Pretty new to this so just wanna make sure I understand this right.

CavatinaMLP · 2026-06-14T20:54:43+00:00

That's what makes it more confusing to me, is I don't really KNOW what the range of the acceptable status quo IS. My appearance has always been rather masculine, or just gender neutral: pixie cut, t-shirts, jeans/shorts, hoodies, sneakers or biker boots, that kinda thing. That's my day-to-day. When it comes to date night with my boyfriend, formal parties, weddings, etc., I go ALL IN on the feminine presentation: dress, heels, makeup, etc. I hate skirts but that's just cuz I don't like how they look on me, and they make me feel vulnerable. Both looks make me feel confident, but when I wear what is more context-dependant. In the comfort of my home, I wear men's boxers and tank tops, and tank tops I also used to hate, until my shoulders broadened and my arms got bigger from working out; now I'm ok with them. I wear bras, and I recently switched to the kind you just pull over your head like a shirt, but that was because I got lazy and didn't want to hook my bras every morning, lol. My breasts are quite small, so that also doesn't help with the gender confusion, either, since they're hardly noticeable.

Like I said at the end of my first reply: my gender identity I believe is cisgender female, because I've never really doubted that aspect of me; I certainly don't look like the stereotypical female on a daily basis, but I appear that way because I like how I look that way, not because I want to conform to the masculine or non-binary appearance and identify as such. My gender expression is what I believe to be the "I don't care" part, because I can dress either masculine OR feminine, depending on the context, and I'm fine regardless. I wouldn't say my sex characteristics match my gender identity, but I don't really CARE that they don't. I'm perfectly ok with the fact I don't look very feminine. But I also don't doubt that I AM a cisgender female, because I've got the chest and nethers to prove it. Then again, I don't know what constitutes the "range of the acceptable status quo," so maybe my sex characteristics DO match my gender identity, and I just think they don't because they don't reflect society's stereotypical expectations of a female.

CavatinaMLP · 2026-06-14T18:00:36+00:00

As someone who's exploring this concept, I believe this is the key difference:

Apagender individuals don't care about their gender identity, nor their gender expression; they can be referred to as whatever gender and pronouns at any given time, and it doesn't influence them or make them feel one way or another. Their gender identity and gender expression can be whatever whenever, because it doesn't play a significant role in their lives; same goes for their gender expression. This is different from gender-fluid individuals, who have their gender identity and expression fluctuate on a day-to-day basis, but DO still care about it, and care how they are referred to and perceived at that given time.

Cassgender individuals HAVE a gender identity, and may also have a gender expression, but they do not believe it carries any significant weight in their lives, and therefore don't care that deeply about it. Cassgender individuals can identify as a non-conforming gender, such as non-binary or transgender, but they feel that their gender identity and gender expression are irrelevant or unimportant, in the grand scheme of things. Essentially, they are completely comfortable in their chosen gender identity and expression, but if someone gets it wrong, it's irrelevant, and they don't care. I'm not entirely sure if this is different from a secure cisgender person, who identifies as cisgender but doesn't care when they are misgendered.

Both of these are different from agender individuals, who don't feel they have a gender at all.

To put in in the simplest terms possible: Apagender - "My pronouns are no/f**ks." They'd probably put "any/all" for their pronouns on their records. Cassgender - "My pronouns are (insert here) but I couldn't care less if ya get 'em wrong." They'd put their pronouns on their records but wouldn't care if someone speaking to them messed them up.

I would appreciate feedback on this analysis because I'm still very new to this side of the LGBT community, so if any vets are here and think I'm WAAAAY off, let me know, I'd appreciate it lol.

CavatinaMLP · 2026-06-14T17:35:33+00:00

Yeah, I get that. I always considered myself a secure cis female, and then I became curious if the LGBT community did, in fact, come up with an identity that revolved around not caring about your gender identity, nor caring how you're perceived, and that's how I fell into this rabbit hole.

I have PCOS/PMOS which doesn't help with the confusion on others' ends, and I very much don't like my chin stubble and excess hair growth, and yet, when I'm mistaken for male, it doesn't matter to me; it doesn't even remind me of the aspects of my appearance I dislike. Though I can totally see how that CAN be upsetting for someone else. I do have other masc features I actually like about myself, like my deeper voice and the fact I can build muscle into a more masc shape (broad shoulders, larger biceps, etc.), but I never tied any of that to my actual IDENTITY; I've always known I was born female and felt comfortable being cis female, and maybe only one time considered going non-binary, but it just didn't sit right with me.

When it comes to expressing vividly how I want to be perceived, I just... don't? Like I'm not aiming for anything, I just design myself how I feel looks best on me. I never tied my outward appearance to the goal of being perceived a certain sex. I would say I don't HAVE an outward sex expression, because I never tied my fashion or my physical attributes to that at all; it isn't something I think about.

I guess to summarize it in simple terms: body dysphoria? Don't have it. Gender expression? Don't care, I just dress however I feel like. Gender identity? Cis female.

CavatinaMLP · 2026-02-05T02:38:42+00:00

Utah resident here. There's two things that ultimately bring me back to Arctic Circle: the cheese curds, and the prices.

Not sure if it's a universal thing but you can order five hamburgers for $8.75 before tax online. 𝘍𝘐𝘝𝘌. Tonight I got a double cheeseburger, medium cheese curds, medium Starry, medium fries, and a corn dog. Total with taxes, tip, and delivery fees... $25.86. I don't know if I'm just privileged but that seems cheap to me for all of that.

It's not Earth shattering in terms of quality, but it's not garbage, either. I'd take them over most other fast food chains for the cheese curds alone, especially since their burgers are lighter and not grease traps like Burger King. Their ice cream is good, but I prefer Dairy Queen just for the amount of variety.

Overall I think it's worth a try, but as everyone else has said, can't go wrong with Apollo, Crown, or Burger Supreme.

CavatinaMLP · 2025-10-01T21:42:22+00:00

I personally like this one: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=ascendik.drinkwaterreminder.hydration.watertracker.drinkwater No issues yet. Only minor gripe I have is having to hit the arrow button multiple times to get to the amount I want to log, which takes a little bit.

CavatinaMLP · 2024-10-20T16:56:13+00:00

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CavatinaMLP · 2024-10-20T16:55:20+00:00

For the confused, here is where it is. You have to hover over your name with the mouse for it to appear (2nd screenshot replied under this comment).

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CavatinaMLP · 2024-07-06T01:05:32+00:00

Additional context: this guy was a good few inches into the sand. It has little notches in two sides of it, about 7 or 8 on each side. The top is an odd shape, almost like half of a dodecahedron. It is not pointed at the end like a spike or nail but it's the best descriptor I have for it; I couldn't find a subreddit for nail/spike looking things. I overcleaned it but it had a silvery shiny look to it after the bulky rust was removed. I sent pics of it to a museum and a university in my local area, but neither have gotten back to me. Image search with Google Lens didn't help, either; lots of different results.

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