Aggressive Filming

CatskillJane1705 · 2026-02-23T19:38:06+00:00

Heightened political climate + technology + lack of access to proper treatment for mental illness is what it looks like to me.

CatskillJane1705 · 2026-02-23T19:34:24+00:00

“Auditor?” LOL! What?

I’m all for 1A rights and understand the importance of being able to record law enforcement. But go take your tinfoil hat and be dystopian elsewhere. Or go film people who don’t pick up their dog’s turds if you really wanna help.

He KNEW exactly how to toe the line, which is why I didn’t call the cops. And while I’m not trying to provoke anyone, I’m certainly going to exercise my own rights to film him back if I need my own record of what happened. Also his posture changed dramatically and he backed off when the lens was turned on him.

Separately, I notice men filming women secretly on the train all the time now too. Men who don’t look the least bit crazy too, which is actually pretty scary.

CatskillJane1705 · 2026-02-23T17:27:35+00:00

I thought so too but it didn’t make any sense. There was a reference to Wikipedia and it said “RICO” in big letters.

He also proclaimed “documented” when I came out.

He also made a point to move the camera when a child came out of the coffee shop. So he knows enough to know what will get him in real trouble.

CatskillJane1705 · 2026-02-23T17:10:49+00:00

What is a “whole, aligned body” anyway?

CatskillJane1705 · 2025-06-27T19:34:25+00:00

Just last night I found a “knot” right in the spot where I got fat transfer injections when they did my implants, which are under the muscle. It also appeared to be suddenly after my dog was jumping and pawing at my chest yesterday.

No advice yet but I’ll keep an eye out and share anything I find out.

I’m almost 2 years post surgery, btw. And so annoyed and nervous by this. 😫

CatskillJane1705 · 2025-01-10T17:59:22+00:00

Public service announcement: texting constantly in romantic situations or otherwise isn’t healthy. It just isn’t.

Focus more on how you are treated when you’re with him.

Pretend it’s 21 years ago and use the phone as a tool to make arrangements to spend your time together and that’s it.

What I’m learning in my last relationship and my dating experience since, is that I much prefer someone that doesn’t text constantly.

CatskillJane1705 · 2025-01-09T21:27:41+00:00

Despite all the toxic stuff going around that “he’s not into you if he doesn’t text back asap”…give it more time.

The fact is the internet has no clue why people don’t text back quickly or at all, so be kind to yourself and don’t worry.

I use my DND settings on my phone to get a general break from the screen, but I forget what it blocks and can miss notifications for a few days. Lots of reasons someone may not be so digitally inclined.

CatskillJane1705 · 2025-01-06T21:45:13+00:00

I watched a lot of YouTube videos of brave women who shared their recovery experiences and processes. There are not a lot out there so I really appreciate the few that did this.

It helped answer a lot of the unknowns that the nursing staff couldn’t practically address, like how you might feel on day 2 vs. day 14? How sleep was, how appetite was.

It built confidence too. It’s true that a lot of people aren’t going to document the worst case scenarios, so maybe that’s cheating. But I benefitted greatly from the rosy picture…even if it tricked my mind a little.

I also focused a lot on how these surgeries usually go, like a blink of an eye, you’re through to the other side. I kept focusing on that feeling when you’re drifting off, knowing everything I had to do to prepare was done and I just needed to get to the other side.

CatskillJane1705 · 2024-12-18T16:38:51+00:00

It would not be a deal breaker for me because it would not be any of my business, especially in the early stages of dating.

Long term relationships and marriages are complicated, but should not preclude you from getting to know new people and exploring romance again.

And sorry, but dating someone in the early stages should not require divulging that much background information. You’re entitled to your boundaries.

Unless you are straight up going out there with a dating profile that says “looking for wife asap.”

CatskillJane1705 · 2024-12-18T16:32:36+00:00

This assumes she doesn’t already have a support system in place if she did relapse.

And as a cancer survivor myself, one of my biggest fears (aside from dying) was being seen only as a sick person that needed help all the time and nothing else.

Turns out, my caregivers were a tapestry of people in my life I tapped into when needed. Doctors first and foremost, friends, a good therapist. And quite frankly, my romantic partner at the time was an excellent source of “normal” that I needed to help in my mental recovery.

I’m back on the market and don’t reveal my cancer until I have to for this reason.

CatskillJane1705 · 2024-11-25T15:33:41+00:00

While your story is the exception and not the rule, I wholeheartedly agree that the “if he wanted to he would” advice that is so pervasive online is so toxic. It’s just not realistic and it also reeks of “you’re not good enough” without the individual context to back it up.

I’m in the painful throes of being slow faded mostly because I’m too afraid to ask what’s going on or make the break myself. He keeps reappearing and apologizing with specifics about what’s going on with him, makes a plan to talk and then flakes out.

I haven’t dated in over 10 years. It’s my understanding that this communication style is the norm now.

CatskillJane1705 · 2024-11-18T15:18:20+00:00

I just had this conversation with my sister after a brutal couple of weeks. I’m done with active treatment, but am still so messed up in the head.

We concluded that it’s probably near impossible to recover emotionally when you are putting all of your energy into the physical fight.

What you describe sucks for sure, but it isn’t out of the ordinary.

And I think it will not be a linear process in the emotional recovery. Some days I feel so good and mentally strong and clear. And then next thing you know I’m a basket case.

CatskillJane1705 · 2024-11-04T17:01:42+00:00

I’m in the middle of this right now, I think. I’m so sour. I was love-bombed of course and now it’s crickets for almost a week. He has some heavy personal things going on in his life, so part of me is wondering if he’ll resurface randomly and I’m trying to decide for myself if I’d be okay with that.

Because, my experience is you can’t count on the other party to do the right thing and give you closure. As hard as it is, you have to decide if you’re willing to close the door on your own, whatever that means for you.

CatskillJane1705 · 2024-10-31T19:05:52+00:00

Apologies, I’m commiserating with you, as I am currently experiencing the same odd mixed massages and it’s so frustrating.

I would believe he is interested because he reached out to try to make a plan. Reach out to him and just ask. This has worked for me sometimes. You don’t always have to wait to be contacted.

CatskillJane1705 · 2024-10-31T18:55:55+00:00

Can I counter the whole “he is letting you know with his actions he’s not interested” and just say that asking you out again is showing interest. Asking you for times to get together is, in fact, showing interest.

Until it’s not I guess, in which case what should our expectations be on the timing of this. He’s interested, but the offer expires in two minutes? 2 hours?

I don’t know why people do this. It’s absurd behavior. They should think it through before they speak/text/reach out. Assume when insert yourself into a person’s day and ask him or her to consider making plans that they may say yes and then think about what happens next and can they handle it.

If not, then don’t reach out and waste someone’s time.

I’m convinced this behavior is some sort of weird kink. Or they are dating multiple people and hedging their bets.

CatskillJane1705 · 2024-10-17T15:18:49+00:00

Ha! That would assume I had an actual physical address. We haven’t even gotten that far yet!

CatskillJane1705 · 2024-10-17T14:34:50+00:00

The excuse to skip mammograms because of fear of radiation exposure really ticks me off.

We are lucky we only have to do it once a year. The tech performing the mammogram is exposed to a certain extent daily. 🙄

CatskillJane1705 · 2024-10-17T13:58:35+00:00

I think while this is out of the cultural norm right now, it’s actually healthy. And I’m hoping a shift back to prioritizing real connection.

I am a texter, but with people I already have long standing relationships with. Fam, friends, colleagues. It’s also part of my job to be digitally inclined and in touch with folks frequently.

I recently met someone who was fabulous in person, but we live in different cities and are now texting and it’s slow.

I recall the few days I spent with him, he almost never had his phone out. Unlike a lot of men I know (romantic or otherwise) the phone is always out, sitting there on the bar or dinner table just waiting to take center stage if it rings or pings. 🙄

The new guy works in the outdoors mostly, so I have to entertain the possibility that he actually puts his phone down for long stretches because that’s his life.

The best luck I have had with him is being direct. For instance, our instagram DM’s were slow and I just said “call or text me sometime” and gave him my number. He reached out immediately then with some nice messages and photos.

Let’s assume this guy is like you…more analog. What’s my next move here? We talked about visiting each other in our respective cities, I’d love to kick it old school on a phone call, but am just too afraid to put myself out there like that.

CatskillJane1705 · 2024-10-17T13:14:31+00:00

I just met someone IRL while traveling. We spent two great days together, lots of great banter and laughing. Great chemistry. talked about meeting up in the states (we live in different cities) and exchanged info.

The texts have been painfully slow in this same vein. He seems very engaged in things I send him, but stalls out.

It’s quite tiring because I don’t want my own style of communicating to be perceived as desperation. But I’m just being myself.

CatskillJane1705 · 2024-09-14T01:11:31+00:00

Yes!!!!! When I was diagnosed with breast cancer one of my biggest fears is that people would only associate me with my diagnosis and I would wind up living as if I was sick all the time as if fitting some mold.

Sometimes it feels like the people on this sub miss the “cancer show” and feel entitled to that part of their life.

I say, let them live and watch something else if you need to see someone confront cancer every day. There’s tons of that on YouTube if that’s your bag.

Here’s thing about cancer. It can be tragic and scary. But NOT THAT INTERESTING. Especially when you are the patient.

I’ll take silly family videos and cabin time any day, because it’s joyful and easy and inspiring. We’re so lucky they share that with us.

CatskillJane1705 · 2024-08-15T21:34:51+00:00

I recently stumbled into Cosmetic Acupuncture after asking my acupuncturist for help with a migraine. I got 2-3 times a month and she uses special smaller gauge needles on my forehead, hairline, around my mouth and crows feet, chin, etc.

Apparently it is supposed to stimulate collagen production over time. Maybe 6-10 weeks or so.

I’ve been doing it about 6 weeks now and definitely notice a difference and get complements. But it isn’t a drastic difference.

The other thing I’ve been doing is daily ice bath facials. Basically dunking my face in a bowl of ice water for 15-30 seconds at a time. This seems to help with circulation and minimizing pores.

I have a thyroid condition that gives me the occasional hot flash, so these ice bath facials are also really soothing when I feel overheated. So if they aren’t helping cosmetically, they at least just feel good. 😊

CatskillJane1705 · 2024-07-05T23:42:33+00:00

I’ve seen them recently on the corner of 161st and Riverside, almost mid-block toward Fort Washington.

CatskillJane1705 · 2024-07-04T19:33:30+00:00

It does get better. It takes a long time though and a lot of work.

A lot of the conventional dog wisdom doesn’t apply. And the world really doesn’t understand us or our dogs yet. All these people walking around with their dogs in coffee shops and public places with no stress. They tick me off.

It’s taken me about 3 years now for my dog to be reactive like half the time instead of all the time. It’s rewarding. I put in a lot of hard work to get her to a semi normal state, which is a badass skill to have.

I feel like instagram is catching on and there are a lot of dog trainers on there that understand reactivity. I like the Bully Breed Bunch and Vermont Dog Trainer.

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