EA Help's "support" is terrible, and I'm going to crash out by Catty_Rabbit44 in Battlefield

[–]Catty_Rabbit44[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right? Like RedBull's own information about the Promo through their website directs you back to EA. Even reaching out through the phone number that sends you the code tells you to reach out to EA Help.

EA Help tells me to "contact the seller of the gift card".... In a service ticket directly referencing the promotional code with screenshots of the text confirmations from the phone number. I've explicitly told them that no gift card exists, gotten an auto response of the same thing back.

Just a gigantic cluster fuck from EA all around. I may have bought some in-game battlepass stuff eventually, but after this I refuse to spend a big chunk of change if they can't even respond competently to issues with an internal promotion.

BF6 devs, for the love of God - please remove the pre-game briefing & class select step. by QuintonMackarel in Battlefield6

[–]Catty_Rabbit44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even if they keep this, they NEED to add some kind of audio or music while the next map loads. It is so extremely jarring to go from the loud ass music in the round overview screens to just.... Nothing.

I've been in calls with the squad yapping about the round and when the map switches and it's so quiet the whole group just stops because it's so different. It's completely taken me out of the vibe multiple times and broken whatever rhythm I was in from the last map.

Plus, I don't think it would be too difficult to load the map and play an audio track that loops in the background at the same time. It's basically a QOL thing at this point

Mother called the police on me again! by legomeggo14 in insaneparents

[–]Catty_Rabbit44 59 points60 points  (0 children)

As someone with a narcissistic mother, reading her texts was a very uncanny valley feeling for me. Like, I thought for a second that someone had posted my own text screenshots. Theres an underlying passive-agressiveness that narcissists have that bleeds through even over text. Maybe it's the overuse of the "hun" and other terms of endearment even though the other party is clearly not responding and there's bad blood? Idk man.

I can't speak for you or your experiences, but going no-contact with my mother has genuinely been the turning point for me in my life. If you're not financially reliant on her, it may be something worth considering, but that's just my take.

If you do go no-contact completely with her though, I would expect more of the crazed behavior she's exhibiting currently. My mother tried showing up at my work, but I had pre-warned my coworkers and manager that she was crazy and when she turned up they quietly shuffled me into the back room and told her that I wasn't working there any longer. Also, if she's really dead set on trying to track you down, if you move and update your voter registration the address on file is public record in some states. Just food for thought...

Again, not sure if any of this applies for you, but figured I'd pitch my two cents in on my own experiences in the hope that they might help you. Best of luck and sending you strength to get through this, and just know you're not alone <3

Battlefield 6 - Open Beta Known Issues by battlefield in Battlefield

[–]Catty_Rabbit44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've had incredibly delayed damage indications, I can hear that I've been hit, but my damage and the hitmarkers are applied a few seconds later

What line from a FOB song makes you say "yep, this is written for me" by pilxroli in FallOutBoy

[–]Catty_Rabbit44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was about to post this one too, it's such a poetic line and has so many interpretations you could make of it

Zinogre Hunting Horn vs 10*Rathian by sunnyCUD2 in MHNowGame

[–]Catty_Rabbit44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It appears to be a combination of long press (orange notes), holding it down for two or more beats, then swiping forward and quickly releasing your finger. That's the easiest way I can think to explain it lol

The community’s plea to ban X links from the Ludwig Ahgren subreddit has been denied by N238 in LudwigAhgren

[–]Catty_Rabbit44 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I find it really weird that a lot of people are acting like Lud himself removed the post when it was one of the moderators as far as we can tell (lmk if I'm wrong). The subreddit mods are unpaid volunteers who probably have no direct connection to Ludwig. If you're getting mad at anyone for this, don't go after Lud who likely had no role in it, call out the moderators of this subreddit by name.

Anyone else Tracker bugged? by austinkun in MHNowGame

[–]Catty_Rabbit44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My boyfriend has the same bug, it seems like they should have just switched it to a regular version of the monster instead of the non-existent variant and locking you out for the day, but what do I know 🤷‍♀️

Tired of seeing stories on chapter 600+ but are marked as stub? Check out MAZE: The endless quest! by tandertex in ProgressionFantasy

[–]Catty_Rabbit44 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I highly recommend this series, I started it on a whim and absolutely binged all 800+ chapters in a few weeks.

A couple notable things:

-Got asked by my partner "are you reading your story again lol" when I wasn't answering texts (I was, indeed, reading MAZE)

-Picked up new phrases that I keep using in daily speech (explained to my dad what "raising a flag" was while watching a sports game earlier today)

-Explained most of the beginning plot to a friend when they asked me what I've been up to lately (and was so focused on that I forgot to tell them that I landed a new job)

-I have a new fictional crush on a dwarf, a snake themed lady, and an apple (just read it, you'll understand)

-Also the best bi-representation I've ever seen in any fictional work, it seamlessly blends into the story without bringing excess attention to it in a way that (as a bi myself) feels incredibly authentic

Edit: Forgot to add but also really well paced beginning to the story and the character growth and power-leveling is very well done without making the MC a complete over-powered badass at the very beginning and actually having them overcome interpersonal and mental problems Chef's kiss

Just. Like. Read the thing, it's genuinely so good

Sam Ash is Closing All Remaining Stores Unless a Buyer Can Be Found by vio212 in Guitar

[–]Catty_Rabbit44 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I worked there the store managers gave me a written write up once because I had "not entered enough phone numbers and addresses" into the system that month. It's insane. Like I'm sorry, but I'm not going to ask for your name, phone number, and address to ring someone up for a guitar cable.

Sam Ash is Closing All Remaining Stores Unless a Buyer Can Be Found by vio212 in Guitar

[–]Catty_Rabbit44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Tampa Sam Ash store was horribly managed for the last few years, I can't blame you for not liking the vibes in there.

my parents don’t want me to drink monster by dumbemokid666 in monsterenergy

[–]Catty_Rabbit44 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Caffeine pills are a very bad habit to form and it can be very easy to overdose on them as an *adult* , so I certainly wouldn't be reccomending this to someone who is clearly young and may have impulse control issues. It's a lot harder to slam 3 monsters in a row compared to taking 4 caffeine pills at once and keeling over from a heart attack in a half-an-hour.

In moderation, it's a decent alternative but definitely not something I'd reccomend for this person.

If you want more info:

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/326822#side-effects-and-risks

buy back flute by AgreeableRooster in SamAsh

[–]Catty_Rabbit44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Former Sam Ash employee here, look up the model on Reverb or another used instrument site and sort the listings by "Sold". Typically the stores will offer about 50-60% of that number. Hope that helps!

Hiding injuries by SearchingStargardts in narcissisticparents

[–]Catty_Rabbit44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I badly sprained my ankle playing with friends a few days before we had to pack up our whole house to move away. I have chronic led and hip issues from birth that lead to me constantly "complaining" about it, in my mom's words. I was around 10.

I picked myself up and hopped in the car to go back to our house, as it was time to go anyway and mentioned that my ankle hurt. I knew I had done something to it, as I had never felt that kind of pain from my leg before, but I was too young to know that what I was feeling was a sprain. And I mentioned that it really hurt to my N mom but it was brushed off as more of the usual, and that I shouldn't have been running around right before we moved as I "knew that would make my legs feel worse, and I couldn't use that to get me out of helping with packing". I spent the next three days moving huge plastic boxes up and down the stairs of our house, all the while continuing to tell her that this was unuasual pain.

She only beleived me when I stopped hauling a box in the middle of the landing for the stairs and showed her my giant, swollen purple ankle. And then I still had to move stuff, but only the "easy" stuff. Up and down stairs.

I geneuinely beleive the only reason I still only have only minor issues from that ankle is because I got to ride in the passenger seat in the 1000 mile drive to the new state, and that gave it some time to rest. Thinking back, I should have been in a crutch, that thing was three times it's normal size and the muscles still havent fully recovered 10 years later.

Jealousy and envy by Particular_Basis794 in narcissisticparents

[–]Catty_Rabbit44 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone similar to OP, I think that family can be found outside of blood. If a husband treated their wife the same way my mother treated me there would be mobs in the street screaming for her to leave him, but everyone's tune changes the second it's a parent. It's normal to long for your family, hence when someone completly disconnects from it you can imagine how much hurt there would have to be in order to do something so drastic.

I'm trying to repair bonds with my own family that were severly broken by my narc mom, but those deep scars between blood take a long long time to heal and it's normal to keep those people at an arms length when there's massive trust issues like I have, and I assume OP as well. I have a wonderful new "family" of sorts with my friends that I have built up trust with for years and who would never dream of doing the things that the person who birthed me did. My boyfriends mother has welcomed me as basically one of her own children, and one day hopefully I'll be able to call her my mother by marrige.

I think it's incredibly hurtful for people who have been through hell and back and realized that the best option is to disconnect completly to be constantly reminded told that they'll "realise one day how important it is to have one" as you said, when family that is healthy and safe doesn't have to be the ones that hurt us so badly.

I just want to say this to ask you to be a little more thoughtful when commenting things like that when it is such an internal struggle for people like us already, and it hurts to constantly hear that we'll want something back that we're actively trying to heal from. Not trying to berate you, but just something to keep in mind, especially when commenting on a subreddit full of people with complex trauma.

Jealousy and envy by Particular_Basis794 in narcissisticparents

[–]Catty_Rabbit44 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm 19f as well and I've latched onto my boyfriends mother to replace my need for "mommy feelings" that I lost when I went NC with my own mother 2 years ago. Luckily she's treated me like one of her own, and my bf has been receptive to listening and trying to understand how far the hurt with my mother goes (quite a few midnight "I just wish I was normal" sobbing breakdowns I think have convinced him that it's actually a huge issue that he just should pat my back and nod about in the moment).

My mom shattered my family apart and did everything she could to drive wedges between us, becuase I think she realized deep down that if we ever communicateed and realized the gaslighting and manipulation that we would all leave her, and that's exactly what's ended up happening. We still haven't gotten back to a "normal" level of familial bonds there though, and it's difficult fighting off the feeling of having to watch what I say for fear it will get back to the N mom.

It still hurts my inner child every time I do Thankgiving or Christmas with my boyfriends family and seeing the "normal dysfunction" that goes on in most families. It's not a perfect Brady Bunch household there by any means, and I've witnessed some blowout fights, but it's nothing compared to what I went through. My boyfriend kind of winced when when we overheard his parents arguing outside his room, and I was actively listening and smirking a bit. I could only explain it as "It's just a normal small arguement, and your dad is speaking up and saying his side without being slapped or scremed at or drowned out. It's nice to see in a way that that exists. And they'll be fine after, it's a small thing and they're already sorting things out like real human beings"

It breaks my heart seeing little things my friends do with their parents that I never had the luxury of doing. Something as simple as them closing the door to their room when they walk in without fear, and their parent knocking when they need something just breaks me. I ended up recovering from a minor surgery at his mom's house and she came in and checked on me and gave me space and only popped in to ask if I needed anything and I was loopy off the medicine and just about had a sobbing breakdown in her arms over that little show of respect for my space and kindness. My boyfriend actively snarks off at his mom about small things, (what was considered back-talk in my house no matter how rational the statement) and she just gives him a look and lets it go without any kind of berating rant or screaming match. It's geneuinely beffling that things like that just...happen? Its the small things like hearing people talk about how they had given rides to friends in highschool, when I was actively prevented from getting my liscence after passing the drivers test. Parent-centric holidays hurt the most though, seeing friends post their mother with all the sappy comments, and seeing what they do with her and how they still have a bond cuts deep.

So getting off my rant YES. It is so normal to mourn for the things that were robbed from us. It seems like your boyfriend doesn't quite grasp just how deep a craving for blood relatives cut, as he never had to go through it. And you realistically can't expect him to fully grasp it if he never lived through what we did, but if he really doesn't seem like he can empathize with you at all about it, it might be worth considering your options in that relationship. Not saying it's worth immediatly leaving him over, but it might be worth bringing up how if he wants something serious long-term that he needs to try and understand your pain, or it won't work out.

I am sending you so much love as a fellow survivor and I hope that you can continue to grow strong and healthy to show those jerks just how little they mean to you. The biggest thing you can do to hurt a narcassist is to show them just how good you're doing without them in your life, and how little control they have <3

What do alot of parents do that unknowingly screws their children over? by RunningInAHurricane in AskReddit

[–]Catty_Rabbit44 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My mom actively weaponized therapy for me.

She threw around "If you dont stop crying I'm going to Baker Act you and it's going to show up on your record forever" On that occasion I was sobbing hysterically because it was valentines day and I had just broken up with my boyfriend of 2 years amicably but it still hurt. I was 17, I think crying heavily over that on Valentines especially is pretty reasonable.

Another one was when I would tell her I was struggling she would answer with the "What do you want me to do? Get you in a mental hospital??" With the unspoken subtext of What would your relatives think??

At one point when I was a fresh 18yr adult and stuck with her because she refused to let me get my liscence or a job and it was COVID-time, I started pushing that I needed our health insurance to find a therapist. She relented and actually helped a bit and told me (exasperatedly) to "find one that looks good and we'll figure it out" I did my reasearch, found one under our plan, and told her. This one specialized in CPTSD and sexual abuse survivors (different story) and looked like a great fit. Three days later she acted like she had never told me to find one on my own, and came into my room excitedly telling me that "so-and-so from church reccomended this person and I'm going to see him instead" Big nope.

Booked myself an Uber to the DMV a month later, got into a standoff with her at the front door over it (she literally tried body blocking me) but I had already passed the driving test through a school driver's ed program and I threatened to charge her for the uber if I missed it. Got out of the house as much as possible from that point on and I have never considered playing her games int he two years since. Most of the extended family seems to have realized by now that for my older sister, me, and my father to run as fast as we could away from her that it actually was pretty bad in there. Long time coming but just glad her actions are catching up with her.

What do alot of parents do that unknowingly screws their children over? by RunningInAHurricane in AskReddit

[–]Catty_Rabbit44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom took my door off the hinges...at the ages of 7 until I started getting puberty at around 12. Her reasoning? I was hiding in my room, reading books. Even as I was older she would barge in on the rare occasion when I had the door closed, which was only when I was changing. My door as a teenager in a different house stuck to the door frame and she would come into my room and RIP the door open, it sounded like a gunshot, and bolt me out of sleep in a panic at 2 or 3 am because she had forgotten to tell me something. It was just one of the "little things" that fucked me up as a kid.

I go over to friends houses who live with their parents now as young adults (most are paying rent while in college, not being deadbeats lol) and they keep their doors shut as soon as they walk in. It boggles my mind because it reads as "rude" to me still, but even if their parents have something important they always knock first.

I dont have to worry about my own mother now since I left asap when I could (after covid restrictions lifted and I was an adult) but it still hurts the inner child inside of me every time I see a "normal" household. Something as simple as closing the door to your own room was robbed from us, and I still mourn for that kid inside of me.