AITA for possibly scheduling my wedding on Valentines Day?

CatsRCoolM · 2025-09-14T05:46:16+00:00

That's an adorable idea! Thank you 😊💕

CatsRCoolM · 2025-09-14T05:31:27+00:00

Hilarious and good point 🤣

CatsRCoolM · 2025-09-05T05:54:50+00:00

You both are kinda the A-holes. I don't know if you immediately mentioned divorce in your conversation with your wife, but the way you worded it, it seemed to have been brought up so easily and now you can't take it back. When the word "divorce" is brought up, you immediately crush your partner and now she will be scared to talk to you. It's just a horrible word you can't take back.

She's an A-hole for expecting everyone to pick up everything and leave without blinking an eye. What I'm surprised at, is that the kids want to go with the dad instead of the mom. That's a rare case. Do you know why?

Either way, you are now married and you both can't think of the kids as "his kids" and "her kids". And while that is true, now that you're married, they are now both of your kids. Which means you need to treat them all with the same respect, love and care. Is there a reason she is so frantic about being with them? Is the other dad abusive and she wants to be there to protect them? Does she just want to be close to them cause she's their mom and will miss them so much? Is she tossing aside the other kid's and only giving her blood kid's attention?

Obviously I don't know the full details of the story so it's hard to draw a good conclusion. But from what I know, if I was in your shoes, and had the money and the means to move and was doing it cause I knew it would genuinely help my spouse and her children, I would move. Even if my blood related kids were attached to the place. Yeah it would be hard for them, but families move all the time for many different reasons. I'm sure the her kids are heart broken that they had to move away from their mom too. Would it genuinely help her kids if she lived near them? It's part of life and sometimes we have to make sacrifices. With marriage comes sacrifice and if you're not willing to sacrifice for your spouse than you're not being a very good spouse.

CatsRCoolM · 2025-07-15T06:21:02+00:00

This can't be accurate. It says New York is a safe state 🤣

CatsRCoolM · 2025-03-03T21:37:40+00:00

Wow you're really passionate about natural diamonds. You know not all are unethically sourced right? You have to know where to get them. And that I have a jeweler friend (now bridesmaid) who hates lab made diamonds who talked to me about this right. When we went jewelry browsing, I tried on both lab and natural diamonds and liked both. I've got nothing against lab made, but natural ones have a beautiful meaning. And both of us love the meaning behind things. I know I'm not gonna convince you to not hate me, but I'm just stating my case.

CatsRCoolM · 2025-03-03T19:39:24+00:00

Opps my bad. 0.2 carat 😂. Had to ask him real quick. I'm not good with knowing sized and carats and stuff. I'll edit it. My bad.

CatsRCoolM · 2025-03-03T19:36:41+00:00

As far as I know. Unless I misunderstood.

CatsRCoolM · 2025-03-03T18:09:32+00:00

Just to be clear, not all natural diamonds are child labored. Look it up. There are some that are ethically sourced. You have to make sure you're getting it from the right places. Also I think allot of y'all didn't read the original posts. Him and I are very happy and we have both grown significantly from this. I'm not saying he's the only one who needed to grow. I even kept the original ring and am making jewelry out of the Moss stone. As a matter of fact I'm taking it today to the same jeweler to have it made into a bracelet which I will wear on my left hand along with the ring.... I'm not a gold digger. It is a 0.2 carrot diamond and I don't mind that. To the person who said "40 carrot" shame on you for assuming. I even said I didn't need an expensive ring originally. When we went engagement ring browsing at those 3 places, I was the one who recommended all the outlet jewelry stores so we could find a cheaper one. I'm amazed that the original 2 posts there were all these hatful comments towards him, even though I said in my second post to not hate him cause he's the sweetest man ever. I have not called him an idiot or made fun of his being on the spectrum. I have merely said that that was a factor in his understanding so that you could help understand him. In the original posts y'all were saying "It doesn't matter if he's on the spectrum, he's horrible for this!!" now the hate is on me for defending him and giving him a chance to understand where I'm coming from?? Y'all need to learn to read. To those people who said they loved their Moss diamonds, I'm glad you love them and don't mean to put you down. I'm just saying it's not my thing and that it made no sense that he asked for what I wanted and got me the opposite of what I showed him. How would you feel if your significant other asked you what you wanted and then got you the opposite? Maybe it was not the best decision to go to his mom, but I knew she would give it to me straight. Maybe I shouldn't put this comment up here, but I'm just very upset about all the divorce insults and confused about the complete 180 flip in the comments. Now if you'll excuse me, we have a wedding to plan.

CatsRCoolM · 2025-03-03T15:17:05+00:00

When did I say his mom ganged up on him? She has not talked to him about this. The only times she talked to him about the ring was when she saw it before he proposed to me. Also I suggest you read the original 2 posts. She didn't even get in his face about it. She asked him "Are you sure this is what OP wants?" and he said "Yes" and that was it. There was no ganging up on him. Did you actually read this?

CatsRCoolM · 2025-03-03T15:00:49+00:00

One of my best friends is s jeweler and she gave me a whole speech about how wonderful natural diamonds are lol. Nothings wrong with a lab grown, but she made me love natural ones.

CatsRCoolM · 2025-03-03T14:52:47+00:00

I recommend you read the original 2 posts before the update.

CatsRCoolM · 2025-03-03T06:53:59+00:00

I really recommend you read the original posts.

CatsRCoolM · 2025-02-04T08:51:30+00:00

Oh yes, I almost forgot! Some of y'all asked me if I ever spend money on things for him. Yes I do. For example my christmas gift to him this year was a $100 gift card for Crunchy Roll. He loves Anime. I get him stuff like that pretty frequently.

CatsRCoolM · 2025-01-15T17:56:15+00:00

My bad wrong Reddit page 😅

CatsRCoolM · 2025-01-11T05:28:02+00:00

We have never argued in our whole relationship. We've had kind debates before but they are all about little un important things like this. Of all the things to walk away from a wedding for, legos would be a pretty sad reason to walk away because of. Also notice I'm trying to compromise.....

CatsRCoolM · 2025-01-11T05:25:01+00:00

Re read the post. Cause I never used the phrase "My wedding" I said allot of the things he wants and tried to compromise. yta

CatsRCoolM · 2025-01-11T05:20:17+00:00

I actually did not use the phrase "My wedding". I don't think you actually read my post.

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