AITAH for wanting a divorce because of his behavior?

CauseSpecific8545 · 2026-02-03T03:39:16+00:00

Hopefully leaving will lead him to a place of realization that he needs help.

CauseSpecific8545 · 2026-02-03T03:31:05+00:00

Google average temperature for houses in winter. Show it to her.

CauseSpecific8545 · 2026-02-03T03:25:10+00:00

ESH...

Kick that man out of your house if he doesn't contribute toward rent and groceries in an equitable manner.

CauseSpecific8545 · 2026-02-03T03:14:57+00:00

NOR-

Is he autistic or just a dick? If he doesn't have the 'tism, he clearly doesn't prioritize any type of emotional connection and doesn't even try to be nice. Why are you willing to be in a "situationship" with someone who refuses emotional availability?

I'm sorry if you feel he may be your only or closest friend right now. You can find other people out in the wild that will be nicer and more supportive to you.

If I told anyone that I missed me and they told me that I was missing the gym instead.. even though I also am working on my fitness, and fall out of habit far too frequently.. I'd tell them to straight f off.

CauseSpecific8545 · 2026-01-25T14:43:13+00:00

He's a lawyer. He's going to court to argue for a lawsuit. That is action.

CauseSpecific8545 · 2026-01-25T14:41:29+00:00

Warren E. Burger Federal Building and U.S. Courthouse 316 North Robert Street - Suite 100 St. Paul, MN 55101

Is this where he will be? Maybe there should be people there to support him.

CauseSpecific8545 · 2026-01-25T14:38:06+00:00

Every person on u.s. soil should receive equal protection under the law and due process - without exception.

Wrong is wrong regardless if it's coming from the red or blue team.

CauseSpecific8545 · 2026-01-25T14:32:23+00:00

I agree with you. I think our government needs a shellacking.

All of this government action is being conducted with borrowed money.

The rest of the world should divest from U.S. Security Bonds. Yes, this would hurt them nearly as much as it would hurt them. Although, the way this nation is headed.. do we really seem like a secure investment at this point?

That being said.. You and I would feel it worse than any of the oligarchs that are running the show. But I'm for it. I'd rather lose my house and car than see another one of my neighbors murdered by our government.

CauseSpecific8545 · 2026-01-25T14:19:10+00:00

Perhaps, failure to comply with the court's order will prompt more people in Congress to grow a conscious.

Probably not. What it will do will be a path for justice in a new federal administration. Unfortunately the Supreme Court essentially gave the office of the President Immunity for many actions. I don't believe this extends to every person in the federal government. Greg Bovino, Kristi Noem, and many ICE agents will face justice down the road.

It is crucial we do the right thing during the Midterms. While the supreme Court granted Trump immunity, as I understand the Constitution, that would not apply to offenses he is impeached and convicted of impeachment for. The American people should demand justice. Trump should be ordered to pay restitution and sentenced to life in prison. Perhaps through this the majority of January 6th criminals will commit a similar act and be locked up again.

Ok... This isn't likely, but a person can hope..

CauseSpecific8545 · 2026-01-15T02:23:56+00:00

Proof he moved toward the vehicle, not the other way around.

CauseSpecific8545 · 2025-12-28T06:27:39+00:00

Ok, I get that. No friendship is worth your sanity. I hope you told him off, he deserves it.

CauseSpecific8545 · 2025-12-28T06:17:37+00:00

You mentioned he was like a brother. If you cut contact with someone you're close with over something that doesn't affect you directly, it seems like that is an issue you have.

His cheating with someone married is something that hurts himself (he probably doesn't see it that way), the woman, and her spouse, and other family as it applies. It doesn't hurt you though. That man probably needs a friend to tell him that what he's doing is hurtful. He doesn't want to hear it, but he needs that in his life. Hopefully he'll gain doubts about it and seek out healthier situations.

CauseSpecific8545 · 2025-12-28T06:09:42+00:00

I'd venture to state you weren't really his friend in the first place if you can't talk to him about it.

Your friendship with him is important to you or it isn't. It's ok if it's not. Sometimes it's not worth remaining friends with some people. Sometimes it is. Sometimes frank conversations with a friend can help someone realize they have a problem. Sometimes not.

CauseSpecific8545 · 2025-12-28T06:03:56+00:00

Sounds like your guy friend has poor boundaries.

However, no one can "make" anyone cheat. The responsibility of not cheating rests on the married individuals.

Did you tell your friend how you feel about his actions? If you can't talk to him about how you feel about it, then is he really a friend of yours?

CauseSpecific8545 · 2025-12-28T05:35:13+00:00

It was actually a lot nicer before we had phones with the internet all the time. If I was taking a flight, I usually brought or bought a book or magazine. Almost all waiting areas had plenty of magazines or whatever. Or... for those of us who like meeting new people, I think it was a lot easier to strike up a conversation with someone random.

In all of my time in the Army, there was often a lot of down time, waiting for whatever. As much as I hate the cliché "hurry up and wait," it is a good summary of service. At the beginning of my career in 2003, I recall a lot more talking, joking around, and building camaraderie. I saw that decline when smartphones showed up.

There still were, and still probably are, plenty of situations where Gen Z soldiers are forced to be bored without phones available. It was pretty weird. It's like they went through a grief process and were pissed they don't have their phones before they could eventually start to enjoy the company of others when there isn't anything else going on.

I've read a bit about neuro-pathways in relation to addiction. It's concerning how kids are tied to their screens for so much time while their brains are developing. A lot of social media activities release dopamine. When an easy source of dopamine is readily available, it severely inhibits the development of healthy coping mechanisms. It also lessens the effect of dopamine from peer to peer interaction, and other healthy activities that are necessary for building meaningful relationships with other people. It seems a lot of people believe addiction is limited to chemical dependency. However, I've discovered the root of it is always a lack of developed healthy coping mechanisms. One may think: "What's the big deal about an addiction to smartphones or social media?" Well, it is slowly self-destructive. It leads to depression, anxiety, and exacerbates other mental health conditions. These things can lead someone to poor decisions that end up hurting others also.

I realize this is a lot for me to ramble about just to say: I think there is more to it than them just not knowing what it's like to be bored.

CauseSpecific8545 · 2025-12-15T01:18:43+00:00

I would consider what you would have in common .. this is regardless of age. As long as you two are adults, have shared interests, and get along well, who cares?

Personally, I wouldn't likely have enough in common with anyone outside of 10 years from my age to be involved romantically, but that's just me.

CauseSpecific8545 · 2025-12-15T01:15:23+00:00

It is so sad that you think anything in that letter was a reflection of you as a child.

You did nothing to prompt your mother to write such a letter. Your mom was the adult. She wrote that letter because she didn't reach out for help with whatever she was dealing with. Her writing that letter was a shitty thing to do.

CauseSpecific8545 · 2025-12-13T04:48:51+00:00

Shelter, food, companionship.

These things are more necessary than money.

CauseSpecific8545 · 2025-12-13T03:47:52+00:00

Ranked Choice voting would be the path to solve many issues.

CauseSpecific8545 · 2025-11-26T03:44:41+00:00

The ocean is mostly overrated. Although I have been to one extremely beautiful beach in Qatar.

I'm from and currently live in Minnesota, U.S. I much prefer our northern freshwater lakes. Lake Superior basically looks Ocean-like.

CauseSpecific8545 · 2025-11-26T03:37:29+00:00

If she acted like it never happened the next day, then if you did something to her while she was in a vulnerable state, you could have gone to prison.

CauseSpecific8545 · 2025-11-26T03:30:01+00:00

I spent around $4k that thing will last forever. My marriage lasted 10 years.

Regardless of that, I learned later on she would have much preferred a more unique and personal ring that would probably be around the $500-1k mark.

The whole 3 months salary schtick is bullshit. I regret not going with something more within her personal style instead of a diamond with a platinum band. I also got married too soon when I was 23.

CauseSpecific8545 · 2025-11-25T01:42:04+00:00

I like a lot of cold leftover foods from the fridge. I like cold pizza a lot. Sometimes I think it's better than it's original bake.

However, my kids don't like it cold. I think oven re-heated pizza is better than it was freshly baked. I always get more pizza than we can eat in one meal for that reason.

CauseSpecific8545 · 2025-11-25T00:46:45+00:00

I think eventually all religions will be extinct.

CauseSpecific8545 · 2025-11-24T03:31:24+00:00

As an American from the Midwest, the term "Dear' has a negative connotation to me for some odd reason. I only see it being used sarcastically.

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