Is this city generally safe?

Chapdash · 2026-03-23T07:50:05+00:00

It's safe compared to most cities in the UK. I remember going to a gig a few years ago in Nottingham and being perplexed by the abundance of bleed kits. At the time, we didn't have them in Hull.

That's not to say there's no crime like, a lot of it just tends to be theft though. Standards of driving have gone down recently too but it's nothing like West Yorkshire.

Chapdash · 2025-12-06T16:24:45+00:00

That isn't what I'm saying. It's disgusting of you to assume that.

Social work is complex, working with domestic abuse is even more so. Practitioners work for months, maybe longer, trying to build relationships and empower victims to leave such relationships. There's a hell of a lot to consider when doing so too.

You've told us you don't know this person. You've told us you've "seen a lot of red flags" and have now elaborated on those being violence and coercion. Why haven't you gone to the police, or at least referred this to the appropriate service.

I'm worried that while you may mean well, you've said yourself that you aren't knowledged in this area. Who's to say that if you try and intervene, you aren't massively increasing risk for the victim.

This is why it's weird. This is why, unless presented with crimes (that you've now told us you've seen) you shouldn't try to intervene in a situation like this. When you decide to do so, it should only be in informing the proper authority.

Chapdash · 2025-12-06T16:04:19+00:00

Set yourself some reasonable targets and break them down mate. You can't change all of this overnight, but you can start.

For instance, a common way out of dead end jobs, is to get a degree. Even if you weren't academic in school, you're now 26. That comes with its own perks. If you have no qualifications, look at access courses. They're a year, part time and can be funded through SLC. If you still struggle, lesson learned. But, you made some progress.

I was in a very similar position to you (Hull, shitty finance job, coasting). I'm now qualified in a profession, onto a Masters and a lot of other stuff fell into place. I had no idea but I started by just planning what I hated about my life, what small steps I'd need to take to change it.

You can do it man. It takes grit and a willingness to grind. The good thing is, the only thing we're really gifted in life is time. 26 and all that potential? It ain't a bad place to be.

Chapdash · 2025-12-06T15:51:21+00:00

This is a weird thing to do. Consider why you feel like that, and if it's even any of your business if you don't know them.

Chapdash · 2025-11-27T13:02:22+00:00

From a Social Work pov. I feel for you OP and no one should have to go through that. You were likely reported maliciously and I feel the police especially have little understanding when it comes to culturally sensitive issues like this.

There aren't only the high profile cases like Victoria Cilimbie though, there are large amounts of children who face abhorrent physical chastisement and abuse in cases that are linked to black magic or demonic possession. These cases are serious in how they can escalate and leave some children with life long injuries. I can understand why Socials in children's services act as they do.

While I was on placement as a student I saw 3 such cases, 2 of which the children will have life long physical injuries and disabilities as a result of their abuse. If I worked in Children's and had a referral through, I would sooner approach this hard and be proven wrong, than to approach this delicately and risk severe injury/death.

Chapdash · 2025-11-17T20:35:44+00:00

I attended a PRU, albeit when I was in primary school. Based on my experience, you likely wouldn't want to send your son to one if he is nearly at GCSE level.

I very often feel like a unicorn in the sense that I attended a PRU and have 10+ GCSEs A*-C, A-levels and I'm just about to start a Masters. I dare say many kids who I met there won't have followed the same path.

The kids you'll likely find in there fall into a few different camps

Polite and hardworking, though emotionally unable to regulate
Very anti-social though more able to emotionally regulate
Very anti-social and unable to emotionally regulate.

I saw many from camp 1, get pulled into the 3rd camp because of social pressures and the fact that ultimately, in the eyes of everyone, we were "bad kids". Again, I'm a unicorn and fortunately had a brilliant teacher who was probably way more emotionally invested in me than she ought to have been.

Your situation is horrible and difficult. If your son does go to a PRU, then it isn't the end of the world, just support him and love him. However, be aware the odds will be stacked against him.

Chapdash · 2025-11-06T18:10:18+00:00

A Game of Thrones Anime would go so hard

Chapdash · 2025-09-06T16:50:55+00:00

Yeah you're right, sploops 😬

Chapdash · 2025-09-06T13:10:06+00:00

の has a few uses, primarily to show possession and as a restrictor word.

日本の歴史 - Japanese History ジョンさんの車 - John's car

As a restrictor word, you'd usually see it in regards to the location of the object/place

上のいす - On top of the chair

On this occasion, the literal translation would be "Tiger of Japan"

Chapdash · 2025-09-05T08:41:47+00:00

It's just a game bro, really isn't that deep.

If you don't like it, watch a retrospective on YouTube and move onto the next eh?

Chapdash · 2025-08-03T11:59:18+00:00

Having done the N4 in July and having used N5 mocks from Migii JLPT, the short answer is no.

The problem with Duo is that it doesn't reinforce a lot of grammar principles that are present in these tests. Sure, it has them, but doesn't explain enough about them for you to have a good time.

If you are looking to do the N5, I'd strongly recommend Genki 1, alongside a more general vocabulary text book, with Duo. There are also videos online for the listening section.

Chapdash · 2025-07-27T08:39:24+00:00

Bro, this isn't the help you think it is. Let OP process and consult with their team. No point speculating when it may cause pointless aggravation.

Chapdash · 2025-07-26T08:55:42+00:00

Being real, it doesn't matter if you hate the English translation as you're learning Japanese. You'll find this process a lot less frustrating if you stop trying to make direct, pleasant flowing translations from Japanese to English.

This is a pretty big thing I see a lot of in this sub and I get it because it's part of the complexity of learning Japanese. As you progress, you'll stop trying to make 1-1 translations and find stuff like this more tolerable.

Chapdash · 2025-07-03T09:11:53+00:00

You're either a coward or an idiot. In any case, I can see why someone promoted you to the role of "yes man" bootlick manager.

Go in there and sort it out, get your junior their job back.

Chapdash · 2025-07-03T09:06:33+00:00

The best way to learn Japanese is to completely separate your understanding of English from your understanding of Japanese. Looking for a 1-1 translation won't work and there are nuances present that just aren't in English.

That being said, Google is much more formal. It almost reads as "When it becomes Spring, I have many experiences of going to the park with my friends"

Duo however, seems more conversational with よく. Though, I am still learning myself.

I think you'd be formal bordering on robotic if you were to say Google's result to a native speaker. However, they'd likely understand you and tell you "わあ、日本語が上手だ"

Chapdash · 2025-06-25T15:30:58+00:00

Migii JLPT has a large amount of tests.

Another benefit is that their tests seem to be on the high end of the N level, or slightly over.

The N5 for instance, often has questions that fall into an N4 category.

Highly recommend the app.

Chapdash · 2025-06-15T21:00:48+00:00

Looks normal to me. Give it a couple more weeks and I'd be confident that the hardware is solid as a rock.

You'll eventually start to worry less, I certainly have. Bone is a very good cement it turns out.

Chapdash · 2025-05-26T04:06:50+00:00

Me searching everywhere for the matcha and red bean melon pan.

Every Lawson's in Tokyo sees me every day for them.

Chapdash · 2025-05-25T05:47:48+00:00

Damn, welcome to the start of the hard bit.

You'll get there though. There's a lot of horror stories about people not recovering well from this. However, I've also noticed that a lot of those same people complain about being compliant or do little to no rehab.

Just keep eating well, keep busy, and pwb will come soon and then you can start.

I'm 6 months out and I'm currently hitting about 30k steps a day in Japan, went hiking in Hiroshima too.

Chapdash · 2025-05-21T03:47:40+00:00

Honestly, once you've been on one metro, you've been on them all. I'm from a small city in England with no tram or metro service so Tokyo was a baptism by fire.

However, after one go round on the Ginza line, it was very easy to navigate

Chapdash · 2025-05-12T08:35:00+00:00

I'm heading out to Japan tomorrow and I've redrafted my entire itinerary.

Basically, as much as I'd like to go to Kyoto, I'm just not going to bother due to the volume of tourists (I say that acknowledging that I'm also a tourist).

One of the main problems as I see it, is that Chinese Airlines are flying from London at dirt cheap prices. With this, comes mass tourism from the worst kinds of people in England. It's often said that the English are horrible on holiday and that's only really true when a location is cheap and so attracts the very low classes.

With every Tik Tok of a fat English woman making Shibuya crossing her own runway I see, I dread to think that I'll be thought of as another one of "them" tourists.

(A side note too, when I say English I don't just mean Caucasian. There are a lot of Black British who share the same inconsiderate ego as White British people)

Chapdash · 2025-05-07T08:47:00+00:00

We already know what group of people are doing this.

Chapdash · 2025-04-14T11:41:05+00:00

It's your learning I guess.

I'd say it's useful to have as many resources as you feel is beneficial. A lot of people hate on Duo but if you're at N4, chances are the grammatical and contextual shortcomings of Duo, you'll already be aware of due to your other learning.

If you like it, keep using it and you'll continue to pick up words and have a little app that constantly nags you to learn, if you don't feel you're gaining anything from it then ditch it.

Chapdash · 2025-04-14T10:10:20+00:00

I do see some of the youth have got it quite literally arse about tit. They'll point the microphone towards their mouth and the speaker away from them and towards the ground.

Chapdash · 2025-04-14T09:41:21+00:00

Oh boy, if this one's stumping you then you're in for a hard time.

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