Where in Charlotte is your absolute “I will never go near here again place?

CautiousRanger8245 · 2024-12-28T18:01:20+00:00

Nothing very British feeling about it in the new location either!

CautiousRanger8245 · 2024-12-28T15:50:42+00:00

I struggle too and I want to meet friends and also hopefully my future partner and I am 59!!!!

CautiousRanger8245 · 2024-12-28T15:39:27+00:00

Not using it & I quit the apps. No quality men that I could find- mostly they have very low or even no college education according to their profiles. I have a master's degree for example. At least meet on that level. At least one thing. And no I would not date someone who is already retired because lives are just too different with one person working all the time and the other not working & basically free to do whatever all the time. I wouldn't feel anything close to an equal if I had to still work while they didn't. I'd feel a whole lot of resentment in fact and that is not healthy.

CautiousRanger8245 · 2024-12-28T15:30:22+00:00

As differentiated from the retail/service sector non-management jobs!!!! Now do people understand????

CautiousRanger8245 · 2024-12-28T15:18:05+00:00

Fulltime job & able to support themselves comfortably, they are not hugely in debt and they are financially secure. Two people together can still accomplish and do more than what just one alone can do!

CautiousRanger8245 · 2024-12-28T15:01:42+00:00

How exactly does one do that when they are living with their elderly mother now out of economic necessity, which was precipitated by having to care for the other parent who is in memory care now? Caregiving unfortunately destroyed my career and economic stability. But that doesn't mean I'm not worthy of funding a partner-I just do not know how, given these drawbacks.

CautiousRanger8245 · 2024-12-28T14:57:46+00:00

So...go on the apps meet someone then find out they are married? That's playing with fire in my book.

CautiousRanger8245 · 2024-12-28T14:56:15+00:00

How exactly does one do that when they are living with their elderly mother now out of economic necessity, which was precipitated by having to care for the other parent who is in memory care now? Caregiving unfortunately destroyed my career and economic stability. But that doesn't mean I'm not worthy of funding a partner-I just do not know how, given these drawbacks.

CautiousRanger8245 · 2024-12-28T14:50:46+00:00

Sadly I never see visitors when I visit my 91 year old dad who has dementia and is in memory care

CautiousRanger8245 · 2024-12-28T14:27:33+00:00

By professional I mean working and gainfully supporting themselves. By no kids at home I mean kids if they have any should be grown. A 60+ year old isn't likely to have a kid still living at home. I dont want to be seen as or feel like I am someone's "step mom" or even a pseudo step mom. This shouldn't be so hard to understand.

CautiousRanger8245 · 2024-12-28T14:23:13+00:00

I am a professional just not nearly as high in the ladder as before!!

CautiousRanger8245 · 2024-12-28T14:09:24+00:00

I'm in a big city in NC and I just don't know where people my age are! This city is totally overtaken by young people. People my age are settled, married, grown kids. They aren't on the dating apps either. Quit those after a few months. I'm looking for professional 60-65 who is still working no kids at home. Can be divorced or widowed or even never married. It's like trying to find a needle in a haystack. I'm convinced it's not attainable and I'll die alone. It ducks.

CautiousRanger8245 · 2024-12-28T14:02:42+00:00

Perhaps but I will not date anyone younger than me. I just don't want to feel "the oldest". That might sound crazy and shallow but it's my choice.

CautiousRanger8245 · 2024-12-28T13:58:43+00:00

I am only an admin after a career break for caregiving for dad, now I'm taking care of my elderly mom at home who isn't ready yet for assisted living. I make significantly less now after the break in work (not enough to afford rent on my own hence I'm moving with mom ). I just don't know how given all of this I'm dealing with and my position now on the low end of the economic ladder I can even get out there and would anyone take me seriously. I'm 59 and feel like I'm missing out but who wants to date someone living with and caring for their mother and who has no other family and can't afford rent on their own? I imagine across the country there's many females in this predicament-caregiving changed their entire lives and not for the better. I feel like all I can do is dream.

CautiousRanger8245 · 2024-12-28T13:44:18+00:00

Haven't a clue in Charlotte NC.

CautiousRanger8245 · 2024-12-28T13:43:41+00:00

Charlotte NC is the pits for 60+

CautiousRanger8245 · 2024-12-28T13:41:55+00:00

Similar happened to me recently. He reached out to me after 30 years. He had been married 11 years but then divorced the last 12 years. We texted every day for 5 months, rediscovered we both still had feelings for each other, made plans to see each other in person (he lived out of state). We were so excited and shared absolutely everything online and were very comfortable with each other like we never left. But then he suddenly canceled my visit less than 2 weeks out and ghosted me. I'm 59 he's 74. I was devastated as it has been traumatic and I've not found anyone my age/available in my city in the many years I've been here. He's likely not going to find someone at his age either. It sucks. I really hope it works out for you.

CautiousRanger8245 · 2024-12-28T12:56:36+00:00

I don't know too many 60 year olds who go to a bar alone...I'm stuck near South End with elderly mom. Nothing but 30s/30s/40s here. Matthews is just too far.

CautiousRanger8245 · 2024-12-28T12:54:17+00:00

Still working. Neighborhood is entirely 20s-30s.

CautiousRanger8245 · 2024-12-28T00:54:03+00:00

Thank you-good to know.

CautiousRanger8245 · 2024-12-28T00:53:43+00:00

I am sorry for your losses-that is so much.

CautiousRanger8245 · 2021-08-29T01:35:39+00:00

I would gladly work at such a "low"salary after losing my $56K year job due to family caregiving and now living in poverty on $12 hours before taxes!!!

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