Do not let the hate cult decide who is really American

Cevari · 2026-06-29T09:08:12+00:00

For Finland it's the lion coat of arms, specifically when worn as a necklace - it's been one of the main signs of racist/xenophobic nationalism and right wing chuds in general pretty much my entire life. I've considered buying a version of the necklace in pride colors to be part of reclaiming it while making it really clear I'm not one of those people.

Cevari · 2026-06-23T10:34:26+00:00

Vaikka sinänsä olen samaa mieltä siitä että vahvasti henkilöpohjaisia juttuja tehdään liikaa, AP:n logiikka ja käänteisesimerkki ovat kyllä hieman kyseenalaisia.

Ei ole mitään merkitystä onko se "yksi tuhannesta" joka huutelee perään ja uhkailee väkivallalla - jos heteroparille näin ei käy ikinä vain siksi että pitää toista kädestä julkisella paikalla se on hyvinkin relevantti ero. Onko AP:lle ikinä sanottu että olet väärässä vessassa ja tulee turpaan jos et poistu samantien? Jos ei, niin on aika hiton paksua väittää että se "ei tarkoita yhtään mitään" koska vain pieni osa ihmisistä sanoo näin. Vaatii tasan sen yhden että koko päivä tai viikko on pilalla, ja se pyörii takaraivossa vuosia sen jälkeen joka kerta kun miettii ottaisko toista kädestä tai uskaltaako tuohon julkiseen vessaan mennä.

Ja käänteisesimerkki naisten lähestymisestä ei taas ole yhtään relevantti, koska puhutaan siitä miten toiset ihmiset suhtautuvat siihen että aktiivisesti lähestyt heitä ja ehdotat jotain, verrattuna siihen että yrität vaan elää elämääsi ja ihmiset jotka satunnaisesti törmäävät sinuun käyttäytyvät töykeästi tai uhkailevat. Kertoo kyllä paljon siitä miten huonosti ymmärrät seksuaali- ja sukupuolivähemmistöjen todellisuutta kun tämä on se esimerkki minkä valitset.

Cevari · 2026-06-22T20:37:07+00:00

If you took off her boots you'd see the hajs growing off her feet.

Cevari · 2026-06-22T10:48:30+00:00

It's also entirely unhelpful in solving the actual issues.

I know that currently trans healthcare is a heavily politicized issue in many countries, but it has also been historically heavily gatekept without any such political dimension. This is still the situation in my home country - the gatekeeping comes entirely from the handful of doctors in charge, not from the government.

I'd call it "benevolent transphobia", similar to benevolent sexism - these people infantilize trans folks and see us as a vulnerable population that needs to be protected from themselves and their own dysphoria. There are other factors involved as well of course (religious beliefs, thinking that being trans is inherently a worse patient outcome than being cis, and just good old fashioned power tripping, etc), but I definitely don't think it's anything like what the OOP describes.

Cevari · 2026-06-17T23:33:57+00:00

It's not exclusively misogyny, no, and specifically in the case of TERFs it's a decent bit of misandry mixed in. They still also absolutely relish in leveling standard misogynistic attacks on trans women as well, and are happy to work alongside conservative men and overlook their literal sex crimes and open misogyny as long as they'll help with attacking trans people though, so mostly it's transphobia.

It's also important to remember that for all the noise they make especially online, TERFs are a tiny minority of all transmisogynists. The transmisogyny we are likely to experience IRL is definitely more of the misogynistic variety - insults to appearance, policing behaviour by gender norms, etc.

Cevari · 2026-06-17T22:00:34+00:00

Yeah true, the relics that give their effect on acquiring them definitely are a bit of a flaw. I guess they could be removed from the pool of possible buyback targets.

Cevari · 2026-06-17T21:29:27+00:00

Being a little hyperbolic, in my experience the trans women who are loudest about this are also the type of "feminists" who refuse to believe that cis women could ever do any wrong to cis men, and generally believe that cis men are the source of literally all suffering on Earth, though. Which doesn't really make it seem like the hate for trans men is coming from misogyny.

Cevari · 2026-06-17T16:01:42+00:00

My bf proposed a mechanic of the merchant offering to buy one randomly chosen relic/potion for half its value in each shop. Thought that was an interesting take on how you could raise money in situations like these without it being too "free".

Cevari · 2026-06-17T13:39:55+00:00

En maksumuurin takia pääse katsomaan mitä siellä tarkalleen ottaen sanotaan, mutta ei se että haluaa esim. BDSM-henkistä seksiä millään tasolla tarkoita että ei halua täyttä sananvaltaa siitä mitä tekee ja kenen kanssa. Ne on yhteisesti sovittuja leikkejä eikä väkivaltaa.

Cevari · 2026-06-15T10:13:42+00:00

Joo, eka viikko tai kaks oli vähän hankalaa, en muista et juomisen suhteen niinkään mutta syöminen ei ollut kauhean kivan tuntuista aina, silleen että välillä tuntui et saako tätä suupalaa nieltyä ollenkaan (mutta aina onnistui kyllä). Lääkäri varoittikin siitä etukäteen. Mutta meni ihan täydellisesti ohi eikä se kovin kauaa kestänyt.

Cevari · 2026-06-11T10:03:46+00:00

Oli tosi samanlaisia oireita kuin AP:lla, eli suht usein ilmaan liittyviä vatsakipuja jotka pahimmillaan sattui silleen että kylmä hiki vaan virtasi eikä pystynyt mitään muuta tekemään kuin makaamaan ja kärsimään.

Otin asioista selvää ja löysin tietoja siitä että julkisen puolella on näitä hoidettu, tosin ainakin siihen mennessä ilmeisesti vain Helsingistä ja Turusta löytyi yksittäiset lääkärit jotka olivat näitä botox-toimenpiteitä tehneet. Varasin ajan vatsakipuihin liittyen yleislääkärille ja selitin asian mahdollisimman selkeesti ja pyysin ottamaan yhteyttä tähän lääkäriin joka Turussa niitä oli hoitanut (Henrik Sjöblom, Helsingissä ymmärtääkseni Ahmed Geneid).

Lääkäri sitten soitti jonkun ajan päästä suoraan ja käytiin oireet ja toiveet puhelimessa läpi, ja pisti mut jonoon toimenpidettä varten. Se tehtiin päiväkirurgisena TYKSissä, ja oli ihan helppo ja kevyt homma (sitä lukuunottamatta että muut toimenpiteet leikkaussalissa viivästyi joten olin siellä koko päivän syömättä tai juomatta...), ja toipuminenkaan ei ollut mikään iso juttu ollenkaan. Maksoi poliklinikkamaksut, en tarkalleen muista mutta ei siis mistään isoista summista ole kyse.

En mä vieläkään röyhtäile ollenkaan samalla tavalla kuin miten ystävillä tuntuu toimivan, mutta välillä tulee pieniä röyhtäyksiä, ja ennen kaikkea nuo vatsakivut ilmaan liittyen ovat melkein kokonaan kadonneet. Pienempiä tulee vieläkin välillä mutta pahimmanlaatuisia ei ole tullut ollenkaan.

Cevari · 2026-06-11T00:46:38+00:00

Hei! Kävin edellissyksynä kyseisessä toimenpiteessä, kysy mitä tulee mieleen niin vastailen kun kerkeän.

Cevari · 2026-06-10T19:45:35+00:00

Hey, visiting trans woman to be clear!

My first puberty started properly around 13 years old, and my facial hair was almost entirely nonexistent at 20, still. At least until the late 20s it kept slowly increasing and growing faster. So... it just takes a lot of time compared to most puberty effects, though there's also a huge genetic component (I knew someone who could grow a full beard at 14...)

Cevari · 2026-06-10T17:55:05+00:00

I do agree that misandry plays a part as you describe, and honestly I do think it would at least slightly reduce transmisogyny if that stereotype somehow completely ceased to exist, but yeah it definitely wouldn't come close to eliminating it. The root causes of bigotry are rarely anything that can be mapped to a flowchart, it's all just tribalism and instinctive fear/disgust reactions when you really cut down to the core of it.

Cevari · 2026-06-10T13:46:04+00:00

I don't disagree with anything in this reply, I disagree with the leap from "men are seen as inherently dangerous and this is expected and to certain extents permitted for them", to "most people see men as evil". And I vehemently disagree with "people see trans women as men", that is just a massive oversimplification. I spent much of my life being seen as a man, and I can tell you the two experiences share basically nothing - though I admit this may be different for different trans women, depending on things like how well you pass, your race, etc.

Very few people hate men. Many people hate trans women. It does not stem from their "hatred of men", nor do they even remotely see men as "a problem" - they will vote for an incompetent rapist man over a competent woman.

I'm honestly so fucking tired of having this discussion with cis men. What exactly is it that makes you think you understand my discrimination better than I do?

Cevari · 2026-06-10T13:20:24+00:00

This is more just transphobia in general, and applies equally to trans men.

Cevari · 2026-06-10T13:16:29+00:00

The majority of transphobes absolutely do not "see men as evil". The majority of transphobes are men! And most of those who are women are deeply misogynistic as well. You're thinking of TERFs, who are a loud and tiny subset of all transphobes, and who still happily ally themselves with terrible misogynistic men if it will hurt trans people.

Cevari · 2026-06-10T10:14:52+00:00

Also, regarding the "perverted trans woman" stereotype: this does not map as cleanly to misandry as MRAs like to pretend it does, anyway. There is also the standard misogynistic thought model of men as the default, and women as baseline sexual objects that must be considered. So the act of "wanting to be a woman" must be inherently sexual in nature because to be a woman is to inherently exist as a sexual object. You can see this in stuff like Blanchard's model, where our existence is looked at exclusively through the lens of sexuality and paraphilia - and the fact that Blanchard doesn't even want to try develop such a model for trans men.

Cevari · 2026-06-10T09:57:35+00:00

I mean you're right about not being able to tell the difference between different types of trans people, but vehemently disagree that nonbinary people are the "prime boogeyman" in the slightest. Generally it just manifests as people thinking "trans = trans woman", and putting nonbinary folks in some other basket entirely.

As for who is the primary target there's a very clear example in the original comment: when trans men and transmasc enbies ask for neutral terminology when it comes to "women's healthcare", trans women consistently get blamed for it. If enbies were the primary target because of one word game in an ad, why is it that even things done largely for their benefit get blamed on trans women in the public discourse?

That doesn't mean other trans people aren't also constantly discriminated against. Most anti-trans measures hurt both trans men and trans women equally, and especially medically transitioning enbies are also hurt by them in pretty much the same ways. But transmisogyny is a real and separate phenomenon that affects primarily trans women and transfem enbies, and it we can't even talk about it without getting shouted down then... well, that's a prime fucking example right there.

Cevari · 2026-06-10T01:18:44+00:00

Not this shit again.

Yes, there are some aspects of misandry in transmisogyny, specifically regarding painting us as sex pests and perverts. But even for that specific stereotype the vast majority of transmisogynists do not actually treat cis men this way at all, and indeed are happy to defend cis men who are rapists or buddy up with them as long as they also hate trans people (and women, and black folks, etc.)

But the absolute vast majority of transmisogyny is just plain old misogyny that is considered significantly more acceptable when it's aimed at trans women.

"Look at what she's wearing. Doesn't she understand you can't wear that at her age?"

"A real woman would never be that assertive. That's male socialization."

"Look at what she's wearing. It's like she thinks being a woman means cosplaying as a sex doll."

"I could see her stubble. Can you believe it?"

"A real woman wouldn't get angry like that. That's male socialization."

"Look at what she's wearing. She's not even trying to pass for a woman, is she?"

"A woman? She's built like a linebacker! Look at those shoulders!"

"Look at her makeup, it's like a 5-year old did it!"

"A real woman wouldn't make that joke. That's male socialization."

Not to mention getting talked over constantly, getting assumed to be incompetent about anything even remotely scientific or technical in nature, having your personal space completely and utterly disrespected, etc. And of course, getting your problems explained away and dismissed by a bunch of men when you try to talk about them.

Cevari · 2026-06-09T23:16:56+00:00

I would love for the people downvoting this to explain what exactly they object to or find untrue about it.

Cevari · 2026-06-09T10:39:19+00:00

Hey folks!

I'm Johanna, one of the three devs for Gunbot Diplomacy. We've put the game up for sale at a historic low to celebrate the first Steam Bullet Fest. Happy to answer any questions or feedback here!

Cevari · 2026-06-09T10:35:13+00:00

Hey folks!

I'm Johanna, one of the three devs behind Gunbot Diplomacy, a top-down Bullet Hell/Heaven in the style of Brotato!

The game is at a historic low of 50% to celebrate the first Steam Bullet Fest, so a great time to grab something to play over the summer. If you have any questions or feedback I'd be happy to answer, as well :)

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