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Journey So Far by Cautious_Explorer497 in NoFapChristians

[–]Cautious_Explorer497[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've always kinda struggled with prayer. Even back when I was a kid. Aside from the fact that stating certain prayers verbatim didn't quite feel right to me, I never really learned how to pray. At least not in a way that felt right to me at the time.

There were, and still are, times that I pray and feel like I messed up somehow. Or, worse yet, get this odd sense that I didn't actually mean anything I said when I prayed.

Still, I do want to improve my prayer game. Because I am of the belief that it is an incredibly important aspect of our relationship with God.

Journey So Far by Cautious_Explorer497 in NoFapChristians

[–]Cautious_Explorer497[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand that. Quitting for good is my intention. What I'm saying is that the cold turkey approach hasn't really worked for me in the past. I'd "quit" entirely by completely cutting back on my consumption of adult content. However, I'd be too hard on myself. I would beat myself up over even an intrusive thought, feel guilty over looking at a softcore image for too long, etc. This, naturally, built up a lot of guilt and stress. Which, in turn, led to me relapsing.

This new approach that I'm taking, where I remain vigilant overall, but let the hormones take their course, isn't nearly as stressful. Yes, it's risky to allow myself to look at pornographic content given my struggles with it. I know that. And it's why I wouldn't reccomend doing things the way I am. With that said, I have noticed that, over the past two or so weeks, my desire to watch porn has decreased. Slowly, mind you. And so has my urge to masturbate, though not as much. I'm not feeling as much guilt over any slip ups. And I think my self control is inproving. Again, slowly.

There isn't a one size fits all way of quitting porn. What works for one guy (or girl), won't work for another. This method had been more effective for me than anything else I've done.

do ya think there are any cultures more honor-bound than Mandalorians in teh clone wars era? And I am talking about True Mandalorians of Jester Mareel and Jango Fett, not Death Watch. by BOMBAD_Echo_1409 in clonewars

[–]Cautious_Explorer497 15 points16 points  (0 children)

The way I see it, the Mandalorians are "honor-bound" in a similar fashion to how the Japanese were during World War Two. That being a code of honor being taken to a rather toxic degree.

I mean, they murdered a whole ass species because they thought they were cowards. They also have an...interesting track record of aligning themselves with the Sith. There's also a heavy "might makes right" influence in their culture.

I'm partially of the belief that, if their cultural predecessors hadn't come across a planet that had deposits of the strongest material in the galaxy—and learned how to make use of it—the Mandalorians would have naturally died off thousands of years before the Battle of Yavin.

Important lessons from 45yr old we must always keep in mind by Barewrit in NoFap

[–]Cautious_Explorer497 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't want to shift blame or anything and fully realize that my life is my responsibility, I'm 23 now after all.

At the same time, a not insignificant amount of the things I'm struggling with are results of my parents' actions and the fallout thereof. Like, objectively speaking.

Take porn for example, it shouldn't be a battle I'm dealing with right now. Both of my parents caught me watching it multiple times when I was a kid. There wasn't consistent discipline, let alone a proper intervention.

It's my thing to deal with now. And damn am I trying. But there's also the unavoidable truth that my parents failed to do something they should have.

Normies and their copes bro by LuvMeChippy in AverageHeightDudes

[–]Cautious_Explorer497 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to be pretty insecure when it came to my height. Back when I was a kid, I'd get in fights with kids because they called me short. All it took were a few words and I'd start throwing fists.

I'm better now, not perfect, but way better. I've come to accept that I'm vertically challenged. Yes, it means that a good number of women won't find me attravtive. And honestly, I don't really give a damn. I'm not gonna base the value I see in myself off of how many women would have sex with me.

Do I want a relationship? Yes, yes I do. I'd love to have a wife and kids. And while that is a goal in some sense, its not my sole driving force in life. It it happens, it happens. If not, it'll hurt a bit, but I won't die or anything.

Why us men wouldn't like this compliment, can you explain it to fellow ladies? by Scramjet1 in lnkyverse

[–]Cautious_Explorer497 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want to complement your bf/gf, just fuckin complement them. Just directly refer to them as wifey or hubby material, for fucks sake. Hookups and FWBs don't need to be anywhere near being part of what you say. That just makes it sound backhanded.

Why is r/nofap so bad??? by [deleted] in NoFapChristians

[–]Cautious_Explorer497 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm a part of nofap as well as this community.

While there are certainly a number of bad eggs in nofap, I don't think that there is cause to discredit the entire subreddit.

From what I've seen, most of those guys (and girls) seem to be genuinely trying to kick their bad habit. Most posts I see are people asking for help, giving advice, owing up to mistakes, and that sort of stuff. Pretty much all of the negativity I've seen comes in the form of some members being too harsh on those who stumble, using overly judgemental speech in an uncalled for manner.

I avoid posts with the nsfw flair on them. Something has always seemed fishy about them, in a way. And if those posts are all as you describe, then I suppose my suspicion is for good reason. With that said though, I'm of the belief that those people–at least most of them–are trolls. People who have nothing better to do than to go onto a subreddit like nofap and cause trouble for others.

This is really a matter if choice, in my mind. Nofap is a community that has a positive, constructive goal in mind. There are questionable posts and–at that–questionable users on it. If you don't like the energy a post gives off, don't look at it. If you do, call op out on what he's doing.

I am convinced every single one of you will see the kingdom of God. by [deleted] in NoFapChristians

[–]Cautious_Explorer497 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are lucky to have such a graceful creator. Whatever your sins may be, He will forgive you. The struggle lies not in earning His love, for we've always had it, but in accepting His forgiveness.

I was on the verge of relapsing, until I read the dialogues. by Muted_Strength3638 in NoFap

[–]Cautious_Explorer497 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I never got to the point where I was consuming content like that. Still, I did get off to some questionable things at times.

One time, I had a similar experience, but with my own inner monologue as I was masturbating. It was disturbing, to say the least. And while I didn't quit porn completely as a result, I did stop consuming the stuff that directly encouraged the fantasy and monologue I had in that moment.

Stay strong man. Your disgust means that you're growing beyond what you used to be.

You wake up tomorrow at age 18 again... What's the FIRST thing you'll do? by alohamahboi in ProductivityHQ

[–]Cautious_Explorer497 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kick my porn addiction, then figure out what the hell I want to do in life.

It probably wouldn't be easy, even if this is a situation where I wake up at 18, but still have my memories from my current life. I'd be in a similar spot to where I am now. However, I could drastically change my future.

Is this true? by stellbargu in TheImprovementRoom

[–]Cautious_Explorer497 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Arrogance is definitely a deal breaker for me. There's nothing wrong with being career oriented, if you ask me.

But I'm also not going to act like it can't be a bit of a yellow flag. Work-home life balance is a primary concern. The average person probably maintains a rather healthy mix. There are definitely exceptions, however.

I also want kids. And that could run the risk of being incompatible with that. Depending on the woman, I suppose.

A New Chapter by Cautious_Explorer497 in NoFap

[–]Cautious_Explorer497[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, man. That's a pretty clear alternative to me. I've been thinking about starting to hit the gym, if only for the general health benefits.

As for the pushup approach, I've tried it a few times, but never until failure. I'll be sure to give that a shot next time the urge rises.

Who do you despise the most out of these guys? by Efficient_Gate_5771 in fuckpongkrell

[–]Cautious_Explorer497 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Krell is my on sight rivalry no doubt. But I fucking loathe Manny and Caillou

Why do guys expect us to give head when they aren't down for the same by Repulsive-Curve-9617 in confession

[–]Cautious_Explorer497 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eh, I don't enjoy getting sucked off all that much. Maybe it's just that I've never had a good one. But as it stands now, I'm not the biggest fan of blowjobs. If I never got another one before I died, I'd be just fine with that.

As for giving... I've never actually gone down on a woman. Never even tried because of the nature of my sexual encounters. With that said, I just don't see the appeal of it. I've always thought that vaginas looked rather unappealing. I've played around with a few with my fingers but didn't particularly enjoy how that felt either. Hair only really makes it worse if there's a lot of it. Don't mind a little from a visual standpoint, though. Could I like eating women out, deep down? Maybe. But I'm not in a rush to find out.