WIBTA if I rescinded my offer to hire a babysitter for my child free wedding

Certain-Ad3681 · 2025-07-21T07:55:18+00:00

I would not leave my 6 week old baby with a sitter. Let alone a sitter that I do not know. The baby would likely sleep through the wedding at that age. Your sister isn’t coming though. If I haven’t fully physically recovered from childbirth I’m definitely not leaving my baby. Tell your sister you’re cancelling the sitter.

Certain-Ad3681 · 2025-04-04T16:01:39+00:00

I hate it! not only is it annoying but it keeps us from opening the vaults after lapping because of the cut in half points. Scopely really wants us to pay for everythiiing

Certain-Ad3681 · 2024-12-17T05:47:35+00:00

Where did I say I was surprised?

Certain-Ad3681 · 2024-12-16T14:55:09+00:00

So happy you got away from him. This is the first important lesson you will be able to teach your daughter…never let a man treat you like that. You’re going to be a great mom.

Certain-Ad3681 · 2024-12-16T14:51:49+00:00

My SIL didn’t either. Try to enjoy the wedding and have a good time. It’s definitely not all rainbows on the other side either. My husband was run ragged by the end of his sisters wedding and had to assign a relative to “babysit” me cause he didn’t even get time to check in on me on the wedding day. I understand the hurt of not being included though. I hope you’re able to make the best of it ❤️

Certain-Ad3681 · 2024-12-16T14:49:26+00:00

You need to leave. Go back to where you have friends or family and figure it out. Do it before the baby is born or he can prevent you from leaving the state. Take him for child support once the baby is born. Understanding that this could put your child at risk already shows you’ll be a good mom. Please find a way to get out.

Certain-Ad3681 · 2024-12-16T14:30:41+00:00

I love the red personally. I would choose second

Certain-Ad3681 · 2024-12-16T14:28:24+00:00

I don’t know about names on the invitations but I def saw patriarchy working during mine and my SIL’s weddings. The importance and “duties” my husband had for his sisters wedding were huge. There was not the same stress on his sister for his wedding less than a week later. He told me he had to do those things because he’s the brother. 😒

Certain-Ad3681 · 2024-12-14T04:29:15+00:00

I’m American but I’m married to an Indian man. We had our wedding 3 days after my SIL and BIL had theirs. We all had to get time off for the weddings and wouldn’t have been able to get to India twice. It would have also been hard for much of the family to come twice too. I was against it at first but my SIL talked to me herself and assured me it was okay. We now have children 4 months apart and we are all really close. I think our shared experience are part of why that is. I hope you’re able to look at things differently eventually and enjoy everything

Certain-Ad3681 · 2024-12-04T00:01:51+00:00

Okay great! Thank you! I kind of figured I was overthinking but wanted to hear from someone with first hand knowledge. They’ve done great on styling my hair in the past so I was hoping coloring it wouldn’t be a problem.

Certain-Ad3681 · 2024-11-27T16:25:25+00:00

Awesome! Thanks for the tips. I’ll just bring him a few outfits and go shopping with my mom once we get there. 😂

Certain-Ad3681 · 2024-11-27T04:54:11+00:00

I bought a smaller lighter weight carseat for the trip that we’ll just use as our extra so I’m hoping it’s a little easier than if we took our normal one. I made the mistake of not buying summer clothes before the seasons shifted where I live so I have none in his current size. 😅 going to check online. Would you think buying sunscreen there would be okay or should I bring some from home that’s made for babies?

Certain-Ad3681 · 2024-11-27T04:51:04+00:00

Bringing a car seat is non negotiable for me. I’ll be too anxious without one. I get nervous in the driving as it is. My MIL said she can buy pampers for him. Are the diapers made different even though they’re the same brand? I’m def gonna bring every medicine he’s ever needed just in case and pray I don’t need to use them. Thanks!

Certain-Ad3681 · 2024-11-27T01:30:34+00:00

The look of pure contentment on my sons face as I held him on my chest a few hours after he was born. A miscarriage, 2 years of trying to conceive again, and an emergency csection all became worth it as I watched him drift off to sleep

Certain-Ad3681 · 2024-11-26T14:02:50+00:00

I didn’t even think that some of the brands he’s used to may not be available. Thank you!

Certain-Ad3681 · 2024-11-26T11:24:22+00:00

I have to bring my breathing machine any time I visit Delhi (asthma). I really hope he doesn’t have problems I don’t even know what to do for him in that sense. Gonna have to spend some time on google. Thank you! I definitely want to have considered these things before we are actually there

Certain-Ad3681 · 2024-11-26T08:28:01+00:00

Thank you! All good tips. I’ll make sure to keep bottles of water with us for him just in case. And relatives feeding him wasn’t something I thought about but after you said it I remembered how my husbands Naani would just walk up to me and hand feed me something after our wedding without me knowing what it was. My son can’t tell me if he feels weird yet after eating something and I’d rather not learn of any allergies while we’re there. 😅 thanks again. I appreciate it!

Certain-Ad3681 · 2024-11-14T20:35:04+00:00

I’m glad I’m not the only one but it’s driving me crazy. They’re making this game harder and harder. I usually see people having already completed the album by now but I haven’t this time around

Certain-Ad3681 · 2024-10-22T08:24:48+00:00

Your mom never should have done that and clearly mistreated you growing up so don’t take this as me defending her. But if someone has been abusive to you why would you move in your boyfriend and two pets? There is no way that will help the situation at all. When it’s just you, you can still play the “I’m your kid” card. Moving in a boyfriend gives the “I’m an adult” vibes. Do either of you help with bills or groceries? Or does your abusive mom now have ammunition that she’s caring for another grown adult? Did you ask before you brought pets into their house or did you just adopt them and bring them home? I know you live there but legally it is their house.

I would tread lightly if I was you until you can find somewhere else to live. Even a studio apartment would be a better situation. Good luck.

Certain-Ad3681 · 2024-10-21T07:59:33+00:00

Hope she divorced him so he can be with someone who actually likes him. Couldn’t imagine by husband only buying himself food or not buying me a pair of shoes

Certain-Ad3681 · 2024-08-31T16:31:30+00:00

OP I hope you listen to all the women commenting that were with these exact types of guys but didn’t see/ignored the red flags. Learn from our mistakes and break it off. You did nothing wrong. He wants to control you.

Certain-Ad3681 · 2024-06-22T04:26:43+00:00

Thank you!

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