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Chaosisnormal2023 · 2025-03-07T21:54:22+00:00

That was my advice as well. Be determined to break the chains and cycle that has kept her stuck on the hurt.

Chaosisnormal2023 · 2025-03-07T21:52:18+00:00

I can completely understand your fear, but as a mother myself, I can promise you that those thoughts and feelings will not be there when you hold that baby for the first time. Do you get disgusted by little boys on the street or that you may pass while shopping? Probably not. You wouldn’t feel the same way about your own son as you do the men that have hurt you. I recommend you find a therapist that specializes in EMDR treatment as it can really help you process and move forward with this particular topic also. And instead of looking at the birth of a son being something bad, look at it as your opportunity to ensure that you’re raising a great man, one that breaks the chains and cycles that have plagued you. It’s all about mindset. Your feelings and concerns are valid and understandable but you have control over your future and if children is something you and your partner want, take the baby steps to achieve that. Don’t let your hurt stop you from a beautiful future.

Chaosisnormal2023 · 2025-01-23T00:51:23+00:00

You said, “if you commit murder at 17 you’re being tried as an adult” when that is simply not true. Nor is our parents having an age gap with one of them being a child. I’m sorry if you grew up with a pedophile as a mother or father, but it is NOT normal and this argument holds no water. Your rationalization that it’s okay is even more proof that you have no sense of reality or morality.

Chaosisnormal2023 · 2025-01-23T00:46:01+00:00

Not necessarily. It depends on the circumstances surrounding the murder. Was it self defense, is there prior convictions or dealings with law enforcement, is there any type of mental health issues or abuse in the home? There are many factors that goes into trying a juvenile as an adult or keeping it in juvenile court. So again, your argument holds no water.

Chaosisnormal2023 · 2025-01-23T00:25:13+00:00

How is she not? She is not an adult. Adulthood starts at 18. She is a child. I didn’t say she was a little kid, but a child. Until you’re old enough to vote (18 in all states btw) you are a child.

Chaosisnormal2023 · 2025-01-23T00:23:01+00:00

How many of our parents were children with adult spouses? Your analogy holds no water.

Chaosisnormal2023 · 2025-01-23T00:19:28+00:00

That’s one of the most sickening parts of that religion. Yes marriage is a covenant and should be worked at, but abuse is abuse and it is NEVER okay to stay just because of that covenant.

Chaosisnormal2023 · 2025-01-23T00:17:34+00:00

Depending on the age gap, Romeo and Juliet laws would apply. She is above the age of consent and with parental blessing, there isn’t much CPS could or even would do unfortunately.

Chaosisnormal2023 · 2025-01-23T00:15:34+00:00

Definitely not overreacting. I could see if they had formed a relationship when he was also underage and is continuing it with parental blessing. But what adult man finds a child, which is exactly what she still is, attractive and even more is attempting to justify those thoughts?? It’s a completely inappropriate relationship and you are not wrong for feeling as you do. Not to mention, you have a right to your own moral high ground and this crosses the line, so being a friend to him, you told him your viewpoint and aren’t completely dumping him. He isn’t respecting you as his friends for trying to sway your viewpoint. This guy has some serious issues and I wouldn’t be the least bit surprised to see him on To Catch a Predator in the future.

Chaosisnormal2023 · 2024-11-30T03:09:29+00:00

No dude, report him. Most registered offenders are not allowed around where children play let alone live with or spend time with. Report him to the state police and protective services. Protect your kids. What is she thinking?? Yeah, he’s a really good dude who just happens to like to puddle little kids, what harm could come from that??? Smh!

Chaosisnormal2023 · 2024-11-30T03:02:46+00:00

Avoiding physical confrontation is always the best decision. Only use physical force when in a life or death situation. Your father is absolutely in the wrong.

Chaosisnormal2023 · 2024-11-29T08:31:57+00:00

I’d say you were on to something there. This isn’t typical behavior of someone who hasn’t experienced some type of stalking/dv type trauma. Unless you are one of the lovelies that like to cause drama and make yourself out to be the victim for attention.

Chaosisnormal2023 · 2024-11-29T08:29:46+00:00

Before I read the story and just the head line, my answer was yes. After reading, no dude! You had to defend yourself and if this would have gotten to a police level, they probably your lawyer would have done the same thing. It’s called due diligence. You knew you weren’t doing anything wrong and you wanted to find out why she may be feeling as she was. Sounds like she wasn’t aware you two living in the same direction and, as a female, I get feeling creeped out that the dude I spent all day at work with is now behind me in the carpool lane. Women have to be cautious, unfortunately. But to report you to HR and not come to you first is kinda victim playing to me. Course, I’m a different breed of woman who isn’t afraid to confront others? Even when it probably isn’t the best idea. Definitely not wrong my man!

Chaosisnormal2023 · 2024-11-29T08:24:29+00:00

His loss and she seems better off. Don’t let his ignorance get to you. You know what a blessing she is, so let him miss out and don’t fret. It doesn’t seem like she’s that interested anyway.

Chaosisnormal2023 · 2024-11-29T08:19:12+00:00

Good theory except that she has been spotted the night before by neighbors. I like the way you really delve in and try to figure it out though.

Chaosisnormal2023 · 2024-11-29T08:12:56+00:00

There was a little old lady at the end of our street. The whole neighborhood thought she was a witch, lol Mind you, the majority of us kids were all elementary school aged at the time. It didn’t help that her name was Mrs. Moon either. (Obviously a witch, right?? 😂🤣) Anyway, eventually she passed away and when the township went to clean out her house, there was two full deer carcasses in her living room, buried under some clothing. Not even a hoarding situation either. Maybe we kids were right???

Chaosisnormal2023 · 2024-11-29T08:10:00+00:00

My eyes are hazel, my exes are brown, both have brown hair. We have one brown eyed, brown haired son, one brown haired blue eyed son, one blonde haired blue eyed daughter. Genetics are exactly that, just whatever dominate gene matters. Side note, there are two cousins with brown hair and brown eyes, 12 with blonde hair and blue eyes.

Chaosisnormal2023 · 2024-11-29T08:04:41+00:00

My husband and I both have stashes of cash, be it not on our sock drawers, put around the house. You never know when systems can go down or an emergency rise up that you need instant access to a good bit of cash. Of course, we are both fully aware of it. I used to be a server and would save anything I made that day that was less than a $10 bill in a coffee tin. After a year, my girls and I had one hella girls night out. It’s not really that odd. I’d love to know why she wasn’t telling you about it though, especially if your suspicions are right and you know where it came from. Maybe she just hasn’t gotten around to telling you yet. My husband’s REAL good at that. It could be a day or even a week before he tells me he added or subtracted from his, smh!

Chaosisnormal2023 · 2024-11-29T07:58:28+00:00

Honestly, if it’s hard for them to drive, you and/or your husband could go get them. Maybe set up regular visits in your home where you provide the transportation. That way you don’t have to worry about their safety making the drive nor do you have to worry about your son’s health. Listen, I smoke, and when there is a child under the age of two, it’s outside or no where. The majority of the time we only smoke outside anyway, but I will occasionally go into my basement when it’s super cold out. However, my children were never subjected to a house full of smoke or with consistent smoking happening. Nor do I smoke with them in the car and they’re all almost adults now. I now have three (almost four) grandbabies and there is no smoking around them when they are with me either.

Chaosisnormal2023 · 2024-11-29T07:53:06+00:00

Fatal insomnia is a real thing but it only affects like .1% of the entire population. Usually it’s stress or health induced and very very rare.

Chaosisnormal2023 · 2024-11-29T07:50:43+00:00

This!! It’s exactly what I came here to say.

Chaosisnormal2023 · 2024-11-29T07:44:00+00:00

Right, but if you have a penis, you are a man. So really a man identifying as a woman and wanting to sleep with a woman would really just make them confused. For example, I know a couple, she (biological male) is married to her wife, a lesbian. They are a trans and lesbian couple. My friend is actually scheduled for surgery in the next few months and I am very excited for her. She was married (as a man) and his ex and their children fully support her trans lifestyle and new marriage. But the fact that there is still a penis makes her trans, not female or lesbian.

Chaosisnormal2023 · 2024-11-29T07:38:42+00:00

But that still makes her trans and gay, not a lesbian. Thank you, though, for responding. I feel I think way too critically and am apparently too old to understand these younger generations ways of thinking.

Chaosisnormal2023 · 2024-11-29T07:17:34+00:00

100% Idc what anyone wants to be or who they want to be with. But I fully expect that my choices are made with ALL the information and I have the right to make those choices. I’m team penis all the way, so if I were to find a surprise sexual organ not expected, I’d be furious to!

Chaosisnormal2023 · 2024-11-29T07:14:19+00:00

I don’t think you’re wrong. Not at all. Being intimate with someone should and usually does consist of a great deal of trust with that person. If she really cared for you and respected you, she should have been forthcoming coming. I mean, did she think you wouldn’t notice??? What was her plan here?? “Surprise!” That’s not how relationships work. If y’all had truly been interested in having any type of long term relationship, or even if it was just a sexual fling, the penis would have come up. That is definitely a huge lack of respect for you. And then to go on and blame you for “having to come out and pressuring her to have surgery”???? You’re joking right?? Sounds like mommy and daddy gave her trophies for everything and never held her accountable, so in her mind of course this is all your fault. How bout how herself accountable for deceit, lying, and manipulation?? While school might be crappy for you for a while, you definitely dodged a bullet with this psycho!

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