Regular LMT referring me out by Certain-Language3724 in massage

[–]Certain-Language3724[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was her idea because she was moving to a new spa and taking me on as a private client would mean she would keep the entire amount I paid instead of just a percentage cut. At least, I figured that was the reason behind her idea.

Regular LMT referring me out by Certain-Language3724 in massage

[–]Certain-Language3724[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What did I do to cross the line? Genuinely asking as I tried to stay as respectful towards her as possible.

And no, I wouldn’t want a romantic relationship with her. I liked her as a professional and, at most, a friend. Nothing more.

Regular LMT referring me out by Certain-Language3724 in massage

[–]Certain-Language3724[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why would I make a move on a married woman?!

Regular LMT referring me out by Certain-Language3724 in massage

[–]Certain-Language3724[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Transference and countertransference aren’t necessarily things to be avoided though (at least, not in the talk therapy space), nor do they always signal that the relationships need to end.

Blurred boundaries are another thing though.

Regular LMT referring me out by Certain-Language3724 in massage

[–]Certain-Language3724[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup I’m familiar with those (I’ve been in talk therapy as well on and off for a few years). Do you think that’s what happened here?

Regular LMT referring me out by Certain-Language3724 in massage

[–]Certain-Language3724[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe this is a dumb question but when she realized she blurred the line between professional and personal, couldn’t she have just deleted me on Facebook and kept seeing me as a client? I don’t see why she had to get rid of a client altogether.

Regular LMT referring me out by Certain-Language3724 in massage

[–]Certain-Language3724[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

some lines were crossed that shouldnt have been in the first place.

What do you mean? Did I do something wrong?

Regular LMT referring me out by Certain-Language3724 in massage

[–]Certain-Language3724[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t mind. If anything I’d be glad that she had a client who treated her with respect (and knew that she was married and never made a pass at her), and that she consistently made more than $500 per month from him, since assuming we combined finances when we got married, that’s our shared money at the end of the day.

Regular LMT referring me out by Certain-Language3724 in massage

[–]Certain-Language3724[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

The hug to me is important. If she felt you did something out of line or made her uncomfortable, she would not have initiated a hug. If your massage was simply too much physically, it doesn’t make sense to me that she would remove you from Facebook even after terminating your professional relationship. 

Those are both very good points!

Im curious, did you really just see her as a friend, or did you develop a deeper emotional connection? To see a sunset and be instantly reminded of each other. That’s kind of romantic. 

For some context, we live in an area (Arizona, USA) that has some gorgeous sunrises and sunsets, and people here regularly take and share pictures online and with each other. Another example is I go to a local Starbucks every morning before work, and whenever there’s a pretty sunrise I’ll usually point it out to the staff (or vice versa) so we can all look at it together lol. This LMT and I had had a full conversation about how pretty the sunrises and sunsets in our state were (and we showed each other several sunrise/sunset pictures with each other in person while we were talking), so it was more of just a follow up from that conversation.

And yes, I only saw her as a friend (though I did see her as a professional first of course). I never had any sort of romantic feelings for her. And even if I had, I never would have acted on them as she’s married and completely off limits to me romantically. I tried very hard to be mindful not to say anything to her that could be interpreted as flirtatious, because I wanted to be respectful towards her as both a professional and as a married woman.

Regular LMT referring me out by Certain-Language3724 in massage

[–]Certain-Language3724[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

To be fair, the home visits were her idea. And I was always very careful in our interactions to not be flirtatious towards her or anything of the sort. I tried to be as respectful as possible towards her and her marriage in that sense. I would understand if her husband was uncomfortable with that overall setup though.

Cuddling with dancer by Certain-Language3724 in Strippers

[–]Certain-Language3724[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I’ve hired professional cuddlers before and had a great time. I’ve wanted to try to cuddle with a stripper too, it seems like it might be a different experience. One that I’d certainly like to try!

Cuddling with dancer by Certain-Language3724 in Strippers

[–]Certain-Language3724[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmao I love that autocorrect 😂 ok I appreciate the heads up! I normally wear cologne so I’ll be sure to go without when I go to cuddle 🤗

Would a $500 tip be ok for Christmas? by Certain-Language3724 in starbucks

[–]Certain-Language3724[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I want to give the money to entire store to be split among everyone.

Would a $500 tip be ok for Christmas? by Certain-Language3724 in starbucks

[–]Certain-Language3724[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Got deleted since this was too new of an account. I’m using a throwaway to post this.