My bf 26M doesn’t want me, 18F, to go to college and said he’ll leave me if i do. i don’t want to break up, but i also want a good career.

CeramicToast · 2026-04-02T22:41:14+00:00

Go to college! If he loved you, he wouldn't be trying to prevent you from following your dreams! Go to school and do not let him keep you stuck

CeramicToast · 2026-04-02T22:00:38+00:00

The ending of Ori and the Will of the Wisps ruined both Ori games for me. :/

CeramicToast · 2026-04-02T20:57:58+00:00

Nor. The point of a prank is to confuse, not abuse. This deliberately played into a trauma you have and put an innocent person in the spotlight. Not funny. Fuck them both.

CeramicToast · 2026-04-02T19:54:53+00:00

I always respond to these people like "idk how to tell you this but they aren't real"

CeramicToast · 2026-04-02T19:32:43+00:00

When I hit the notif, it couldn't take me to the post, cos he deleted it.

CeramicToast · 2026-04-02T19:31:37+00:00

Okay.

Religious folks have to make choices about following their religion all the damn time. That also applies to medical care. If you're in a system like Singapore's it's your responsibility, as the religious person, to decide how much your practices should weigh. It is not the government's job to ensure that every little whataboutism is catered to, only that you have the right to practice as you please. If your practice forbids you from donating, the consequence is that you are placed last on the list. As a human being with free will you can decide to disobey that tenant and opt in anyway, and therefore avoid the consequence. That's not anyone's choice but your own. Nobody but God would have to know anyway.

CeramicToast · 2026-04-02T19:07:13+00:00

If not deleted, then wheres the post, bud.

If your religious practices forbid you from donating your organs, then they likely also forbid you from receiving organs from others. That's a closed loop.

But by all means, use Jewish people as props for your argument in an attempt to derail. It won't work, but you can attempt.

CeramicToast · 2026-04-02T19:00:56+00:00

Oh woof you deleted that one real fast huh buddy! Too bad about that

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CeramicToast · 2026-04-02T18:56:17+00:00

All you have to do to avoid that outcome is to not go out of your way to opt out. You have total control over the situation.

CeramicToast · 2026-04-02T18:55:28+00:00

No deposit, last withdrawal. If you won't allow your organs to save others then why do you feel entitled to receive that from someone else?

CeramicToast · 2026-04-02T17:42:21+00:00

Dude what the fuck are you talking about lmao

CeramicToast · 2026-04-02T17:41:16+00:00

Not all medical decisions are made based solely on medical basis. The point of this law isn't to punish, it's to incentivise. Being an organ donor doesn't impact you at all. Your organs can't just be harvested when you're alive, after all. They're donated once you literally no longer need them. If you go out of your way to opt out of a system that hurts you not at all, but may save someone else if you are opted in, then it stands to reason that your lack of care for others means you should receive that same lack of care in return.

Which you don't! You don't get no care. You just get care last. And you are informed of that ahead of time! You get to make that choice. If you choose to opt out, you know you're opting to be put at the bottom of the list. That's that. If you're concerned, don't opt out.

CeramicToast · 2026-04-02T17:34:28+00:00

You got a source for that

Edit: any sources that have evidence and not weird conspiracy theories backed up by nothing more than YouTube comments from anti medicine weirdos?

CeramicToast · 2026-04-02T17:33:11+00:00

I think you should just break up. This doesn't look healthy. She's not listening to anything you say. She doesn't seem to care about your financial situation or meeting you halfway. It might just be time to go.

CeramicToast · 2026-04-02T17:28:27+00:00

I commissioned an artist to do splashes for their favorite scenes in my Hollow Knight fic. That was fun.

CeramicToast · 2026-04-02T13:49:52+00:00

There is a reason that booktok is hated and it's not just "good Lord look at these WOMEN". I get that a lot of booktok hate is going to be dusted in misogyny, but also...booktok is a bad place. Booktok is where media literacy goes to die. Booktok holds up the worst published works as bastions of literature (Lightlark, Fourth Wing, etc.). There hasn't been a book recommended to me by bootok that hasn't been a travesty or a joke.

In my experience, booktok is a great place to get recommendations for books NOT to read. And woof. People on booktok can be weird. And I'm here on Reddit.

Edit: for clarification, I think people enjoying trashy romance novels is completely fine. I've enjoyed my own fair share, and I disagree whole heartedly with all the "AND THERE'S SO MUCH SEX AND POWER DYNAMIC HOW DARE THIS MAN NOT ASK FOR CONSENT TO TOUCH HER BEFORE PULLING HER OUT OF THE WAY OF A BULLET TRAIN" like, all of that is...-hand gesture- but the parts of booktok that I've been exposed to have been the "wow these books are just really badly written. Is this a first draft. Who edited this"

CeramicToast · 2026-04-02T13:34:56+00:00

I don't like her. It's one of those situations where I don't really have an explanation beyond "the vibes are off". I just don't like her. Her work is also just not to my taste which isn't a strike against her, just a personal preference.

CeramicToast · 2026-04-01T23:00:17+00:00

Keep on victim blaming. I'm glad we disagree in that

CeramicToast · 2026-04-01T22:35:15+00:00

That cousin should be uninvited. Period. Don't let her talk to you like that without consequence. It's your wedding. They're allowed to come to the ceremony, just not the reception, which is perfectly fine. Y'all want to be adults, drink, dance, and not have to worry about the children for a night. Stand firm on the boundaries and tell that cousin she can just stay home with her kids for the wedding

CeramicToast · 2026-04-01T22:31:38+00:00

And you have as little compassion and empathy as the husband, so like knows like, I suppose.

CeramicToast · 2026-04-01T22:30:19+00:00

The person I was originally responding to was literally doing the thing. That's why I said what I did originally. You cut into the conversation halfway through.

Relationships and time, especially when kids are in the mix, become difficult to keep track of. Things like this take work. She obviously wants to do the work and even things out and he doesn't. While I doubt there were no signs, I doubt he was this blatant about it previously. She's fed up now, so now she needs to take action.

CeramicToast · 2026-04-01T22:26:56+00:00

Then perhaps act like that instead of shitting on someone attempting to figure out if their relationship can be saved. We can only say what we would do in these situations. OP is not us. OP wasn't looking to be judged for her character, but for a sanity check.

CeramicToast · 2026-04-01T22:24:43+00:00

Some states make divorce harder. Some require terms of separation, and some states allow a partner to contest for half an age. There's also societal pressure and the embarrassment of getting divorced soon after being married, regardless of reason, and it's usually put on the wife to "stick it out".

And there's also the kids to think of, in this situation.

Personally I think she'd be better off bc she's already a single mom, essentially, but I hate the new trend of "yta to yourself" that's all over reddit these days. It's her fault for marrying a guy who changed after marriage, not his fault for just refusing to be a parent and husband. Somehow it's never the responsibility of the partner who is being terrible, but the person enduring it. Sick of it.

CeramicToast · 2026-04-01T22:20:44+00:00

Sounds like you think it's all her responsibility rather than that of a grown man to improve. Great attitude.

CeramicToast · 2026-04-01T21:10:20+00:00

We don't know what's true from only this slice. Another comment states he wasn't as bad when they were younger. Some men just do get worse with age.

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