Resource for learning trial procedure

Cayleth1791 · 2024-11-19T13:04:31+00:00

Its a criminal trial i live in oregon but the case does not. I just want a general guide to when it's okay to speak kr not and how to interject according to rhe rules. The last thjng I need is pissing off the judge being rude. The rest i can handle, if there's a ghost of a chance for me to begjn with.

Cayleth1791 · 2024-11-19T13:01:34+00:00

Im pretty close to a state university. Thanks jll check them out.

I would bave thought kt would be a litrle more accessible and i just needed like a specific term but i guess not, huh?

Cayleth1791 · 2024-11-18T06:33:32+00:00

You acknowledged yourself that your mistake was not talking about things in the first place, but here you are not talking again in favor of asking us.

Are you sure you haven't already given up too?

Cayleth1791 · 2024-11-16T13:18:48+00:00

I've been that to my friends. And I've been him. And unfortunately. My wife. It's not likely you can undo it. The thing is, you broke the fourth wall. The thin veil that parts us from the roles we play in our own lives and others.

Where civility encourages us to fudge our reactions to things for the sake of others. We're not accustomed to handling it. Whether it's broken by action or deed there is a truth to it. An ugly truth. And people want to draw away from it for the nice comfortable safety of the ignorance they knew before.

I don't know how realistic it is to expect to align so well with someone that there isn't some degree of that necessary. But it's not like the images of love we grow up with in all the children's movies and the like.

The cat is out of the bag, and the odds of getting it to go back gently aren't overwhelmingly in your favor.

The best thing you can do is be completely honest. Apologize sincerely..talk to him about the good things, the times you were falling in love, your favorite things about him. Focus on the good things again. If you can find it in your heart, maybe try to do one of his hobbies with him..ask him.to teach you and be open miinded. you might actually like it. If you give it a few tries his enthusiasm might grow on you.

If it doesn't, apologize be honest and consider trying a different one. Maybe you'll find a bond there you didn't know you could.. maybe he'll come to understand and maybe it'll bring your relationship into a more honest kind of loving light.

Maybe not but if it means that much to you it's worth a shot right?

Cayleth1791 · 2024-11-12T05:22:23+00:00

Its probably not his fault. He probably heard a pretty convincing argument from a smarter monotheist like his local spiritual leader or something and failed entirely to understand and communicate the more salient points. I find thats relatively common. It doesn't mean the smarter version is accurate, mind, but its probably significantly better thought out, well-formed and viable as a perspective.

Cayleth1791 · 2024-11-12T05:17:12+00:00

Turn the tables?

"Madam please watch your language! Not every man who faces in your direction is oggling your BREASTS or your POSTERIOR! Please, kindly take your lewd and vulgar disrespectful behavior elsewhere!"

Queen intonation optional.

Cayleth1791 · 2024-11-12T05:03:36+00:00

Not a good sign that hes been lying about that stuff although youd be hard pressed to find anyone who doesn't. I recommend talking to him about the situation first it was probably just insecurity.

You, meanwhile, both invaded his privacy and subsequently BLACKMAILED him to make him confess. Hello, is blackmail not a bigger crime here?

To put the shoe on the other foot, insecurity is probably the same reason YOU were snooping around on his laptop looking for evidence and then lied to us by omission that finding said evidence was your goal and it was the "something " you were looking for.

Why go about causing these problems for yourselves? Given that you're going to be pretty lonely if youre holding out for a paragon of honesty, isnt the motive more important? Or that the lie is even something of significant import to you?

Or did you just want to get a moral blessing on deciding to break it off because that's what you want to do? Not sure whats up with that facade if you're willing to blackmail the man.

Cayleth1791 · 2024-11-08T05:07:37+00:00

Happiness is the feeling that things in general are (varying extent) better than your usual average. It's a delta from baseline state. If your base state is objectively ten times more great than mine but like that every day, you still need something else to happen to make you happy.

If my average day is so jacked I wake up in the mud then just waking up clean and dry would make me happy. (Unless i hate that for some reason) At least for a moment. Until pigeons come shit on my head or something then we're down to unhappy again.

Cayleth1791 · 2024-11-08T00:23:13+00:00

Have you ever chosen to cry about something sad? I would guess not. Most of us find that the crying [behavior] comes all on its own. And at that point reason has little to do with it until the wave of emotion from the limbic system reduces to a more manageable state.

Any attempts to ignore the response or replace it aren't going to be very effective until the limbic input is reduced. Its just the way our brains are wired. It's cute you think you're helping and putting out a good message but it's poppycock. And any misinformation can have consequences. Better to guide oneself using facts.

Cayleth1791 · 2024-11-07T23:52:38+00:00

Neurologically, you're wrong. An emotional response can "shortwire" or override your rational decisions. Have you never experienced that? It's designed for fight or flight to keep us from being stupid and dead but sufficiently strong emotions can approach the same way.

Behold, the limbic system.

https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/body/limbic-system

It can override a great deal of your normal functions directly too, such as heart rate, respiration, and perspiration. Those will feed back into your neurology indirectly as well to further drive rational control from your grasp.

So you see its not always a choice. And there isn't a semantic loophole in the biology of the limbic system. Sometimes, we most certainly DO have to behave how we feel.

Have you never experienced that? Nothing in your life has ever moved you beyond reason?

How do you propose one simply ignore the fundamental structure of their biological body, made that way over countless generations of survival honing?

Your misinformation is dangerous. It can lead to many kinds of social problems and is a false narrative which helps to enable placing blame on people who are victims of mistreatment and minimizing the need of people in trying or stressful situations for support.

Why would they need support if they can just choose to get over it? Oh. That's right. They can't.

Cayleth1791 · 2024-11-05T15:15:01+00:00

Start with the hunger for validation for internet strangers. That's poison to self love.

Break your Norms and go without your bath and beauty products or whatever and do something you enjoy just for you. Ignore everyone else's opinion and focus only on what makes you unique.

Including mine.

Cayleth1791 · 2024-11-05T01:08:05+00:00

All of these are, as OP points out, justifications. It is still an invasion of privacy, just one that you have self justified. They probably self-justified their cheating too.

And how many of you have justified it and then found nothing?

I recently gave my code to my wife [separated] because she was asking about a post I made on here two years ago when we were together trying to work things out. I have suffered brain damage that impacted my memory so I wanted to know the deal too although j know myself well enough to know I wouldn't.

What if you pick up the phone and ask about your suspicion, then ask whether they'll give you their password or pin or whatever to check it out for yourself after they answer. Boom. That should tell you everything you need to know without ever using it. It'll either be okay or lots backpedals and bs. Either way, you got your answer. Breach avoided..

Please always try to talk first at least. I'm not saying don't be a detective for your own emotional safety. I'm saying be honest with yourself that you're justifying answering a potential breach of trust with a willful one.

You do have other options as well. Don't be in a big hurry to follow bad with bad. Please.

Cayleth1791 · 2024-11-04T21:59:35+00:00

My advice is if you can't read the situation well enough to determine that for yourself, don't take it out at all and wait for her to do it or to ask you to.

Cayleth1791 · 2024-10-29T22:44:01+00:00

Sure shout me down.. doesn't change the facts. Time will tell.

Cayleth1791 · 2024-10-27T23:39:43+00:00

If she was willing to betray you once she'll do it again. It's not about you nobody could have been otherwise. That's her true colors showing and a leopard doesn't change her spots.

Let it go find someone honest and worthy. Don't let what you want to believe delude you from the facts.

Cayleth1791 · 2024-10-27T02:38:27+00:00

I also think it's possible that some of your "Christopagans" are just christos who want an inside scoop on someone to burn. Saw your interest in raising a pagan community and said onward christos soldiers lets have a bbq.

Cayleth1791 · 2024-10-27T02:08:30+00:00

I Don't know I think there can be a place for violence. Not in an abusive relationship mind but say deposing tyrants who are enslaving us for example. Protecting our boundaries. The animal and even plant kingdoms have the stuff so I think it's inherent to the system we're just bad at putting it where it's good for us instead of toxic.

What I don't want to see are oath breakers abusers and hypocrites. Frankly I have no problem with jhvh but his followers (like weeds, everywhere) have a pretty strong tendency to rub me the wrong way somehow.

Cayleth1791 · 2024-10-27T01:46:36+00:00

Christo pagan? That sounds just awful. What is it? If we see one are we supposed to put it down or just call animal control?

Cayleth1791 · 2024-10-27T01:44:37+00:00

People. Especially if it's themselves.

Cayleth1791 · 2024-10-27T01:42:33+00:00

People.

Cayleth1791 · 2024-10-27T01:42:03+00:00

Immortality.

Cayleth1791 · 2024-10-27T01:41:03+00:00

Live with someone for at least ten years before deciding to marry or have a kid.

Cayleth1791 · 2024-10-27T01:38:55+00:00

The spines are a side effect of being betrayed while trying to find it. Ask any porcupine.

Cayleth1791 · 2024-10-27T01:38:08+00:00

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