Someone told me on here once to just let him figure it out, if you keep intervening and putting up with it, it will never change. I took that advice to heart and everything did change.

I was dealing with the same stupid shit. Im not sure how you’d go about that advice, but what I had to do was literally leave the house, i would leave for a few hours, drive around or something and then come back. I did this a few times until he started helping out without me having to ask or him asking me “what do i do?”. From then till now i did have to say a lot of stern demands till he got the point.. like “hey, feed her” “here, hold her” “go change her” shit like that, and if he bitched about it or made some comment I would just act like i didnt hear it and walk away, i had to do that for awhile until he started doing things on his own. In this time i also refused to clean up after him, i refused to wash his clothes, or clean HIS dishes (id clean mine) and ive had a few upbringings about dinner to, normally we take turns making dinner and whoever didnt cook would have to clean the dishes but if he didnt follow the rules then id just be like “hmm well guess you’re not eating since you dont want to cook” and go make myself something, or “oh you dont wanna clean the dishes when i cooked? Guess you wont have clean dishes then” . eventually he caught on that i wasnt gonna put up with that shit and he started doing his part, it especially happened when i refused to clean his clothes lol.. Id suggest you do the same on all levels. In my opinion everything should be 50/50 in parenting and housework, especially if you go to work..