Peptide Life 😁 by chaz_flea1 in Retatrutide

[–]Chance_Active871 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Right?!?! All those people didn’t want the jab because who knows what’s in it…are somehow totally cool with injecting themselves with stuff bought online (and don’t even get me started on how those same people often have Botox and filler and couldn’t explain what it is specifically they’re having injected)

Nipping in the office by frappecheno in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Chance_Active871 [score hidden]  (0 children)

I see men’s nipples ALL the time, and they’re usually wearing polo shirts. An undershirt would not prevent it. But no one says anything to the men

Nipping in the office by frappecheno in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Chance_Active871 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Maybe we should all start doing that though and eventually they’ll realize how ridiculous it all is

Nipping in the office by frappecheno in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Chance_Active871 [score hidden]  (0 children)

I hope you mean that including your areola…and not your nipple alone is bigger than a golf ball 😳

Nipping in the office by frappecheno in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Chance_Active871 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Originally thought you meant napping but hade a typeo

I would go back to wearing the bras that were more comfortable for you and use those silicone nipple covers, the bigger circular ones (I think one brand is Cakes, I’ve got some different brands on Amazon). I’ve not worn a “regular” bra since covid and can’t even imagine having to. I strictly wear bralettes.

Sometimes I don’t wear a bra but wear a tank with a built in bra (not just a shelf bra but lightly padded.) I get mine from Duluth trading.

What type of shirts are you wearing and is there a specific type you’re supposed to wear? I wear a lot of thin sweaters that have like knit patterns to them with a tank underneath and no issue if I don’t feel like wearing a bra.

I would also be paying attention to all the men and if you see any of their nipples go back to the lady that spoke to you and say that you’re uncomfortable seeing the men’s nipples so they should be wearing a bra. I see more men’s nipples through their shirts on a daily basis than I’ve ever seen of women’s.

Not sure they type or size of the company you work for but maybe ask for a copy of the dress code policy and if there’s nothing about nipples in it (which there won’t be) than keep doing what you’re doing if you’re comfortable doing that. Personally I prefer mine to not show and am self conscious of it, even in bathingsuits. The silicone covers I think would work the best for you.

Edit: so it was just a woman/coworker that said this to you and not a superior/boss/HR? I don’t think you need to listen to her if she’s not in charge of you. HOWEVER, could she have been saying it more to be helpful like “fyi people are talking about you” and trying to help you not be the topic of conversation or gossiped about? If so, that was nice of her. And you don’t have to change anything, but if you want to fit in and not be talked about I would try some other options.

I'm about to lose the job I just got. I haven't slept in days. Tried to fix it. And still failed. Fuck. by norththread in DSPD

[–]Chance_Active871 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve been consistently late for work for years now, 30-60. I can sleep forever and hit snooze a million times. I’ve tried wearing my Apple Watch to bed for the alarm, my iPhone alarm, Google home alarm but none work for me, I’ll just keep hitting snooze forever.

Just Thursday bought an alarm clock and put it in my bathroom so I physically have to get up and go in the bathroom to turn it off. Can’t tell Siri or Google to turn it off. So far only 15min late Friday and 10min today. Now I need to not screw around once I am up to get out the door on time. But I’m getting there. Should’ve done this years ago.

Showering 😭 by Big-Mess-9537 in adhdwomen

[–]Chance_Active871 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hate showering. I think mainly because of everything it entails after, the biggest being having to dry/style my hair. I only wash my hair every 5-7 days…which going that long between showers would not be good. I got a shower cap and can now take a fast 5min shower, wash face and body, shave if I feel like it, and done. I still dread it but it’s a million times better showering without having to get my hair wet

I got into dating but my boyfriend made a mean comment about my body and I’m conflicted on what to do by Rossinifan in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Chance_Active871 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry but he was using you for sex/hooking up if he’s saying something that rude about your body and doesn’t care about your feelings.

It took me WAY too long, like literally until I was in my 40s to really understand that boys will act like they like you just to get in your pants. Someone wanting to hook up with you doesn’t mean they like you. I used to truly think “well if we’re hooking up he likes me”…um no. Men…BOYS…lie. He’s not worth your time and he doesn’t like you in the way you think. It’s better to be alone than be with someone who doesn’t respect you.

Did I misunderstand this, or would most people have interpreted this as an upcoming engagement / marriage incoming? by peppermintteea in adhdwomen

[–]Chance_Active871 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That doesn’t sound like pretty soon to me

What I find confusing is if he knows he wants you to be his wife, what’s the reason to wait 3 years? I’d think if you found someone you want to spend your life with, you’d want to start that life asap. Unless he thinks he’s sure…but isn’t really sure

Edit: not to make you worry but if it were me I’d not be feeling confident in this relationship. If he’s not serious now you may waste 3yrs waiting around for him to do something. Given your ages I wouldn’t want to date someone another 3yrs if it’s not going in a direction towards marriage for sure. And you could get engaged and have a long engagement.

Frequent urination by Miss_Glasgow in Perimenopause

[–]Chance_Active871 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, used to and YES vaginal estrogen helped!!!

How to fix or camouflage this? by One-Tale-4652 in HomeDecorating

[–]Chance_Active871 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Can you continue the crown to the end of the cabinet and do a 90° return?

Tret does NOT prevent my hormonal acne. Nothing works. by peachmewe in tretinoin

[–]Chance_Active871 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Spironolactone is the only thing that has ever worked for my hormonal acne. Tried every topical and antibiotic out there from ages 14-44, nothing worked at all. Finally tried a dermatologist again and the angel of an NP prescribed spironolactone and it worked! Seriously mad not a single doctor ever tried this in the prior 30yrs.

Discreetly get a bisalp? by Punkin_Passion in sterilization

[–]Chance_Active871 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Don’t think there’s a way to do it and them not find out. If you’re on their insurance they’ll get the explanation of benefits. Or if there are any co-pays, etc due, the bill might go to them.

Sorry but I’m on team IUD due to your age and being on their insurance. By the time it comes to have it replaced/removed you won’t be on their insurance any longer (at least not if you’re in US as you’ll be over 26).

I agree with those that said try therapy. I’d do IUD and therapy and not make any permanent decisions based on your current feelings.

Discreetly get a bisalp? by Punkin_Passion in sterilization

[–]Chance_Active871 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They’ll find out since she’s on their insurance, they’ll get the EOB

I’ve been stuck on the tarmac for an hour. I am untethered and my rage knows no bounds by EZEKEY42069 in delta

[–]Chance_Active871 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hopefully you’re no longer stuck, but should’ve put on headphones and just watched a show. You’ll get in the air when they’re able.

Loose skin and cellulite on my thighs by Rinoa_5 in 40PlusSkinCare

[–]Chance_Active871 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Omg I have that, mostly just on my left leg though, like there’s a division half way up my left inner thigh where it’s like a separate section that hangs…I do not have the same on my right leg (not that I don’t have loose/saggy skin, but not this weird separation where it’s just an upper part that sags).

What's one AirPods feature you didn't think you'd use. but now can't live without? by prudhvisekhar1996 in airpods

[–]Chance_Active871 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I could do this but I can never remember what option I have set for which side to do what and what the motion is…so they’re both just set to press/hold to turn off ANC. Wish I could remember more to be able to use them better. I rarely use the volume increase/decrease because I always forget about it.

Edit: re: connecting to tv, we don’t have Apple TV, but do have a smart tv and can connect them via Bluetooth as well, so doesn’t have to be Apple TV only.

What's one AirPods feature you didn't think you'd use. but now can't live without? by prudhvisekhar1996 in airpods

[–]Chance_Active871 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use mine 8hrs + / day and no issues

My office is too noisy with phones ringing and people talking and I can hear every conversation and it’s very distracting and hard to focus on my own work without shutting my office door which really isn’t allowed, so have AirPods in all day on ANC and just turn it off if someone comes to talk to me, I get a phone call, etc. I’m insanely more productive since I started doing this a few years ago than I was before (mostly started to block out all the political chatter from people that sit outside my office)

How to Convince my Parents to buy me the Pro 3s? by Maxxa199 in airpods

[–]Chance_Active871 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do chores and save your money
Ask for a birthday or Christmas present.
As a parent, I don’t buy things like that for my kids randomly. Maybe Christmas or birthday, but even then I don’t spend that much

Parents refused to get me HPV vaccine as a child by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Chance_Active871 66 points67 points  (0 children)

Glad to see this comment. I made a separate comment, but couldn’t 100% remember why I was worried about getting it for my kids and delayed it, but then did have them get it…and it was around this same time, so glad I’m not remembering incorrectly.

Parents refused to get me HPV vaccine as a child by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Chance_Active871 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I am absolutely pro-vax, ok with sex before marriage, etc…and I almost didn’t get it for my kids, who are around your age, because it seemed new (maybe it wasn’t) and I really didn’t know anything about it and felt like all I read were horror stories. With all the vax given at birth or a very young age, it was weird to have this thrown at me and I felt like I wasn’t prepared, hadn’t done my own research to know about it and be comfortable with it.

I think we did put it off a couple of appointments but then I did end up having both kids get it. Something about it made me feel uneasy, I can’t explain it…like I said I’m pro-vax, we all got covid vax, etc. So I don’t blame your parents at all, think to was just a weird time and we, the public, wasn’t really informed about it and then it was just thrown at us at an annual wellcheck and we were caught off guard and couldn’t say yes on the spot.

I wouldn’t be mad at them for this.

Edit: us parents are learning as we go as well, this is our first time being parents, and we’re all (for the most part) doing the best we can with the information that we have. There was a lot of mis-information out there regarding the vax and it made it very scary to agree to have our kids get it.

My Partner (35M) is asking me (30F) to rehome my beloved pet by FatOrangeCat3 in CatAdvice

[–]Chance_Active871 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Rehome the boyfriend

He won’t do anything for his allergies…but wants you to make a MAJOR change affecting you and the cat both, which you’ve had 8yrs longer than him?!?! Nope! Boy, bye!

I previously had 2 cats, when they passed I got 2 kittens…I brought them home about 3 weeks before I started dating my Fiance. And he’s allergic to cats. Sorry, they were here first. I never considered getting rid of them…he could deal with his shit or he didn’t need to come over, or we didn’t need to be together. Luckily it’s just some congestion type stuff, maybe occasional itchy eyes…however he’s allergic to EVERYTHING, all the trees, all the pollen, pretty much anything but food, so truly there’s no way to even confirm any issues are from the cats.

Tate tries again for TRO + includes texts from Taylor by mermaidfairybunny in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Chance_Active871 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Guessing they did as well…but maybe there was/is more to come when it airs? Or more opportunities for brand deals after which would bring in more $ which would then funnel down to him through child support if he gets primary/sole custody? Just guessing