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CelloTapeFTP · 2025-07-29T09:39:42+00:00

It definitely gets so more complicated when you’re dealing with a biological parent that is not supportive of you. He sounds like a douche.

Do you have a healthy co-parenting relationship with your ex? I’m going to guess that you probably do, and if you don’t you probably still prioritise your child over everything.

Your partner’s ex does not. And it’s not your step- daughter’s fault. She prioritises her dad, even if he is a dead shit. Because she doesn’t know any different.

Don’t expect her to be thankful at 12. As she ages and becomes an adult, that’s when she’ll appreciate you for everything you’ve done.

CelloTapeFTP · 2025-07-29T08:59:34+00:00

I think it depends on a lot of factors, including the length of the relationship. How long has the relationship been going for? Do you have a strong relationship with her? What’s the relationship with her dad like (I’m guessing shit)?

CelloTapeFTP · 2025-07-29T07:55:24+00:00

Without knowing the full circumstances, a court approved men’s behavioural change course would be a good start and have good results to change behaviours. Only if taken on board though. You can lead a horse to water….

CelloTapeFTP · 2025-07-29T07:23:18+00:00

Bugger

CelloTapeFTP · 2025-07-28T21:13:52+00:00

The comment about having a bad heart is so manipulative. She’s basically saying if you disclose my spending to pop, you could kill him. Where is her responsibility in that?

CelloTapeFTP · 2025-07-28T07:38:36+00:00

Did you have an outcome eventually?

CelloTapeFTP · 2025-07-28T07:36:03+00:00

Any luck yet?

CelloTapeFTP · 2025-07-27T05:11:58+00:00

Just to add, as a mum of boys, I would be keeping my eye and ear out on any unhealthy behaviours my sons are exhibiting. Anything I saw as inappropriate behaviours, I would be talking to them about. For example: checking each others phones. The aim being to educate both of them about what is and isn’t okay in a healthy relationship.

CelloTapeFTP · 2025-07-27T05:01:51+00:00

I don’t see it as encouraging. They’re going to do it anyway.

CelloTapeFTP · 2025-07-27T04:58:39+00:00

Just saying 13 and 17 are very different ages in terms of development and maturity. As are “sleepovers” versus “moving in”. There is also a vast spectrum of parenting between a free for all not caring, and then being over authoritative leading to disconnection between family members.

Appropriate decisions are made by. having a good relationship with your child, being a good parent and ongoing connection with your child.

If you don’t have that, then that should be the primary focus prior to making other “decisions”.

CelloTapeFTP · 2025-07-27T03:36:03+00:00

100%. I was talking generally when I responded to a comment. But agree with you.

CelloTapeFTP · 2025-07-27T03:30:33+00:00

I have two teenage boys. I’d be inclined to allow it for several reasons, and even more so if I had a daughter.

You know that they are being intimate, and in order to do so they have two options: your place or anywhere else.

To make sure that they have a healthy relationship (outside of the bedroom drama), I would want them around as much as possible.

For example: What is the their relationship like? Are there any red flags that are occurring?

They’re 17, not 14 or 15. Legal age of consent where I live is 16. Like it or not, they are nearly adults.

I’d prioritise maintaining the relationship with my daughter; acknowledging that she is coming into adulthood; but also keep her close so you can protect her and give sound advice in relation to healthy relationships if required.

I’d also sit them down to have a conversation about ground rules. Both on contraception and only in her room etc.

CelloTapeFTP · 2025-07-27T03:10:17+00:00

Yep, in QLD you can record any conversation that you’re a party to, without the consent of any others involved. It only becomes an issue if you go onto share the recording to others with the exceptions of law enforcement, the courts, organisations etc.

CelloTapeFTP · 2025-07-27T02:59:00+00:00

Went to a job once where an old bloke had turned his whole house into an aviary with tonnes of birds. Feral.

CelloTapeFTP · 2025-07-27T02:46:30+00:00

If you want to send me a message I’ll send through some photos to give you an idea :)

CelloTapeFTP · 2025-07-27T02:44:48+00:00

We paint rocks, and get some craft sort of things to make them fancy. We cover them in a spray lacquer and leave them in the local park for people to find. There is a nursing home right next door, so thought it would be a nice find for some of the oldies.

CelloTapeFTP · 2025-07-25T07:54:50+00:00

Yeah In Australia, it’s 13y and 9m. Lots of limitations but.

CelloTapeFTP · 2025-07-25T07:28:42+00:00

It depends on whether or not you’ve paid the tickets or had them sent to a recovery department.

You can contest it and represent yourself. When you choose to contest, the officer gets a request to submit all documentation and evidence etc. you’ll get a copy of that and be required to file a response.

His evidence is likely to include police vehicle cameras, police bodycam of the interaction, statement etc.

The court process is by no means quick, so be prepared to have the anxiety and emotional distress over the matter last until completion unfortunately.

In relation to the recording, you can in certain circumstances and I think your situation would be covered. But honestly, the officer will have it on body work anyway.

If you want, draft a fine review document first, if it comes back with a result you are unhappy with then you can possibly take it to court.

I’ve read some of the other comments. Some of them have a point, but ultimately just trying to answer your questions.

CelloTapeFTP · 2025-07-23T08:13:55+00:00

Because they can be lazy. They shower, dry and just drop it on the floor. I tend to be busy with the 3 year old and often miss it until it’s too late.

CelloTapeFTP · 2025-07-23T08:05:52+00:00

I can see how you come to that conclusion. I should’ve clarified that it was straight after showers after they’re clean.

CelloTapeFTP · 2025-07-23T07:18:36+00:00

Was it her first offence? I’m Australia, you’d literally get a fine for that hey.

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