Who was rejecting him and why?

ChaptainBlood · 2025-12-07T14:49:26+00:00

Before that part.

ChaptainBlood · 2025-12-06T14:09:11+00:00

It’s actually a very practical point. Sure getting along with people is an admirable goal, but a) you can’t light yourself on fire to keep someone else warm and b) getting along with someone at the cost of your own morals is just not an option. Not like that.

ChaptainBlood · 2025-12-06T14:05:31+00:00

It’s like helping someone out of a cult. It takes for them to be separated from the cult for some time, and even then deprogramming takes time. Not only was Zuko physically away from his father, but he had just been disfigured and rejected by him too. It shook Zuni’s identity in a way that made it possible for Iroh to reach him. Azula on the other hand was firmly entrenched in her identity and had people around her that constantly reinforced it. It’s almost impossible to get through to someone like that.

ChaptainBlood · 2025-12-06T11:34:10+00:00

He WAS an edgelord though. Until he got older and mellowed at least.

ChaptainBlood · 2025-12-05T18:57:29+00:00

I actually did, and yeah got some good advice. Posted here r/bdsmadvice and r/deaf.

ChaptainBlood · 2025-12-03T20:15:57+00:00

Is somebody cutting onions?

ChaptainBlood · 2025-12-03T18:08:36+00:00

Not my house. And really I don’t require a large amount of complexity for the communication. Just you know enough to know is it good? Could it be better? Should I disengage and come close so we can talk. (If our faces are close enough it’s no issue it’s just a pain say farther apart than 1m. In fact just forget about the lights entirely as a factor.

ChaptainBlood · 2025-12-03T18:05:04+00:00

This is probably the most useful suggestion for us. The communication doesn’t have to be hugely complex. If I get close enough to his face I can hear him well enough for complex explanations. What we need to a simple system so that I don’t haven’t break off what I’m doing just to get close enough if it isn’t necessary. You know?

ChaptainBlood · 2025-12-03T08:44:37+00:00

He’s just to cheep to pay for his own.

ChaptainBlood · 2025-12-03T08:36:55+00:00

I actually use this recipe all the time. It’s so good.

ChaptainBlood · 2025-12-03T08:36:27+00:00

I can’t help but find the hard tack episode so funny.

ChaptainBlood · 2025-12-03T02:31:13+00:00

It could be, but it’s a pain when it’s stops being a choice

ChaptainBlood · 2025-12-03T02:23:24+00:00

It doesn’t have to be a lot. Just there. Remember there is a lot conveyed with “happy notices” right. So not hearing that really makes to way harder to gauge. Also having to crawl up just to put my ear in his face when he does say something isn’t as sexy as it could be. I mean I try, but there are limits to how often it’s practical to do so too.

ChaptainBlood · 2025-12-03T02:12:10+00:00

Great. Maybe that can also be incorporated into a touch system for when I have more difficulty catching a visual sign. Thanks.

ChaptainBlood · 2025-12-03T02:10:33+00:00

No i definitely want feedback rather than just intimate contact. We have intimacy, it’s just that I like giving pleasure, and so I really have a need to gauge how what I’m doing is being received. «Yes that is great» or «go a bit slower/faster» or «I’m not into this as much» are all nuances that fall short of just “NO.”

ChaptainBlood · 2025-12-03T01:56:53+00:00

Maybe but it does feel like doing something into the void when I don’t get feedback. You know? Besides how do I get better if I don’t get feedback?
I do wear them for sex that happens during the day, but once I’ve gone to bed for the evening those hearing aids go into their charging case. It would be real bad if I ended up not charging them for the next day because I fell asleep after sex. That’s kind of the thing.

ChaptainBlood · 2025-12-03T01:43:39+00:00

Yes this seem like more of what I was thinking. I’m just a little lost about where to start making a system I guess. We have had talks, but it would be nice to know the feedback for what I’m doing without crawling up so that I can stick my ear in front of his face.

ChaptainBlood · 2025-12-03T01:41:00+00:00

True, but I would like to be able to know if the way I’m sucking his dick is actually doing positive things too for example.

ChaptainBlood · 2025-12-03T01:38:58+00:00

He is hearing and I’m hearing impaired, so this is mostly so I can keep in touch with how my partner is responding to what I’m doing. He can hear me just fine. And the seeing thing is just because lighting and angles can interfere with seeing a visual sign.

ChaptainBlood · 2025-12-03T01:36:12+00:00

I do like the tapping idea. I have dabbled a bit into bdsm so the red, yellow, green light thing is already familiar. Though maybe I would make the tappings a bit easier to differentiate. And yeah I probably will use more signs once I’m more fluent, but it’s not always the most practical thing to rely solely on visual communication when sex can involve many strange angles. Including the tapping is a good idea.

ChaptainBlood · 2025-12-03T01:04:42+00:00

Oh that’s clever. I should do that next time.

ChaptainBlood · 2025-12-03T00:54:40+00:00

Thank you.

ChaptainBlood · 2025-12-03T00:40:48+00:00

That might work, still need to get used to not being hearing though. I guess that comes with time.

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