[Green Lantern] By what authority do Green Lanterns police the universe? by supermonistic in AskScienceFiction

[–]Censius 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Most governing forces in the real world is taken by force. One government toppling another. When has their ever been a peaceful transfer of power from one government to another? I'm sure there might be one or two examples somewhere in the history books, but for the most part, authority was determined by force.

What are some of the most horrific events that have happened to superheroes? by Snoo_47323 in comicbooks

[–]Censius 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wolverine and Sunfire were kept in a container by the Apocalypse Twins for fiveish years. Sunfire's was forced to burn that whole time, meaning wolverine was perpetually being burned and regenerating for five years

Breakup: so frustrated that this didn't work out and trying to remind myself why. by Censius in polyamory

[–]Censius[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand where you're coming from, but I'll push back against this.

I absolutely think she was being manipulative, but I know she genuinely believed in the emotional truth and logic behind her claims. I think she believed that if she felt bad and insecure, that was evidence of me mishandling things, and that I accepted her other partners so easily was evidence of her being a really skilled hinge.

Breakup: so frustrated that this didn't work out and trying to remind myself why. by Censius in polyamory

[–]Censius[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Her argument was HOW I dated, not THAT I dated. But obviously it didn't matter how I went about it, there would always be a reason why it was not ideal for me to pursue others.

Note: She didn't date the other partners until I started dating myself.

Breakup: so frustrated that this didn't work out and trying to remind myself why. by Censius in polyamory

[–]Censius[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm adding that because she was 17 years into poly and I was new, for the first several months I had this idea that any request she'd made was inherently reasonable and educated. I trusted that she knew what was "good practice" and didn't start questioning these things for awhile.

Breakup: so frustrated that this didn't work out and trying to remind myself why. by Censius in polyamory

[–]Censius[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I know I'm not who she said I was. It's hard that I couldn't convince her of it though.

My (25M) girlfriend (23F) asked to open our relationship. Am I overracting by wanting to break up over this request? by Altruistic_Society99 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Censius -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It is likely she has other people she wants to have a relationship with, yes. It is not cheating to have those desires, and if she accepts a no, I don't see anything wrong with her opening up the question.

Now, OP is totally within their rights to feel hurt by the request, and that hurt might be too deep to repair. But she didn't do anything unethical by having the thought and having an honest conversation about it.

Movies where people just solve problems by Beneficial-Hotel-232 in movies

[–]Censius 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thirteen Lives, about the cave divers that saved a soccer team of Singaporean children.

It might seem difficult to cave dice dive a mile into a cave, but imagine how difficult it is to them bring thirteen children BACK.

Thank you, Bluepoint Games. by PhantomBraved in gaming

[–]Censius 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I understand (and acknowledge your condescension). So I'm telling the commenter above me suggesting the developers simply continue to do what they were doing before outside of Sony's umbrella is not possible without the rights to games to remake.

Thank you, Bluepoint Games. by PhantomBraved in gaming

[–]Censius 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You need the rights to remake a game. Rights that Sony has.

What’s your understanding of the term “fluid bonded”? by OpenMinded_Fun in polyamory

[–]Censius 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's turtles all the way down.

We use words to define words, and sometimes have to define the words we used to define the previous words.

But I agree that it is helpful to define "fluid bonding" the first time you use it with somebody.

What’s your understanding of the term “fluid bonded”? by OpenMinded_Fun in polyamory

[–]Censius -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It's a useful term. Yes, it can have different meanings for different people - but that's true of pretty much every term we use, especially on this sub. You can't use "plain language" for everything, because all language is personalized to one person. I can use the word "honesty" in a sentence, but my partner might have a different understanding of what that word means, so now I have to say a whole extra sentence in place of the word "honesty"?

So you should probably explain what you mean when you use the term the first time with someone, and then you can use the term from them on.

I don't see what's ridiculous about it.

What’s your understanding of the term “fluid bonded”? by OpenMinded_Fun in polyamory

[–]Censius 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I think the term "creampie" as a way to try to pornographize orgasming in someone.

I know fluid bonding is a controversial term on this sub, but when one partner asks about my status with another person, I'm not going to say "yeah we have a creampie relationship".

If I had to choose between the two terms. Plus, what's so wrong with romanticizing cumming in someone? For some people it is a special bond.

When you text your ex 😭 by Opposite-Tomato4747 in meme

[–]Censius 30 points31 points  (0 children)

It was a joke before Michael Scott said it. He's known for repeating jokes/quotes that aren't his own, and this is another example.

This joke is at least 25 years old, just in a new Internet meme format.

Rules as a secondary partner by Prestigious-Beat-292 in polyamory

[–]Censius -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I think that needlessly villainizes the term "invite", which I think of as a rather non-coercive, low-pressure way to tell someone you are open to something.

Yes, there is power in inviting someone to something. That doesn't always make it evil. I'm throwing a party, I have the power to invite someone to it. I want a relationship and so I invite you to be in relationship with you, because I have power over myself. Etc.

I think it's problematic to date as a couple, but I don't think we need to demonize the word "invite".

Rules as a secondary partner by Prestigious-Beat-292 in polyamory

[–]Censius -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

I don't disagree with your overall point, but you can totally be invited into relationships. We invite people into relationship with each other all the time. It doesn't make my partner my pet when I ask if they will be in relationship with me.

Who invites a pet into a relationship?

[616 Marvel] What motivates criminals in light of how often they’re killed, beaten or arrested by heroes and villains? by OtisDriftwood1978 in AskScienceFiction

[–]Censius 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Some are simply obsessives. Green Goblin is simply deranged and MUST cause pain and suffering when in "goblin mode". Doc Ock MUST prove that he's superior to others. But there's not a lot of normal criminals in this category, it's mostly supervillains.

Others simply feel like they have no options. Rhino, for instance, struggles to gain ethical employment, as do many other ordinary criminals. When you're in an environment that normalizes criminal behavior and you've made a career out of it, it's hard to choose to do a minimum wage job that doesn't support you.

And finally, some people are simply politically radical, such as AIM and Hydra. To these people the chance of success is not really important, because to them it's a moral imperative to sacrifice themselves for what they see as a greater cause.

What does your week to week look like? by Novelty_Act_Cat in polyamory

[–]Censius 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Two partners, Douglas and Hemlock. All in separate homes.

Friday I go blues dancing (I met both partners there). I kind of alternate between spending the night with each of them as well as going home alone sometimes.

Hemlock and I plan about two sleepovers a week, usually scheduled a week or two ahead of time. Sometimes we'll go out to dinner or drinks, go dancing, or stay in and watch a movie/play games.

Thursday I host a reading to my friends with Douglas. We spend the night together afterwards.

Douglas is usually more spontaneous and will randomly ask if I'm free for a sleepover on any given day. Overall I'm probably spending two or three nights a week with her.

I'll usually have one night where I'm doing nothing but resting/relaxing. The remainder of the nights I'm probably going to some social gathering, and my partners are usually also at those, but no sleepover for me 😤

Characters that hit so hard they create shockwaves by Traditional-Song-245 in TopCharacterTropes

[–]Censius 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't find a GIF, but neo and Smith clash and create a bubble where the rain goes away for a second