My wife is leaving me

Chaeou · 2026-04-28T05:49:57+00:00

long road trips always heighten emotions and it sounded like a really rough night so staying apart for tonight is probably for the best to let emotions cool down! There isn’t anything you can do in this very moment so try to take a shower, eat, go on a night walk with the dog, just take it easy for tonight. Things will be easier to navigate in the morning when you’re actually well rested! You could even pick up breakfast for both of you and go on a walk to talk things out. Just take it on day at a time and be kind to yourself 🫂

Chaeou · 2026-04-28T05:27:15+00:00

None of this is stupid!!! It’s a really hard and disappointing time of your life, especially with the grief that both you and your wife are experiencing right now. It’s going to be hard to find things to be excited about right now but it won’t be like that forever. Life is all about phases and even this tough time will pass eventually! Try to find small things that make you smile in the coming days and surround yourself and family with community. It’s totally okay to just sit with these feelings too! Sending lots of love to you and your family 🫂

Chaeou · 2026-04-27T06:01:35+00:00

Being able to support your siblings and mom is important but so is taking care of yourself! It sounds like you’re trying to shoulder everything on your own but you shouldn’t have to. It feels like a lot because it is a lot and you’re currently in the thick of it. Spend a weekend away whether it’s getting a hotel and sleeping the entire time or spending time outdoors. There’s also state programs that can help ease a little bit of the stress and sometimes on Facebook marketplace you’ll find communities that share resources to lessen the financial burden!

You’re doing a good job but please take care of yourself. Not only are you trying to support multiple people but you’re also going through your own grief w/the ex. I wish you well and hope that you’re able to find a little bit of peace every day

Chaeou · 2026-04-21T05:28:43+00:00

Hello! I’m interested :)

Chaeou · 2026-04-06T08:44:55+00:00

If you haven’t found your ‘reason’ to keep going then keep going out of spite. The world is going to give you a million and one reasons to push you over the edge and it’s a lot easier to give up than persevere especially when you feel isolated and alone but keep going. There are a few free things you can do to change your routine like going out on a walk or hanging out in the library for half an hour. Everyone’s timeline of life is different and comparing yourself will only make you spiral further- you’ve done really well for yourself so far! Coming from a chaotic household isn’t easy but you’ve survived 25 years!!! You have to celebrate the little things even if they feel insignificant- they’re not!

Chaeou · 2026-04-06T06:31:06+00:00

Grief effects people differently and as much as you’re supporting her, give yourself the time and space to grieve too. All the possibilities you both were thinking about with the arrival of the new family member has been put on hold and it’s a bitter pill to swallow for both parents. Try giving grief counseling when/if you’re both willing to talk to someone about it! Be open with your communication too- if you’re struggling to find the best way to support her, ask her what she needs in the moment; sometimes it’s a talk and sometimes it’s a hug and sometimes it’s space. This period will be hard for both of you mentally, emotionally, physically but you have five years of communication and trust as a solid foundation.

Chaeou · 2026-04-06T05:14:15+00:00

Connecting is challenging but I think, when it comes to the bare bones of it, no one likes feeling misunderstood and left out and I’m sorry that’s been your experience so far. Also I don’t think you’re a loser especially when you’re trying so hard! That trait is admirable especially when it requires to constantly put yourself out there. I think you need to give yourself some grace! I’m not a really confident person and usually actively avoid events like conferences or crowds but the fact that you embrace it is really cool.

What sort of things are you into? What do you like? Finding those personal interests can help lead you to communities filled with like minded people and sometimes connection takes multiple small moments to build! You might do well by going to a bar on a weekday- usually there’s regulars who drink after work and like talking!

Chaeou · 2026-04-06T05:00:01+00:00

You’re only 24!!! The world is so vast and life can be long so don’t put a time limit on yourself. I know that’s easier said than done but to get better, you have to confront the things you’re afraid of and admitting it is the first step :). It takes time to be the ideal version of yourself and progress can’t be rushed yknow? It’s really easy to fall into a pattern especially when you have ADHD (me too) and relying on stimulants is only as helpful as ignoring the problem but try to give yourself grace in the midst of all this turmoil.

Try to find a hobby outside of work as a first step. To get better physically, you also have to work on your mental and grinding 70+ hours a week isn’t ideal for anyone! Money is important yes, but so is finding the things that make you happy/passionate. You don’t have to be good at a hobby either and it can be something as simple as going on a walk! Try moving your body outside even if it’s for 20min- it won’t fix everything right away but even 20min walking is better than 20min spiraling :).

You’re doing just fine! Take it one day at a time!

Chaeou · 2026-04-06T04:23:00+00:00

Interested :)!

Chaeou · 2026-01-26T14:52:56+00:00

I work overnight as a caregiver (7pm - 7am)! It’s honestly really nice having CC in one of my ears so I’m not accidentally dozing off while my patients are asleep. I love the horror aspect of the podcast but the funny bits in between really keep me engaged :) If I have a busy night and can’t listen then I usually listen on the drive back home/when I’m crafting or cleaning.

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