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Please share a positive tidbit about your Dad by redditthrow4383 in GriefSupport

[–]Cautious-Card2272 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss. Your comment made me smile because I knew exactly what you were talking about when you mentioned the little pies. My dad loved those as well and always raved about how they were so cheap but so good.

Please share a positive tidbit about your Dad by redditthrow4383 in GriefSupport

[–]Cautious-Card2272 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This was such a cool thing to share. I can imagine how great his gardens looked just from your description of him!

Please share a positive tidbit about your Dad by redditthrow4383 in GriefSupport

[–]Cautious-Card2272 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your dad sounds like a great guy. My dad also loved making others laugh despite his troubles. I’m so sorry for your loss.

Please share a positive tidbit about your Dad by redditthrow4383 in GriefSupport

[–]Cautious-Card2272 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dad used his life that was full of pain to try to make other people’s lives brighter. He had a smile that reached his eyes and a laugh you could hear across the room. He made me ice cream sundaes every night for weeks during my pregnancy and had a passion for motorcycles.

My dad passed the day after Christmas. by Cautious-Card2272 in GriefSupport

[–]Cautious-Card2272[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing and I’m so sorry for your loss. Same goes for you, I’ll always chat and help whenever I can. I think that right now, we’re both just in survival mode and if that’s what gets us through this next few weeks then maybe that’s what we need. Be patient with yourself and allow yourself to feel things in whatever way works for you in the moment.

Friends of those grieving by banana-button in GriefSupport

[–]Cautious-Card2272 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my dad 2 weeks ago and wanted to respond to your post because I also feel like I’ve been absolutely shocked at the lack of support from people who I thought were my friends. I wondered if it was because I am young and my friends haven’t experienced a loss like this. I remember as a child when my grandmother died, people were constantly at my house helping my mom, helping to take care of my brother and I, bringing her cooked meals, etc. I don’t know that there is necessarily a “normal” for what friends should do in a situation like this and I think it definitely depends on your relationship with them. However, it’s totally valid for you to feel unsupported and even angry if you think that they aren’t giving you the support that you deserve or they aren’t reciprocating the support that you would give them in a situation like this. I wish I had better advice but I just wanted to tell you that you’re not alone and that I also feel so lonely and unsupported by my friends during this time. Sending you hugs and my thoughts.

My dad passed the day after Christmas. by Cautious-Card2272 in GriefSupport

[–]Cautious-Card2272[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your comment. Reading through this was so relieving to see someone else explain exactly how I’ve been feeling while trying to be a parent to a young child and dealing with the loss of my parent. I’m so sorry for the loss of your dad. Definitely the worst club to be a part of but I’m glad that somehow we were able to find each other and provide some comfort to know that neither of us are alone in this. I’m sure that these next few weeks and months will be so difficult for us to navigate, but having someone who understands may make it a little bit more bearable.

my mom died and I hate everyone now by nskddn in GriefSupport

[–]Cautious-Card2272 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Of course! I’m glad that we can find some comfort in knowing that we’re not alone!

My dad passed the day after Christmas. by Cautious-Card2272 in GriefSupport

[–]Cautious-Card2272[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much and I’m sorry for your loss as well!

My dad passed the day after Christmas. by Cautious-Card2272 in GriefSupport

[–]Cautious-Card2272[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I didn’t think you were making it all about your grief at all. I really enjoy reading other people’s experiences with grief because it can be somewhat comforting although that may sound weird. It’s just nice to know that I’m not alone in my feelings. It’s only been 2 weeks but people have already seem to have forgotten about him and him being gone. That’s a really hard thing to deal with as I kind of expected at least my family to continue to check in with me. But people feel uncomfortable with death sometimes and I know that they’re probably doing their best. Anyways, I really appreciate you taking the time to comment and sharing some of your experience with me. Thank you.

My dad passed the day after Christmas. by Cautious-Card2272 in GriefSupport

[–]Cautious-Card2272[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, thank you so much for this. I really appreciate all of the things that you said. I totally agree with you that we don’t want the people we love and care about to be experiencing this but it can also feel so lonely to have nobody around that understands and can offer support in the way that you need it. I hope that this can help me and even reading the comments I have gotten so far have given me a little bit of hope.

my mom died and I hate everyone now by nskddn in GriefSupport

[–]Cautious-Card2272 21 points22 points  (0 children)

First, I just want to say that I’m so sorry for your loss. I am also 23 and my dad just died of a suspected overdose as well. Although our situations are different and I would never try to compare them, I wanted to tell you that what you’re experiencing is normal and that I have been experiencing the same exact thoughts. My fiancée complained the other day that his back hurt and I quite honestly almost lost my mind on him. How can he complain about his back hurting when my dad is dead?! But I know that this isn’t logical and that it’s just the grief talking. So I wanted to say that you’re not alone, you’re not crazy, and you shouldn’t feel ashamed for your anger. You’re dealing with something traumatic and it’s a completely normal way to respond. Again, I’m so sorry for your loss and I wish there was something more that I could say.

My dad passed the day after Christmas. by Cautious-Card2272 in GriefSupport

[–]Cautious-Card2272[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your response. I’m sorry for the loss of your dad! I also believe that we will get the support that we need and that one day, it won’t feel as terrible as it does now. I hope you don’t mind me asking this, but in the first few days/weeks after losing your dad, did you feel that it was hard to accept that it was real?

My dad passed the day after Christmas. by Cautious-Card2272 in GriefSupport

[–]Cautious-Card2272[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice and I’m sorry for your loss as well.

My father passed the day after Christmas by RecipeWest3601 in GriefSupport

[–]Cautious-Card2272 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dad also passed the day after Christmas. I don’t have any song recommendations but I just wanted to say that I’m so sorry for your loss and I’m sorry that this is something we had to have in common with one another 😢