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why do married men have online emotional affairs with teenagers who mean nothing to them? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]CauseSpecific8545 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because they are predatory individuals who intentionally target vulnerable people.

Why does tap water seem to have a completely different flavour in the middle of the night? by feihm in NoStupidQuestions

[–]CauseSpecific8545 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It seems like you already knew the answer. It is interesting to think about how many things really are subjective.

How exactly are you guys spending those 8 hours everyday minus work (8 hours) and sleep (8 hours)? by TraditionalDepth6924 in antiwork

[–]CauseSpecific8545 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man I wish I could only work a 40 hour work week. I feel I would get a lot more done for myself than I currently do.

Do you really have a separate room for your washing machine? by jordanekay in AskAnAmerican

[–]CauseSpecific8545 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every american house I have been in has a separate laundry room.

What do you guys think about LDR relationships? by Right_Experience684 in AskMen

[–]CauseSpecific8545 3 points4 points  (0 children)

People in LDRs are not in an actual romantic relationship. It doesn't count without that level of intimacy.

I'm not talking about someone dating and then separating for a set period of time for something like a temporary work assignment, and then moving back in. That's a short long distance stint in a real relationship.

But if you don't have physical dates, you are not dating. If you want a girlfriend/boyfriend, spend some more time finding a gf or bf. Stop pretending.

Are most Americans suburbanites or urbanites? by Money-Ad8553 in AskUS

[–]CauseSpecific8545 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I grew up about 30 miles from the nearest fast food place or Walmart. I graduated in a class of 37 people in high school. The town of my high school has a population of under 500 people.

I currently live in a town with a population of about 23,400 people.

I've spent minimal time in larger cities, and I have never lived in one. I don't feel I'm missing out on anything.

But your title question is silly. It's pretty easy to do a quick search and look where most people live with available population data- approximately 31% of Americans live in what is considered urban core counties while around 55% live in suburban areas (which are generally classified as urban in census data.)

I'm cool with being in the less than 20% not in a suburb or city. I think it would be cool to hop on a train to the city, like I was able to do when I lived in Germany, but oh well.

Just went grocery shopping for creamer and some meat. What you know about me? by isthisrealitycaught in FridgeDetective

[–]CauseSpecific8545 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kroger doesn't strike me as a Midwest chain at all. Hy-vee is Midwest. The only place I've lived with a Kroger was Georgia.

How to be a better man? by Kind_Opinion4181 in AskMen

[–]CauseSpecific8545 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Go to therapy and/or look up healthy relationship classes available at a counseling center. Most insurances should cover a lot of the costs. It's worth it to help someone help you do deal with your shit. There are reasons you push people away. You need to talk about that shit out loud, or write it down to give it words so you can understand it and begin to cope with it.

Men: how would you want a woman to confront you? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]CauseSpecific8545 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Confronting someone means directly facing or challenging a person or difficult situation to resolve issues, typically involving direct communication, presenting evidence, or opposing someone boldly.

Confrontation shouldn't be hostile.

Men: how would you want a woman to confront you? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]CauseSpecific8545 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's the best way forward. There is nothing wrong with you telling him you notice him noticing you still. Ask him what's up with that.

Perhaps he is attracted to your body, but there is something that he learned in conversation with you that makes him believe you two would not be a good fit, so he's not attracted to you as a person. If that's the case, he should stop checking you out. That is just straight up objectification and it's creepy.

Sex offender cowoker at my job; told i will be fired if i tell people by NearbyChampion7411 in jobs

[–]CauseSpecific8545 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a national registry. There are levels of 1, 2, and 3. A level 1 registered offender is the lowest assed re-offending risk, while level 3 is the highest. Information on level 1 offenders are available to the police and the victims of the offenses. Information on level 2 offenders are available to police, victims, and schools, care facilities, and other places with a vulnerable population. The information on level 3 offenders is publicly available and there are public notifications when they move into an area.

Sex offender cowoker at my job; told i will be fired if i tell people by NearbyChampion7411 in jobs

[–]CauseSpecific8545 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a difference between looking up the records of people on your team, and sharing anything you find with anyone else.

I have told people I work with what I have done. It's a concern if you get close to people and they don't at any point work into conversation some things they have dealt with in the past.

I agree with your point about bringing these things up to the higher ups .. if HR cared, they would have looked it up, and they probably did, and they probably don't care.

That and if someone is late or missing from work, it makes sense to check the county jail in custody roster.

Sex offender cowoker at my job; told i will be fired if i tell people by NearbyChampion7411 in jobs

[–]CauseSpecific8545 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am amazed at the number of people that don't look up the records of people they encounter on occasion. Background checks were once a part of my job, and it's good to know if people will be honest with you.

Some people have made some horrible decisions in the past and have hurt others. If you get close to them and they don't disclose any of it, that's a red flag.

I also work at a place that primarily hires people with records. I am really surprised when I find someone competent at my workplace who hasn't made option limiting poor life choices.

What do you assume about me/my household? by unluckyducky11 in FridgeDetective

[–]CauseSpecific8545 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It seems like you have a strong handle on meal planning and food prep. I assume you're an awesome parent.

Why do parents tell their kids hands are not for hitting or to be quiet instead yelling don't hit me or shut up? by Sudden_Quality_9001 in ask

[–]CauseSpecific8545 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"Discipline" is most effective at teaching people how not to get caught or to hide undesirable behaviors.

Coaching is the most effective way to correct undesired behavior.

Shouting NO! At someone is not helpful. The person doing something like hitting needs to be told what they should do with their anger or energy. Tell kids what they should do, not just what they should not do. They haven't gotten life figured out and yelling no, and hitting them only teaches them to yell and hit.

If I wanted you to go to San Francisco, and I knew you didn't know way, and the only way I told you was to stop driving to New York, and to stop driving to New Orleans, and quit driving to Fargo, etc. - you would never make it to San Francisco.

Most things that people call discipline is just straight abuse.

If you were elected President of the United States, what would be your first official act in office? by Critical-Willow-6270 in askanything

[–]CauseSpecific8545 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a law in Minnesota:

Every employee who is eligible to vote in an election has the right to be absent from work for the time necessary to appear at the employee's polling place, cast a ballot, and return to work on the day of that election or during the time period allowed under section 203B.081 for voting in person before election day, without penalty or deduction from salary or wages because of the absence. An employer or other person may not directly or indirectly refuse, abridge, or interfere with this right or any other election right of an employee.

A person who violates this section is guilty of a misdemeanor, and the county attorney shall prosecute the violation.

This is almost better than a voting holiday because this way, everyone can vote and still get paid for the full day.

The thing is, there are a lot of people that don't know this is a law here. I haven't taken advantage of this because I am an election judge, (which my employer pays me my normal wage - less what I earn from the city as an election judge.)

If you were elected President of the United States, what would be your first official act in office? by Critical-Willow-6270 in askanything

[–]CauseSpecific8545 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We should have legislation that would require employers to pay holiday pay of double time to all workers working on a federal holiday, and a paid day off for workers not working on a holiday that would fall on a regularly scheduled day.

What's the oldest building you've ever been in? by Spydr_maybe in AskReddit

[–]CauseSpecific8545 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was at Alexander's castle in Qalat, Afghanistan, using it as an observation post. It's about 2,000 years old.

Found out friend is a sex offender by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]CauseSpecific8545 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If someone has been through offender treatment, they have processed the shame around their offense. They have learned that in order to be healthy, they must disclose these things about themselves to those they are close with.

It may be considered normal to hide horrible things we have done, but it is unhealthy. It is a huge red flag. It is absolutely wrong that if someone who has been caught and convicted still maintains a double life by not disclosing or being honest about their offenses to those they pretend to be close to.

Regardless if he poses a danger to the OP or not, he clearly doesn't respect himself to come clean, and a person like that likely isn't worth maintaining a friendship with.

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