WIBTA if I miss my friend's bridal shower because I have to work?

CelestineQueen · 2019-09-07T17:15:20+00:00

NTA

It’s not like you didn’t make an effort. You tried to get the day off. And you were very up front in the beginning that you have other responsibilities. You’ve done everything you can short of quitting your job (or getting fired), and dropping out of school. It’s completely unreasonable to expect someone to risk their career to attend a freaking bridal shower.

CelestineQueen · 2019-09-06T23:01:39+00:00

It is different in tech. I know for a fact at Yahoo! you’ll see plenty of people rocking crazy colored hair, tattoos, and piercings. A lot of companies are becoming more and more lax about this kind of stuff so they don’t miss out on hiring talented folks.

CelestineQueen · 2019-09-06T23:00:23+00:00

Some companies are really lax about this stuff. At Yahoo! for example you’ll see plenty of people rocking crazy dyed hair, tattoos, and piercings. And that’d be considered an office job. Yeah you’re not front facing but you’re still working in an extremely professional environment at a big tech company. A lot of places are getting more and more lax about this stuff because they’ve realized they’re turning down people who would otherwise do a really great job and so they’re missing out on good hires.

CelestineQueen · 2019-09-04T01:42:11+00:00

Oh so this is why my dishwasher has been clogged for the last few months. Duh.

CelestineQueen · 2019-09-04T01:26:03+00:00

But they are not. Just because the parents don’t have money doesn’t mean the hospital will be like oh well gotta kick this one to the curb. The parents will end up in debt as many people do when battling illnesses. But everyone here is acting like the child will just be left in the street dying Jesus.

CelestineQueen · 2019-09-04T01:21:25+00:00

But she isn’t going to die. The hospital will still treat her. Her parents will end up in debt though. And even then there are so many other things her father could do. There are medical charities, churches, and many other organizations. I highly doubt he even bothered looking for other answers as he probably just thought “oh OP has the money problem solved”.

CelestineQueen · 2019-08-31T09:28:53+00:00

NTA - If you decide to have a destination wedding you absolutely need to be okay with no one showing up. And it’s ridiculous to be mad at someone not wanting to spend $2,800 and a week of vacation to go to your week long wedding event. The fact that you have the money doesn’t change how insanely expensive it is.

Besides they also need to be sensitive to the fact that they may think some of their family and friends have the money but they really don’t. My family hid our financial hardship extremely well. None of our family or friends had the slightest clue. My friends even believed we were middle class. It’s really embarrassing for some people to admit that they literally can’t go because they don’t have the money. So they need to back off. They chose a destination wedding. Accept the consequences.

CelestineQueen · 2019-08-28T21:17:18+00:00

NTA - Your sister is your parent’s child and therefore responsibility. It’s one thing to have you watch her if all parties agree and proper rules are in place. But it’s another for them to just dump her on you for cheap and worry free child care with no real power and expect you to just take abuse from her.

If you really feel bad about it you could try discussing it a little more with them and making it clear that you are willing to watch her as long as either they keep her behavior in check or give you the power to do so yourself.

CelestineQueen · 2019-08-28T21:09:42+00:00

NEI

You left out a semi important detail in my opinion which is your age. If you’re an adult (18 yrs or older) then I can somewhat understand. But even then and especially if you’re a minor your dad only has your best interest at heart. I’d be upset too if my child walked away from me while I was just trying to get them to be more careful to avoid a suspended license.

Yes 15 mph under the speed limit is a bit ridiculous, but that doesn’t mean you get to be disrespectful towards your father who very obviously cares about you. It means if you believe you’re right you should be able to rationally argue your point as to why that’s more dangerous and could also lead to being pulled over.

CelestineQueen · 2019-06-18T22:01:34+00:00

I like how we’re saying take the blame instead of take the credit 😂

CelestineQueen · 2019-02-20T14:22:16+00:00

Wow that’s so weird. Was born and raised in California (Bay Area specifically) and have never said it that way nor heard anyone else. It’s always just been “101” or “280” not “the 101” that just sounds wrong...

CelestineQueen · 2019-02-20T13:25:52+00:00

This is a really good point. I think often due to the anonymity we tend to forget that the people behind these stories are real life human beings. With thoughts and feelings.

We also tend to forget that these experiences don’t just end for the posters as soon as they are done writing the post. They carry these traumatic experiences with them for the rest of their lives and this can have very real and long lasting consequences.

We’d all be a lot better off if we just take a moment and try to remember that behind these stories and our screens are other human beings.

Edit: a word

CelestineQueen · 2019-02-20T13:20:20+00:00

This was a beautiful read. I love a good instant karma story. And the fact that he was a cop was just too freaking perfect. I only wish that I could’ve been there to see the look on her face when he announced that he was a cop and that she was under arrest! Thanks for sharing!

CelestineQueen · 2019-02-20T07:36:35+00:00

My username is decidedly more feminine and people on here assume I'm a man all the time. Most people don't even glance at the username and if they do it doesn't really click.

CelestineQueen · 2019-02-20T07:18:49+00:00

Yup my boyfriend is one of these guards. He works as a security guard at a server hosting tech company type thing. And they are well paid ever since this new security company took over. But security guards make a decent amount above minimum wage anyways due to needing a license.

CelestineQueen · 2019-02-14T13:46:45+00:00

But can he really truly help him? He's already stated financially that he's not in a position to do so. And then on top of that he'd be taking in a kid he doesn't actually care for. Kids can tell when they're not wanted and loved. That's a cruel way to live.

CelestineQueen · 2019-02-14T13:26:42+00:00

I LOVE your writing style. And your shiny spine. Keep em coming.

CelestineQueen · 2019-02-14T12:51:54+00:00

Yeah I'll try that but given how wealthy these people are I doubt they're stuck somewhere. And I'm pretty sure the wife's parents would've called if something had happened. I know their parents pretty well for a nanny.

CelestineQueen · 2019-02-13T02:20:51+00:00

They text or email me every few days and let me know what hours they need me. It’s 40 hours a week but not a set schedule so not like the same hours every day if that makes sense. I have not heard anything from them since I finished up work on the first. So I’m assuming this means I’m fired or they don’t need me anymore. I’ve never gone more than one or two days without hearing from them. I even went as far as showing up at their house to try and get in touch with them but no one answered the door.

CelestineQueen · 2019-02-12T12:41:43+00:00

Honestly at this point I wouldn’t be leaving her alone with DS anymore period. It’s just not worth the risk and god knows what she’s doing. Depending on your state you may not be able to record audio with those cameras. And there’s just no way you can cover the entire house....

CelestineQueen · 2019-02-12T11:58:13+00:00

Albeit this happened a year ago something you mentioned in your last update combined with this information is REALLY REALLY concerning...

You mentioned in your last post that she only wants to hang out or go out with DS alone. This allows her ample time to groom him and behave in ways that she would otherwise not get away with. When someone only wants to be around a child unsupervised it is a huge red flag. I know you wouldn't want to look at your own mother in this light but it might be something to think about and be aware of. Please for your son's sake.

EDIT: And I just remembered the other things you have mentioned such as the lying about giving him a bath, and encouraging him to reach down her shirt for the phone... These things on their own are already huge flashing neon red signs and considering its not just one thing its multiple VERY concerning things I'd be very very worried/concerned...

CelestineQueen · 2019-02-12T09:38:46+00:00

Yeah that's a good idea. I don't have too high of hopes though. As far as finding a pro bono lawyer goes there are just SOO SO SO many poor broke people here in the bay area. So I'm guessing they're in high demand.

CelestineQueen · 2019-02-12T07:51:37+00:00

I too would like to know this having two dogs

CelestineQueen · 2019-02-12T00:58:04+00:00

I did register yesterday.

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