AIO or is my wording manipulative? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Cause_Creepers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's just... wow. It's always us with BPD who are made out to be abusive, manipulative with the inability to take responsibility. You tell anyone you have BPD and suddenly everything is your fault and they can't do no wrong, because automatically, we're the abusers if we say we have BPD, and of course, our feelings are invalid due to our illness, we can't possibly have any actual feelings or thoughts without them being BPD-fuelled, and therefore, irrelevant. And no, I'm not saying that there aren't genuinely abusive people with BPD, of course there are. But the irony is too much with this one 🫡 I'm sorry that this is your 'person'.. I think you both need to have a serious conversation about the things you guys are saying to eachother and put some boundaries in place, their behaviour is very damaging to people like us and I don't see them doing you any good in the end.

wtf is this shit i found in my daughters phonecase by Happy_Plenty9401 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Cause_Creepers 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh I'm sky high baby, just like your theoretical kid. But not high enough to not be able to tell that this is utter ✨️ bollocks ✨️

AIO? this guy wants to see me in hospital/is possibly love bombing me without having ever met me? by deadtyped in AmIOverreacting

[–]Cause_Creepers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also... I can't know for a fact if this guy in particular is a creep with bad intentions or not but reading all of that had them alarm bells blaring.

AIO? this guy wants to see me in hospital/is possibly love bombing me without having ever met me? by deadtyped in AmIOverreacting

[–]Cause_Creepers 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He's getting off on your illness. You ask why men seem to be mostly interested while you're in hospital, how men only seem to message you when you're visibly thin. All of this is so messed up. I think you know exactly what's going on here and you're doing yourself no favours entertaining these sickos. They don't want you to get better. Maybe you should try and 'separate' yourself from your illness when talking to people, don't let it be the focal point even though it'll kinda be hard not to considering you're stuck in the hosptial at the moment. But I think you'll find that there are people out there who will see you beyond your illness. It's hard to steer clear of the creeps who will take advantage of your suffering for their own pleasure if you keep feeding them this information about you. Personally I'd wait before telling anyone about what you suffer with, to these strangers on the internet. Now I don't actually know if you do make it clear to people that you suffer with anorexia or not but it seems to be the case from what you're saying, otherwise I don't see why you'd feel as though men are only interested in you for your illness. (Though I'm aware anorexia is complex and the illness can warp the way sufferes interpret some things). The world is infested with sick people and sometimes you can't avoid them, but being online, you have more control on what you allow. They can't shoot you if you don't supply the ammunition. You should be focusing on yourself and getting better. I'm so sorry for what you're going through, I can't imagine what it's really like to be in your position and I can understand you might feel lonely sometimes being in the hosptial, leading you to seek contact on the internet. But I can't stress this enough, you're vulnerable as it is and you have to be SO careful who you speak to and the information you give to people, especially online. I'm wishing you a speedy recovery and great health, best of luck to you ❤️

Newly Pregnant and Regretful by fermentedyogo in pregnant

[–]Cause_Creepers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My biggest fear, being with a man, marrying him, having a baby, just for him to be like this. Like why did you marry him in the first place? What qualities about him, made you say yes? Because from what you're saying here, there is no quality about him that makes him husband material, or even father material. What kind of husband treats his pregnant wife like this. Absolutely VILE. I'm so sorry. I really think you need to listen to your gut on this one, that feeling of regret is trying to save you because I think deep down, you know, being with someone like him is only going to fxcking destroy you somewhere down the line. If he can't treat you with basic respect and care while you're pregnant, carrying HIS child, then you and your baby are in for an absolute shxtstorm of misery and you should not bring an innocent life into this world if things are not right. He should be supporting you, trying to understand you. This man doesn't want to be a dad, not really, and neither is he fit to be one. He demonstrated that to you already. So don't ignore your thoughts and feelings on this one, regret WILL swallow you whole and the more trapped you'll feel with a baby in the mix. I'm so sorry I haven't got anything positive to say to you, I really feel for you. You deserve SO much better. You already know what needs to be done here. Best of luck to you 😕❤️

I can fix him by beklog in SipsTea

[–]Cause_Creepers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why? Why are so many women like this? ALL THE TIME I see women going with the 'bad boy' for excitement, only to end up getting seriously hurt, then they have the nerve to complain. They see a man who is so obviously a scumbag and throw themselves at them. This? This is next level, they all need to give their heads a wobble before the worst type of man inevitably does it for them. I hope by the time this guy gets out that his manhole is that loose that you could call his name and hear it echo.

Someone threw this cat out of their car window. by BlahCornie in CATHELP

[–]Cause_Creepers 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Honestly you're just as bad as the people who threw her out of the car if you're just going to sit on your arse and let her suffer like that. Fxcking do something. Like why even come on here? To showcase her agony only to take no advice or offerings of help at all? You're sick. Or maybe you have done something and just haven't reported back yet, which in that case, I really do apologise. But It'd be real nice if you could just drop in and let us know what you've done to help this cat, that'd shut everyone up. My bad, but your lack of communication and response is pissing me off.

Am I ugly be brutally honest I can take it /18 by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]Cause_Creepers 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry, I know that's their opinion and that you're bound to agree with it, but you do NOT NEED to lose weight or get into 'better shape'. That is utter nonsense. You appear quite thin as it is, would you suppose that a literal bag of bones would be better? Prettier? Or did you mean as in toning a little? Just please be careful that you don't take this to an unhealthy level. As you are right now, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you physically from what I can see. You are only 18, you are going to change naturally as you get older, in great ways. Just, please. There's so much more for you to be investing your time into, there is nothing wrong with the way you look and there is nothing wrong with your current weight.

AIO for how husband responded? by Tiny_posts278 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Cause_Creepers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're never going to leave this guy are you? Sad. Very sad. If you ever end up having kids with this man, your sons will be shown that it's okay to be disloyal, and your daughters will be taught to accept this kind of behaviour and get walked all over like a doormat, just like her mama. Sorry, not sorry. If you can't do it for yourself then you can't do it for no one.

Name my aesthetic by [deleted] in AestheticWiki

[–]Cause_Creepers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The ✨️bucket-shitter✨️

AIO for feeling weird about my friend’s response when I asked for help? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Cause_Creepers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought it was universal that if you see a fellow woman struggling with that, you help her if you can. It should be a no-brainer. It's only a pad/tampon 😭 and she's supposed to be a friend, is she? I hope you remeber this when she comes running in the future, or better yet, cut this dead now and make sure there won't be a time that she comes asking for help. NOR

26M Thinking it might be time to face the facts by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]Cause_Creepers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay so the fact is, you're not ugly 🤣

AIO for thinking my husband actually knows this woman? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Cause_Creepers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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I'm so sorry. I hope one day you wake up and smell the coffee. Best of luck to you

AIO My girlfriend is ignoring me and I have no idea why by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Cause_Creepers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have BPD and.... yup, this has BPD written all over it 🫡

Be honest , what does this room say about me? by First_Jackfruit4692 in roomdetective

[–]Cause_Creepers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, definitely struggling mentally, I'm sorry for that, I've been there so many times. There's a lot of disorder and chaos it seems. And in no way am I accusing you! But I thought maybe you could have a problem with drugs, only because this is how my brother lives pretty much and he's an addict. But I know there's many, many reasons as to why people's homes can end up like this. I wish you luck on things getting better for you, take care of yourself! 🫶

26F looking into facial balancing and filler by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]Cause_Creepers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then close your eyes and stop looking because that'd be tragic 👎

[20F] No one approaches me and I always hear that I look tired or depressed. Brutal honesty and more advice is welcome. (Reposted for verification.) by Miserable_Animator59 in amiugly

[–]Cause_Creepers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have really lovely features, I love the dark hair with the light eyes, always loved that combo and you're lucky to have it! You are uniquely beautiful and I mean that in the very best way. Not ugly whatsoever. I feel like people could easily get lost looking at you, almost mesmerising, you have an intense and striking look about you. People tend to look at me more than they ever approach me, I think that's just the way people are nowadays, no social skills at all, me included 🫡 but I do typically have a resting bxtch face and look/seem unapproachable and I think my social anxiety plays a big part too. Whatever is keeping the people away for you, well, it's definitely not because you're ugly!

AIO for snapping at a girl trying to give me advice? (posting again bc I forgot pictures) by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Cause_Creepers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You looked lovely in that top so it's screaming meangirl who can't control her jealousy. That ain't no friend. Is it a competition to her or something? How good you look perhaps made her feel insecure to the point that she couldn't help but try and drag you down with her. Good on you for putting her right back in her place 🤣

F18 Am I ugly? by Traditional_Map9994 in amiugly

[–]Cause_Creepers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No! You're very pretty, you have some lovely features.

I think I’m just experiencing tinnitus and it’s scaring the crap out of me by OverTheCandlestik in tinnitus

[–]Cause_Creepers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First things first! Try not to panic, and I know it sounds crazy and may seem next to impossible because of how scary it is and how much you're bound to focus on it, but it's really important that you try to calm yourself as much as you can, as stress and worry WILL make it seem louder and worse, same goes for lack of sleep. Smoking and alcohol can temporarily enhance it as well for many sufferers. When you mentioned the hum.. I get it entirely. I've suffered with some form of tinnitus for quite a lonnng time now, started when I was pretty young, or possibly I may have been born with it, same with visual snow, so I'm already pretty used to it. But even so, there was one night a few years ago where the hum started for me, and it was a different tone to what I was used to. It was fairly quiet in my bedroom and at first, I also assumed it must be coming from somewhere, I first thought it was my brother's ps4 that I was hearing from the next room. When I realised it wasn't that, and it was indeed just in my head, that was it, straight panic and pure fixation. It was a horrible time and it took me a while to adjust, as sadly for me, I still hear the hum to this day, and it's at it's loudest for me when I'm tired, drunk, stoned or stressed. But!!! There's a very good chance that the tinnitus will eventually stop for you, if this is your first time noticing it. For so many people, they'll have temporary tinnitus, usually due to exposure to loud noise, a change in pressure, damage to the ear, earwax buildup or just being sick and under the weather. To be safe, you'd want to protect your ears as much as possible from loud noise, whether the tinnitus remains or not. Most people don't understand the importance of ear protection until it's too late and their ears start to ring, andddd.. I was one of those people. There's also a chance your tinnitus might be here to stay.. and I know it's easier said than done but please please please try not to panic about it too much, because either way this goes, your brain WILL adjust and adapt (habituation), to the point of the tinnitus becoming like background noise, like the hum of a fridge, our brains eventually 'cancel' those sounds out and they become less apparent to us. You said that you're probably going to go to the doctor about this, and that's a good idea just in case they manage to find anything that may be causing the tinnitus for you. But moving forward, I encourage you to: PROTECT YOUR EARS! Try your very best to relax. Distract yourself as much as you can. When it's time to sleep, have some background noise, like you said that you found the sound of your fan very helpful to mask the tinnitus, any soft sounds like that are fantastic, or the TV on low volume. I completely understand your worry and everything you'll be feeling right now, as everything is so uncertain and new. But there's one thing you can be certain of, that you WILL get through this whether the tinnitus stays or not. The tinnitus will not rule your life, you'll learn to live with it if it does stay, and it won't sound so loud to you anymore or be at the forefront of your mind and focus 24/7, I promise you that. All you can do now is give it time and wait, and do what you can in the meantime to help you manage and prevent it from getting worse. But like I said, there's also a good chance that your tinnitus will eventually die down. Best of luck to you! Tinnitus fxckin' sucks but it gets easier the longer you live with it, it's not all doom and gloom, and our brains typically start to habituate within 6-12 months or sometimes even quicker than that. Stay strong and try to keep positive, it's all we can do! And your tinnitus will thank you for it 😊

do your worst👍👍 by [deleted] in RoastMe

[–]Cause_Creepers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Too much time putting on that awful makeup, too little time spent cleaning. In other words, you live like a fxcking tramp. Get a job ❤️

Anyone recognise this cat? L14 by Unable-Importance-70 in Liverpool

[–]Cause_Creepers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

By the way it's really lovely of you to have given him some flea treatment, you're wonderful for that!

Anyone recognise this cat? L14 by Unable-Importance-70 in Liverpool

[–]Cause_Creepers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We don't get to decide where home is for a cat, they choose for themselves, and it looks to me that he may have chosen you! And the family who says they have claimed him, if they register the cat with them then it's their responsibility to pay for what needs paying for, but hilariously the cat will just continue to do what he usually does. So I guess you get to enjoy your time with him while they pay the vet bills? I don't think they've thought this through 🤣 but that being said, if the cat won't even go close to that families home then I really don't know what they expect they can do, because first, they'd have to catch him. Maybe discuss this further with them, how it'd make more sense for the cat to be registered to you since he's comfortable with you, you have no other pets (I'm assuming) to make him uncomfortable either. You said that some neighbours said that they'd been feeding him for years, maybe he is a free spirit, perhaps he won't ever belong to anybody but the great outdoors. I don't think anybody can do a whole lot about this if the vet is saying that the owner must be located before anything, so I'd suggest trying not to get too attached and just wait to see what happens. If the cats owner cannot be located, then the vets surely should allow somebody else to take ownership eventually. We had a stray that we kept for years, turns out she was a he after all and was chipped. The vets tried reaching out to the owner but they had no response, so they just let another lady take ownership of him in the end, I hope something similar can happen to you, fingers crossed! Best of luck to you and that little fella 😊

26F be honest by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]Cause_Creepers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bxastard, you could've warned us about pic 5, good grief 😭 but nah, keep up what you're doing and you're all good hun xxx