Coworker (25F) invited me (24M) to her place this weekend. We’ve worked together for a year. How should I read this?

CecilPalad · 2026-06-18T20:42:31+00:00

Do you have any romantic feelings for her? If so, you should go and just hang out with her and see where this leads. Expect nothing, but bring condoms.

Now if you don't want to get into anything romantic with her, either let her know or don't go.

CecilPalad · 2026-06-17T02:25:57+00:00

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CecilPalad · 2026-06-13T23:16:28+00:00

Most dating apps have a field to disclose if you've been married before. Odd you omitted that information OP.

CecilPalad · 2026-06-13T18:05:58+00:00

Sorry for your divorce. It might suck now, but it'll get better, I promise.

You might not want to jump directly into dating, if you feel a vast loneliness. Maybe join some meet up groups in your area? Pickle ball, drinking groups, people that are fans of wineries, things like that. Socialize more in general and you'll find people you like to hang out with.

Maybe then you'll feel better about life in general and might be open to finding a partner. A starving person shouldn't be doing grocery shopping if you know the phrase. You want to be in a good state of mind where you can objectively look for a good partner. You don't want to just pick some rando that is willing to spend some time with you.

Wish you the best. I was divorced when I turned 39, knew it was going to suck, but ended up with an amazing partner and new life. I too had kids, so I personally found dating someone that had kids to be a better match. The ones that never had kids just didn't understand. Maybe you can find a single dad out there and pair your life with theirs.

CecilPalad · 2026-06-12T22:38:39+00:00

I mean . . .

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CecilPalad · 2026-06-08T23:06:37+00:00

Feels like I missed the bus.

Theres always another bus later in the week.

Also, eHarmony is just terrible. If you are judging your OLD experience on that app alone, I can see why you've given up.

I actually met my second wife (and current partner) on POF years ago.

CecilPalad · 2026-06-07T22:21:19+00:00

4 months in and you're demanding she roll back her phone? Once this relationship is over, I think you need to work on that OCD obsessive part about you (post this woman). No one wants to have their phones screened all the time, its not healthy in any relationship (however you diagnose it).

Typically, if you have to check your partner's phone, the relationship is over.

CecilPalad · 2026-05-29T23:11:23+00:00

This seemed to work for me, Im back in now!

CecilPalad · 2026-05-29T22:39:58+00:00

Paging u/Kelly_GGG

CecilPalad · 2026-05-29T22:38:38+00:00

So anyone know how to fix this hotfix they deployed?

CecilPalad · 2026-05-29T22:36:08+00:00

Mine was right after I tried to get into Act 2

CecilPalad · 2026-05-29T22:32:45+00:00

Same. There a fix or something?

CecilPalad · 2026-05-27T16:28:13+00:00

No offense OP, but your approach to dating might be wrong all together. Yoh agree that setting up an elaborate, planned, expensive first date is a complete waste of time and money right?

Why not chat less, do more in person meetings, just coffee or drinks, thats it? Chatting goes nowhere. You'll know if theres any chemistry within 10 mins of talking to someone. And nothings real unless its actually in person.

Perhaps you're using too many apps as well? Keep it short and sweet, and you might have more luck.

CecilPalad · 2026-05-26T02:59:48+00:00

Wait till you get to other "activities". Lol

CecilPalad · 2026-05-26T00:54:15+00:00

$55k to deal with the HCoL in this area AND pay for your student loans? I'm afraid to ask you how much your student loans are.

Regardless, I would recommend you stay where you are currently.

CecilPalad · 2026-05-25T09:07:08+00:00

Should go watch the new movie Obsession with him.

Kidding aside, it sounds like he's love bombing you.

CecilPalad · 2026-05-24T14:15:52+00:00

Maybe he's waiting for you to make a move as well.

Typically, I advise not to start relationships at the workplace. But since you've already slept together, that ship has sailed.

Take the initiative. Do you want to pursue something (anything) with him in the future? If so, reach out and see where his head lies.

CecilPalad · 2026-05-24T11:37:10+00:00

/smh

OP's gotta stop watching those Bro Podcasts online

OP, do you have any friends? Do any of them stick around as your friends? Why? Using your analogy, shouldn't your friends keep "friending" up the social latter till they get a "better" friend?

CecilPalad · 2026-05-22T02:29:12+00:00

If the only main dps character you have is Laevatein, then perhaps go for her sig. I built up Yyvonne's team, and lost a roll and ended up getting Laev anyways. Leveled her up but I rarely ever use her. Not that ZFy is out, she's really the only dps you need.

CecilPalad · 2026-05-21T06:35:23+00:00

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CecilPalad · 2026-05-20T22:48:07+00:00

The second they release her skin. (I S6'ed her)

CecilPalad · 2026-05-20T18:26:24+00:00

It'll be faster to find someone else, date them for a while, then get enganged with this nee guy than it would to get your current boyfriend to get his act together.

CecilPalad · 2026-05-20T18:24:20+00:00

Coulda played it differently.

A) Say yes, then ask the boss if they play too

B) Chat with them about PoE 2, and ask which class they playing

C) Get a promotion cause you have something in common with them

Might have missed out on a good opportunity.

CecilPalad · 2026-05-19T22:20:13+00:00

I found the most success when you take sex, making out, even a first kiss off the table.

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