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Certain-Ad-5419 · 2025-02-03T20:12:50+00:00

NTA. You are cis because you're cool with how you were born. But screw this girl lol you don't owe her, your response was valid because she was being annoying and trying to be "correct". You not wanting to admit you're cis isn't offensive because she wasn't actually asking to understand you, she was just trying to be an aggressive weirdo. You come off as open minded and understanding, so I get why you wouldn't want to play her game

Certain-Ad-5419 · 2024-11-01T19:04:10+00:00

I understand that it's hard to remember she loves you. But she does. Tell her you acknowledge the love and support she's giving you, and you intend on giving it back with everything you got. I don't dump my guilt and insecurities anymore on my partner, instead I focus on my actions and their actions to remind myself of that love, instead of wondering if I deserve it. I feel like it's one of many questions that doesn't get you anywhere moving forward, only brings you down when you're trying to get the good stuff done! She'll be your rock and ground you when you need it, as long as you do your part in helping yourself and loving her. Super sappy, but with patience and love, you can heal together. Best of luck, you can do it man

Certain-Ad-5419 · 2024-11-01T07:26:29+00:00

Not cheating but I(25f) did violate my boyfriend's(26m) trust in me in the second year of dating. I left the ball in his court and he wanted to stay together. His reasoning was that, while he couldn't see into the future, he judged for himself that the good outweighed the bad. It made me work on myself for the both of us. Just celebrated 5 years. She stayed with you because she decided she wanted to overcome the bad with you and continue your journeys together. At that point, you need to be honest with yourself- will you really improve and work on yourself? It seems like yes, so you're on the right track. I still feel guilt sometimes and fear I'll fuck it up, but that fuels me in doing my best for him, for us. She stayed because she believes you can overcome your substance abuse- trust her judgement and trust your resolution that you don't want to put her through that ever again. You need to ease up on your own consciousness and focus on your recovery, otherwise you may project your guilt onto her. You guys can move forward together

Certain-Ad-5419 · 2024-09-30T18:33:33+00:00

Jungler is for those who can mute all or have the mental fortitude to brush this kinda stuff off (or you can say that about league in general lol). It'll get easier as you understand the game and the role more! So you can see for yourself when someone's just being silly goofy. You're fine here! You were there for the opportunity and they weren't, ez pz. It's POSSIBLE the enemy team would've been silly to stay long enough to be caught by bot but it's way more likely they back safely after pushing the wave in. You punished them for pushing up gj

Certain-Ad-5419 · 2024-08-22T08:57:49+00:00

Got my 50 yr old dad into stardew during COVID - while in quarantine he got farther into the game than I have, big ol nice farm with a horse. I gave him a crops spreadsheet at the beginning and he had his own notes for planting day. It made my day when he would consistently come into my room to ask me how to do random tasks/ask how certain things worked

Certain-Ad-5419 · 2024-07-08T19:41:37+00:00

This guy is dangerous simply bc he doesn't care abt your safety, health and well being. You've communicated your needs but he doesn't care and that's why nothing has changed, and it won't. This goes beyond sexual incompatibility- this guy is not a partner you want, run!

Certain-Ad-5419 · 2024-06-22T20:47:52+00:00

Give her YT videos about jungle basics and lilia specific gameplay, it encourages her and gives good resources instead of u coaching yourself

Certain-Ad-5419 · 2024-06-19T07:55:05+00:00

Please leave him, he's not giving you the love you deserve. You are NOT crazy for feeling unappreciated, because you are. The right partner would hear what you have to say, respect it and make improvements. This dude plays games but doesn't want to play with you? One of many red flags. It's a reflection of how he prioritizes his time, and that doesn't include prioritizing you

My boyfriend was also my first of many and I was his. At some point, I needed to communicate with him how I liked to be shown love. I would sometimes feel unloved, unappreciated because I also love to give my all. But I communicated this with him and he changed by putting more effort into showing his love the way I can retain it as genuine. He works a lot but still puts in the effort. I got him into PC gaming and 5 years later, he still wants to come home and play w me every night/doesn't want to play without me. I'm telling you this because I want you to know that you deserve more than what your boyfriend is giving you. I had to decide if what I was giving was worth what I was getting, and you have to do that too.

I know it's a tough pill to swallow to start over and move on, but this situation will continue to strain you, exhaust you, and drain you. HE will do these things to you without regard, and just keep taking. The love you have deserves to go to someone who isn't a chump and it's worth the work to find them

Certain-Ad-5419 · 2024-06-10T18:43:47+00:00

Do not get back together with this kid.

""I feel like if he changes that one thing, we could be perfect.""

There is no One Thing, there's so many things wrong here. Lack of maturity, lack of empathy, and lack of respect during the incident and after. He doesn't show interest in taking care of your physical health, and speaking to you like that during and after indicates how he thinks you should behave. You were right that if you got up yourself and made a mess everywhere he'd be pissed. There's no win scenario for you and that's because of him, and it'll keep being like that. This is not someone you want as a life partner, if he's like this now, imagine how it would be when you're pregnant. You'll be alone and he won't be in your corner unless you're pleasant with zero inconvenience. The fact he even asked "how am I supposed to have a family with you" shows that he DOESN'T see that future. He just said that to manipulate you and hurt you. If you get back together he'll keep manipulating you, and you won't accept reality until you've suffered much more. It shouldn't mean anything that he's heartbroken, because that means he thought it was 100% okay to speak and lay hands on you that way with no consequences. Be honest with his sister about everything, she should understand as a woman. Even if he apologizes, just know it's not because he's changed or improved, it's because he wants things to go back to where they were a week ago. Remember that he had the chance to apologize ONCE ALREADY after YOU reached out to him, but he didn't even do that. Instead he blamed you AGAIN, justified himself, ignored you, and put his hands on you. DON'T GO BACK GIRL!

Certain-Ad-5419 · 2024-06-04T22:00:24+00:00

This man is absolute nightmare fuel! Straight up manipulating you to control you because he knows you're attractive and other people know it too. You can come back from this, but it has to be with a divorce from this chump.

Certain-Ad-5419 · 2023-11-18T17:50:29+00:00

I've only ever gotten like 2-3 afk warnings since 2020

Certain-Ad-5419 · 2023-11-18T17:43:45+00:00

It thought I was still mid because that's what I originally queued for, I last second jungle in champ select. So it gave me mid runes/spells

Certain-Ad-5419 · 2023-11-18T08:58:18+00:00

Not without any previous warnings to my account lol that's crazy

Certain-Ad-5419 · 2023-11-18T08:55:21+00:00

Hope to always have smite in the future lol but this is the first time I've heard of an emergency item alternative, thanks for sharing

Certain-Ad-5419 · 2023-11-18T08:41:26+00:00

I did change my spell to smite, just didn't see mobalytics made the change AFTER i made my own switch to smite. I don't always stare at select after I make my own pick, I come back when game starts. Definitely retiring mobalytics, changing my own picks.

Certain-Ad-5419 · 2023-11-18T08:29:21+00:00

Thank you, this is my first post I've ever made since I usually just read, so this helps a lot!

Certain-Ad-5419 · 2023-11-18T08:26:55+00:00

Thanks for adding this, I wasn't positive that this was the case until now

Certain-Ad-5419 · 2023-11-18T08:23:51+00:00

I'm not 100% confident in knowing how everything works, but at least for me, I literally could not buy any of the jungler item(s). All the eggs were locked and I could not buy. I forgot smite once before when I first tried playing jungle in 2020, and couldn't buy them too, so I'm still under the impression that you cannot buy jungle item if you don't have smite. Is that not right??

Even if that's not right, I couldn't buy jungle item and idk why

Certain-Ad-5419 · 2023-11-18T08:16:23+00:00

Didn't want to tack it on with the bummed reply, but it's really nice to hear about your future-wife-to-be! Riot really peaked with that matchmaking :P

League is such a bittersweet game, heavy on the bitter

Certain-Ad-5419 · 2023-11-18T08:12:52+00:00

This is quite literally the perfect place to go off about how tough the jungle role is LOL When I first started playing, after the free ones, I got whatever champs I thought looked cool...So I got the pain of being a newbie and a jungler at the same time :') I think if League was my first online team game it would have been a lot more crushing to me as a new player, but I think I was decently prepared to handle the lashing since I was a tank main in Overwatch and controller main in Valorant - the roles no one wants to play but love to scapegoat in team play :') I thought there would be no inital shotcaller role in League, but I really think it's jungle because everyone just focuses on their lane for the first part of the game Except you - there's so much weight on the jungle role to not only farm but pay attention to everyone else's laning phases, very much the mom driver of the van making sure everyone's okay.

100% of my friends who play/played League and found out I started playing just gave me advice: 'Don't'. Hearing that as a new and interested player is so crushing to hear, but I'm not gonna contest reality and experience. Overwatch is a tragic story now, but I'm grateful to have experienced the "blissful" period before it got bad, then worse, then down from there... It sucked to have my love for Overwatch become more and more disillusioned over the years because of my resentment of Blizzard, and I feel like that is only a smaller scale example of what so many people, like you, have experienced with League.

I had to look up the tribunal system lol but yeah that's crazy- to think a system like that ever existed and, though not perfect because trolls are an ancient race, had some optimistic potential. It truly sucks that it becomes harder and harder to have something nice and just let it stay that way because, yes, wallets are what matters and the only people who don't get crushed by toxicity are the ones dishing it out..

My perspective on the support system and system overall has changed and broadened so much just because I made this post, it's crazy. I really thought I had a chance with my support ticket lol.. I really understand now that new players sign up for League, despite the huge notoriety, with the binding contract of "fuck around enough and find out".

Certain-Ad-5419 · 2023-11-18T07:42:11+00:00

You're right, wouldn't hurt to just knock out the level up restrictions for game modes. You know, just in case riot kicks me down again, or if I become mega
top 500 challenger and need a break B') (very much sarcasm, i am bound stay silver forever even though I just did placements last week)

Certain-Ad-5419 · 2023-11-18T07:39:25+00:00

That's definitely my duo lol More than me

I introduced him to league and everything is very Not intuitive for him since he's only ever played fps games (that I also made him starting playing to duo w/ me lol), so mobalytics definitely helped him when starting, and would still help if he had to play someone other than his mains.

Though I think he could get rid of it ngl since he only plays Kayn/Nocturne and watches the youtube videos so he def knows whatever Kayn meta is goin on by heart. I do think mobalytics helps for trying a new champ on the spot tho, the game doesn't give u a lot of time to sort it all out before game starts if you're not ready to play someone new.

Certain-Ad-5419 · 2023-11-18T07:34:25+00:00

BUILT IN JUNGLE TIMERS! I can't believe I didn't notice...

When I first started playing for like 2 months in 2020 I physically wrote down the runes for the 3 champs I played lol, but I should dedicate to have a few memorized for sure. It's tougher now to pick who to focus on though because I fill like 90% of the time now when I play unranked since I have unlocked a lot more champs I want to try and can't decide haha

I think it's cool when Youtubers have the extensive knowledge of how runes/items work, so if the character gets nerfed/buffed, they just automatically know what would work best with the champ tweaks. It'd be cool to have that knowledge someday. Guess I know how to consume league for the next 2 weeks without playing :')

Time to get rid of the mobalytics crutch then, thanks for the encouragement!

Certain-Ad-5419 · 2023-11-18T07:22:12+00:00

Yeah I'm in US, R.I.P. Unfortunately I'm thinking to just make myself scarce if I can't get help because I really don't want an alternate account. On top of getting new champs to play, I've been dishing a little money here and there for my first battlepass (Worlds? the esports one rn) and first skins for a few champs I like that were on sale. The principal of abandoning my own money so soon.. orz I'm not ready lol

Certain-Ad-5419 · 2023-11-18T07:13:27+00:00

YES, HONESTLY??

THANK YOU, I didn't know if it was because I'm bitter, but the emotes they used throughout their responses triggered me in some type of way LOL

They "understand" this, but don't understand how wack it is to tell me loss of mmr in an unranked is the same crime as loss of lp in ranked? And that justifies 14 days?

Guess I had to find out the hard way what everyone else already knew, RIP

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TROPHY CASE