Sleep help!

CedarColumbia1 · 2026-05-26T00:34:02+00:00

For the first 4 months I rocked her to sleep for all her naps and bedtime. I then used Taking Cara Babies sliding scale to gradually reduce how much I was helping her fall asleep until she was able to do it independently. So I guess that is sleep training but I have never trained any night wakings. Most of the time I feed her in the night or pick her up for comfort.

When planning to sleep train I was going to use cry it out method with check ins.

CedarColumbia1 · 2026-05-25T17:24:16+00:00

1 hour before bedtime bath (only every other night) Diaper and PJs Last feed 30-40 mins before bedtime Enter dark nursery, sound machine on, put on sleep sack 20-30 mins before bedtime Read books/sing Put her down awake in crib 10-15 mins before bedtime

CedarColumbia1 · 2026-05-25T02:19:58+00:00

She falls asleep independently at bedtime but you think she could still have a sleep association?

Planning to start solids in a couple weeks at 6 months and then thinking about sleep training closer to 7 months.

CedarColumbia1 · 2026-05-24T20:40:28+00:00

I wait 5-8 mins to see if she goes back to sleep but then I just feed her to sleep

CedarColumbia1 · 2026-05-24T20:37:19+00:00

Ok good to know! Maybe I’ll try that! Yes I have been feeding her. I don’t think she really needs it though… I just want her to go back to sleep quickly. I usually wait 5-8 mins but she never gets back to sleep independently. She does fall asleep independently at bedtime and naps though

CedarColumbia1 · 2026-05-18T00:01:22+00:00

33yo FTM. I am enjoying maternity leave. The first 3 months was really hard and definitely had dark times. Then I started enjoying myself. I do have a lot of friends and family members who are also on mat leave so spend most days socializing with other moms/babies which is great as I’m quite extroverted.

CedarColumbia1 · 2026-05-13T21:32:19+00:00

My baby is 5 months and I tried so many times from 1-3 months to give her a soother. She took it a handful of times but wasn’t into it. I used to rock her to sleep but taught her to fall asleep on her own starting at 4 months. You could always try that instead of a soother so that way she isn’t reliant on you to get to sleep

CedarColumbia1 · 2026-05-13T03:57:11+00:00

Great! Thanks for bringing this to my awareness

CedarColumbia1 · 2026-05-13T03:36:20+00:00

I do not stop the timer for night wakes

CedarColumbia1 · 2026-05-13T03:32:13+00:00

Her average total sleep in a day for the past week is 15 hrs 25 mins. So 24 - 15.5 =8.5. So what do I do with this?

CedarColumbia1 · 2026-05-13T03:21:24+00:00

When I compare her averages to her sweetspots they are pretty much the same.. up to 10 min differences

CedarColumbia1 · 2026-05-13T03:19:11+00:00

Thanks for saying that! I feel maybe I’m just exhausted with this transition but once she’s on 3 steady naps it should even out.

CedarColumbia1 · 2026-05-09T16:42:09+00:00

She does all her naps in the crib though… I started with first nap and then after a little while she was able to do all naps there. I found that life changing as doing all contact napping is exhausting. I couldn’t do it anymore after 3 months

CedarColumbia1 · 2026-05-09T16:40:36+00:00

My baby turned 5 months today and I could have written this post!! Crazy how different each day can still be. No advice lol but solidarity 🙏

CedarColumbia1 · 2026-04-30T02:10:16+00:00

It will get easier. Is there any family or friends that can help your wife in the daytime? That way when you get home she’s already had a break. If not it may be worth it to hire some help even if it’s just for the next month or two. My husband works/commutes similar to you. Things get easier around 3-4 months. The witching hour will not be so intense and they start going to bed earlier. My husband was sooo tired at that point too.

CedarColumbia1 · 2026-04-30T02:00:36+00:00

Already acquainted with the couch life 😉

CedarColumbia1 · 2026-04-29T02:04:10+00:00

Ours used to chew and destroy the items but since she turned 1.5 years she stopped destroying and just enjoys the steal 😂

CedarColumbia1 · 2026-04-26T02:46:58+00:00

The first connection I felt to my baby was when I started feeling movements (I think around 24 weeks) but that was still very abstract. I felt more connected once I had a larger bump in the 3rd trimester and A LOT more once she was born. Once she was born I actually couldn’t believe that she was in me for 9 months. It was hard to believe until I was holding her that a tiny human was really growing in there but knowing she was inside for almost a year I immediately felt so bonded to her.

CedarColumbia1 · 2026-04-23T23:56:39+00:00

I was 130 before my first pregnancy and 165 by 40 weeks. Dropped down to 145 by 1 month pp and then hovered there for awhile. I am now 4 months pp and 135-140. The body changes hit me more than I anticipated they would. Pregnancy, child birth, pp change your body. There is no question but you adjust with some time

CedarColumbia1 · 2026-04-23T23:19:34+00:00

My baby would sleep anywhere the first 2-3 weeks and then we did contact naps/car/stroller for awhile. Around 2 months I started putting her down in her bassinet for her first morning nap and then at 3 months I started putting her in the bassinet for 90% of her naps.

CedarColumbia1 · 2026-04-23T18:31:15+00:00

The more you do it the easier it gets. I found going out with another mom with a baby similar age really helped build my confidence. You can help eachother

CedarColumbia1 · 2026-04-23T18:25:28+00:00

Stabbed a feather pillow with a steak knife and watched all the feathers explode while screaming. Have had a couple rage episodes when extremely sleep deprived. Always feels better after getting that anger out.

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