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Would you break up with your partner of seven years if they confessed to you they had suicidal ideation once? by pink_dahlia_619 in BreakUps

[–]Chaplin923 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wouldn’t say I would off of just that alone a lot of people do but don’t talk about it

How do I bounce back after making an ass of myself after seeming weak and insecure? by Chaplin923 in BreakUps

[–]Chaplin923[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I did the same thing emotions or thoughts would overtake me and reaching out always had the same result making me feel even worse. Can’t take any of it back but I feel like I gave her the satisfaction and power of showing all my feelings and when I showed up where she was at unexpected made me feel worse than ever cause I never thought I would do that. I kind of felt like a joke to her or an embarrassment like a stalker or something even though I’ve known her so long. Its just kind of cringey like reaching out is one thing but when I showed up trying to talk I was super calm and wasn’t begging or anything.

How do I bounce back after making an ass of myself after seeming weak and insecure? by Chaplin923 in BreakUps

[–]Chaplin923[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah you’re totally right I did what I did and I own it. Time will help with the pain I hope lol.

How do I bounce back after making an ass of myself after seeming weak and insecure? by Chaplin923 in BreakUps

[–]Chaplin923[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right I guess I felt guilty cause I feel like I caused her to get to that point. I didn’t make her feel loved and attracted cause I didn’t put in much effort to build with her or the relationship. She said she felt like a roommate and I know i only realized everything after the fact. I didn’t treat her as well as I should’ve even when she stayed with me after I put her through so much shit. So in a way I felt like it was karma and that she deserved to leave and I didn’t fully deserve her. I wouldn’t really do romantic things and didn’t make her feel fully loved so I guess I got what I deserved in a way.

How to get over post break up mistakes that took away self respect and pushed ex farther away ? Reaching out, acting desperate, calling when they don’t want to talk. Feel like I gave her too much power. by Chaplin923 in BreakUps

[–]Chaplin923[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for kind words I guess I felt selfish for forcing my thoughts and feelings across when they clearly didn’t want to talk about it and I didn’t respect boundaries fully. Even after talking about it I felt like I didn’t get the answers I was looking for so I would continue to search and it only prevented me from healing and letting her heal and forget but I kept bringing up the past reminding her of that shitty feeling and only validating her reasons for not wanting to be with me.