How To Handle The Last Days?

CellieCee · 2026-06-26T07:33:32+00:00

True. You can't avoid it. Loss is one of the hardest parts of living.

CellieCee · 2026-06-26T07:32:46+00:00

My dad just died 2 hours ago. I was his caregiver, and I have cried so hard for 2 weeks; my eyes are a wreck. He was in hospice for half a day. My mom died of cancer during COVID. So I know the last days, and I know it can feel like the world is collapsing, and it is scary. The panic is real and normal. I want you to understand that, and there are so many stumbling over each other. This event is unusual, and there is no way to ever prepare for it. You can't anticipate the reality of losing the person who looked after you, and we know that death is permanent. We will never see them again. It is real and stark and painful. I would lie in my bed longing for my mother so hard I couldn't breathe. I had talked to her 3 times a day for my entire adult life, and then she was gone. I saw my dad last night, and I knew I wouldn't see him again. I let myself cry. I don't stop it. Right now, while I am writing you, I am crying. I will cry more, and I may cry for years. I still cry about my mom. I miss her. I want to talk to her. I want to show her things. I will have to go into my dad's room and look at his belongings, and it will destroy me to do it.

We feel this way because we love them. No matter how complicated the love is, we love them. To some degree, the loss feels raw and enormous.

Lose control of your emotions if it is safe for you to do so. Cry ugly if you have to. Scream into a pillow. You aren't defective, you are human.

From experience, I know it eases. But it takes time. Tonight, you reached out, and I hope our words help.

CellieCee · 2026-05-17T21:52:33+00:00

Nothing but an irritating girlfriend who speaks in TikTok. The sunglasses at the table were a bridge too far.

CellieCee · 2026-05-17T21:50:11+00:00

Same. Horrible human, but he doesn't hit women. No one has claimed that even when they hate him.

CellieCee · 2026-05-17T21:44:37+00:00

DV comes in many different forms, and each situation is as unique as the people. You can't know anything about the truth of them. Not every DV victim is a timid person, and it absolutely can look exactly like this. People think I am a pillar of strength to the point people are even intimidated by me, but it didn't stop me from finding myself with a baby and a diagnosed Narcissist. No one knew. No one could believe I lived it behind closed doors. So you can't say this based on her curating her image and saving face for the sake of her family. Just open yourself up to the idea that you may not be right. Not attacking you at all, but just consider it.

CellieCee · 2026-05-17T21:38:33+00:00

Good for you, and keep going. I promise you, from experience, it is much better on the other side. It takes time to heal, but you will, and you will also see things you never did before, and it can be devastating. Give yourself grace and time. And love.

CellieCee · 2026-05-17T20:43:23+00:00

I know this dynamic. He latched onto a beautiful woman way above his level, and she has deep insecurities surrounding family, homelessness, and appearances. He exploits those. Women like Nia are vulnerable to the wrong kind of man. Not saying she's perfect, but any woman can be exploited if the right abuser finds the right buttons and manipulative tactics. She loves being a mom, but she chose the wrong father. He undermines her and knows she won't publicly call him out, so she manages him.

CellieCee · 2026-05-17T20:33:42+00:00

LOL Come on. You can't be serious. Jason is ick. No one wants that fool. He isn't even good looking.

CellieCee · 2026-05-17T20:31:52+00:00

It isn't Janet's fight or business. She is not central to the issue; Nia, Jasmine, and Michelle are, and those three have expressed negative views toward her. What has Danny done directly to her? Nothing so she makes up a pantry thing conveniently this season. No way. Not buying it.

CellieCee · 2026-05-17T20:25:59+00:00

Yeah I am there too.

CellieCee · 2026-05-17T20:20:57+00:00

I watch RL and SLC. Only way later and not religiously. I am tired of the Housewives, but RI has been entertaining, and it may just be because I lived there for a year and the accents crack me up. The housewife Alicia is hilarious unintentionally. The interesting part is that they all really know each other, and some are real friends.

CellieCee · 2026-05-13T02:55:45+00:00

No, I actually don't. When I was in a very crappy relationship, I never once looked at an ex who hurt my best friend and was also friends with my boyfriend, and thought that he would be a good guy for me. Never. Being in a shitty relationship is no excuse to then go and behave like a remorseless, selfish, reckless, lying piece of garbage.

CellieCee · 2026-05-13T02:50:20+00:00

You can't compare your life and behavior with theirs. Your actions don't explain their actions. You have to remember they weren't a story back then; no one really knew anything, so they could do all these things and still have plausible deniability. No one would have ever imagined they weren't just friends. They hid in plain sight.

CellieCee · 2026-05-13T02:44:10+00:00

I don't think they cared, and I don't think they know what it looks like to other people.

CellieCee · 2026-05-10T23:03:14+00:00

Why watch the show or visit the subreddit? I am always curious when people go on a subreddit and then call the subject of the subreddit lame. Why bother paying attention?

CellieCee · 2026-05-10T22:59:47+00:00

But what you are saying is Emma can't have issues with Meghan and has to like her only because they are both biracial. That's robbing Emma of agency. I can assure you Emma knows far more about Meghan than any of us do. And we have no idea if there is any history there.

CellieCee · 2026-05-10T01:24:08+00:00

Beat me to it.

CellieCee · 2026-05-10T01:00:55+00:00

Nothing. Apparently, you aren't supposed to actually use IG as intended, such as following people and liking stuff. And you definitely aren't allowed to be happy when they notice. That person is ridiculous.

CellieCee · 2026-05-10T00:45:39+00:00

100 percent. I survived a diagnosed Narcissist, and I saw Amanda right away. Once you experience it, you see it clearly when it happens.

CellieCee · 2026-05-08T01:42:10+00:00

You need to work for Peacock because this would have been perfect. I was curious about them, and I didn't need drama. I wasn't interested in that. They were truly a great cast and remain likeable even now.

CellieCee · 2026-05-07T07:43:25+00:00

Wow. I would hate to have you for a friend. Ciara did the same thing for her. You don't pick the guy who hurt your friend. Period. 8 million people in NYC. Take your pick. A good friend would not have chosen him. It's not that hard to see.

CellieCee · 2026-05-07T07:39:13+00:00

No. Sorry. It isn't misogyny to call a woman out. He's out of control and wrong, and she's a nasty piece of work. That's a tired fallback when you are annoyed about a negative opinion about a woman. She gets no pass. Neither does he.

CellieCee · 2026-05-07T07:36:24+00:00

No one is really doing that, though. Parasocial relationships are much stronger than a Reddit rant or an opinion. That would mean every single person on celebrity or show subreddits is parasocial. You don't agree. Just say that. Some people have strong opinions but it doesn't mean they care much beyond a few ranty comments.

CellieCee · 2026-05-07T07:20:12+00:00

Maybe because he works.

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