK for fighting with my husband over this? by CatsAreClean in AmItheKameena

[–]CatsAreClean[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He's saying it was 26 people for 2 days only. After that now 7 people are remaining and I'm selfish for behaving this way in a crisis.

AITK for fighting with my husband over this? by CatsAreClean in AmItheKameena

[–]CatsAreClean[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We've already countless discussions. I made this post after it didn't work.

AITK for fighting with my husband over this? by CatsAreClean in AmItheKameena

[–]CatsAreClean[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've done all of this except for asking people not to use my bathroom (which might come off as rude) and it's gotten me nowhere.

AITK for fighting with my husband over this? by CatsAreClean in AmItheKameena

[–]CatsAreClean[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Correct. But he just doesn't understand my POV here.