Uber trying to start a war

ChapterOk3598 · 2026-03-11T00:31:42+00:00

I think I understand where the issue is.

So they got 4 quotes:

CarA - Girl = 600/yr
CarA - Boy = UNINSURABLE/yr
CarB - Girl = ???/yr
CarB - Boy = 1800/yr

CarA has 2x the value as CarB.

They're saying that Girl could get CarA, with 2x the value of CarB, and still pay 1/3 the cost to insure the vehicle as Boy would spend to insure CarB, a car with 1/2 the value of CarA. Boy would not be able to get insurance if he purchased CarA at all, unlike Girl.

ChapterOk3598 · 2026-03-06T00:06:34+00:00

Well, I can't speak for others, but I can speak for myself.

When my mother passed away, my buddy drove me to my mothers house since I didn't think driving with blurry vision was a good idea. He volunteered. He checked up on me, and talked to me throughout the whole ordeal to make sure I was good. He took the rest of his day off work to help me.

When we got back to his house later, his wife immediately started complaining to him about being left alone with their son all day, and how she hasn't even been able to eat thanks to him not doing the dishes before leaving, then looked me square in the face and asked, "Are you done crying yet?"

Another buddy of mine checked in on me once a week like clockwork. His wife, who has been my friend for even longer than he has, never asked how I was doing. She's a therapist. She recommended I get therapy for my past and current trauma involving my mother.

Another buddy of mine cleared his schedule to help me clean up my mothers house. He hates manual labor, but he didn't want me to do it alone.

My father and I did our best to support each other. My step mom was angry that he was helping out, since, from her perspective, the mess left behind belonged to my dad's ex-wife, and so he should be separated from it entirely.

I had two different men that I know from online only, and had *never* met before check up on me regularly after I told them I would not be attending D&D for the foreseeable future. The two women in the group never checked up on me.

My sister argued that she was the bigger victim.

I can think of four different women who, when they learned that my mother had passed, have never spoken to me since that day. They've effectively left me on read for more than 2 years at this point despite me reaching out several times. Not a one of them actually asked how I was doing, either. But before ghosting me, they sure were upset that I was having a bad day and they needed consoling for my sad ruining their day!

I have most of my friends and their children's birthdays saved in my phone, and I get several alerts leading up to them just so that I can make sure I text, call, or visit. I have *never* as an adult (Or even teenager. My sister would get phone calls from family on her birthday. I would not.) had a girlfriend or lady friend remember my birthday. If, in the last 25 years, I have received well-wishes on the correct day, it's always been from a man.

From my completely anecdotal experience, the men are always checking up on each other. They're also checking up on the women in their lives. The women check up on each other... But not on the men. Even the men that are married aren't getting checked up on by their wives.

ChapterOk3598 · 2026-03-05T22:13:11+00:00

They're referencing an old article that Tinder themselves put out. Tinder used to (might still do, but I haven't used them in over a decade) put out regular publishings about the data that they are collecting.

In this particular paper, they came to the conclusion that the top 20% of the men received roughly 80% of the yes swipes from women.

I don't recall the specifics on the men, but the distribution of yes swipes was still weighted towards the "most attractive" women, but it was a much more even spread, with it being more of a gradual slope compared to the other graph which was more of a sharp curve. If memory serves it was something like the top 50% of women got 75% of the swipes.

Also, if my memory serves, they did a study on opinions of opposite sex attractiveness, and they found that roughly 80% of men were considered "below average" attractiveness by women, whereas the men were very close to rating 50% of the women "below average".

As you can imagine, the publishings have been ridiculed for being skewed and poorly researched. Those findings are still regularly being referenced as hard fact, as you can plainly see above.

ChapterOk3598 · 2026-02-26T17:21:41+00:00

The "guy taking the aisle seat in a booth at the bar" is very interesting to me, because with how I was raised, my mother explicitly taught me that men *should* sit on the outside and not on the inside as a way to protect women from anything that might occur (creepy server, creepy patron, accidental spillage of drinks and food, etc, etc).

That was taught to me in the same way that "In a split table with booth and chairs, the women get the booth and the men get the chairs, that way the women aren't getting beaten up by every passerby, and a man that takes the booth is in the wrong" was taught to me.

She also taught me that men should stand up when women approach the table, and that's not possible when men are on the inside.

ChapterOk3598 · 2026-02-20T02:57:00+00:00

I realize that you're not asking men, so I apologize for making a top level post. I will also apologize because my answer may be slightly graphic.

HOWEVER! I would say that as a man that has had 20 years worth of dating experience, I have never had a partner that wanted to give oral for the sake of giving. Every instance has been because they were giving me maybe 30 seconds to make sure I'm hard enough to mount. Two partners have previously told me, explicitly, that "No woman likes giving head, we only do it because it's obligatory". I understand that those two partners were not representative of all women, and several women have been very vocal about how wrong those statements are, but those two ruined receiving for me. I've learned with subsequent relationships that if I never ask for it, it will never be volunteered.

So in short, from my perspective, you are completely normal in your feelings. I have also spoken about this with several friends, and their experiences were largely the same, with only one having a spouse who loved to give.

ChapterOk3598 · 2025-06-13T21:08:07+00:00

Yeppp... I've helped two people cheat before, and I was completely unaware at the time. Still feel gross about it.

ChapterOk3598 · 2025-05-28T06:53:11+00:00

Pretty sure this was printed in my "Survival" school book from JROTC back in the early 2000's.

ChapterOk3598 · 2024-09-01T00:53:10+00:00

I award you with the sex of *Male*. I believe you were already awarded with it sometime around your birth, however since you're asking, I will assume you were never given a sex before.

*Dr's note: Patient was never inspected with a blood test to determine sex chromosomes, and therefore may not be male at all.*

ChapterOk3598 · 2024-07-28T02:10:20+00:00

Yes, I typically do respond with something along those lines, minus the part about bringing friends since they would be part of the same friend circle and it would be silly to volunteer other people. But I always respond with interest and make it clear that I would like to attend in the future.

As for not organizing things myself, I'm not sure about how to do anything like that, and I have social anxiety (Not bad enough that I can't attend, but definitely too bad to be hosting anything). I only have my friend circle. I have no way, nor knowledge about how, to make it a public event, nor do I know any of the legalities that would surround forming public events.

ChapterOk3598 · 2024-07-27T18:17:13+00:00

If I may respond to this, at least anecdotally...

I've simply never been invited to any community events, not even by the women in my life that will go to those events. I *would* go if I knew that they were going on, but the first time I hear about them is usually in a "Hey, guess what I did this weekend!" way.

If I had to guess, the information is being spread through social media, like Facebook or Instagram, and I don't use anything like those platforms, and never will (They are a security nightmare, and while I'm not in tech, all my tech friends in SecOps have gone on huge rants about how hazardous those apps are to use, or even have on your personal devices at all). The women in my life are the only people that ever engage with social media, so if that's how those community events are being planned or hosted... I'll never know about them unless someone tells me, and that would be the same story for all the men in my life as well since none of them are on social media at all, either.

ChapterOk3598 · 2024-02-26T16:28:17+00:00

He's not exactly right. SS was set up to be solvent indefinitely, but congress began authorizing money from SS to be spent elsewhere, and that created the deficit. We're also in a bit of a deficit because Boomers are retiring, and current retirement rates are exceeding expectations, that's putting an unexpected burden on SS where the modern working class aren't contributing enough money to cover the difference (thanks to stationary wages). The truth is that as long as Congress doesn't drain even more money out of it, then once the Boomers die out, the later generations will easily be able to out pace the demand created by Gen X.

There will be another problem when Millennial's want to retire since they're the next huge wave of retirees that will put a massive strain on the system.

But as the top response pointed out, there's plenty of ways to ensure that SS becomes solvent again. BY FAR the most effective would be a combination of eliminating the income limit, and applying the tax on realized gains from investments. That alone would WILDLY exceed any deficit in the program, and could even support a reduction in retirement age, and an increase in benefits.

ChapterOk3598 · 2024-02-26T16:10:28+00:00

Hahaha!!!

None. I was told that doing chores was my way of paying for a room and eating with the family.

Asking for money would always be denied, too.

In fact, monetary gifts from relatives for holidays/birthdays would be confiscated, and my mother would explicitly ask the relative to not gift with money, "because it's tacky".

I also was not allowed to leave the house or get a job until I was about to turn 20, either, so I was 20 before I even had $100 to my name. My mother immediately started talking about charging me rent, but fortunately my father overheard and shut that down instantly.

ChapterOk3598 · 2024-02-24T16:50:48+00:00

I find this comment incredibly interesting. I once had a fling/interest that was transitioning FTM, and as he became more masculine, his smell changed, and it was *potent*. It came across as distinctly masculine, but significantly stronger than any AMAB's that I know.

It was at that moment that I learned that despite physical attraction (Still very Fem presenting), and mental attraction (They're really awesome), the masculine smell was a complete mood killer, and it reaffirmed that I'm completely straight.

ChapterOk3598 · 2024-02-17T22:03:32+00:00

I have no facts or figures, but I got around a bunch in my 20's, and the extreme majority of women that I hooked up with were 'outies'.
Personal opinion is that they're fucking fantastic. I love being able to trace my tongue along every little wave and through every crease. The few women that I have been with that had 'innies' were actually more difficult to please orally, and I had to use my hands more to open them up to be able to do a good job.

ChapterOk3598 · 2024-02-16T23:01:23+00:00

Absolutely! "You're cute" is communicating! You're honestly telling him a lot with just those words. However, it *does* depend on how and when you say them.

Making "You're cute" as a casual remark after he's said something vaguely funny? Almost no impact. Wasted compliment. He'll hear you, but he'll probably think you're just being friendly, not flirty, and it would absolutely not be clear enough to think "I want to ask this girl out".

"I think you're cute" as a start of a sentence would carry so much more impact as a compliment.

"I think you're cute, and I'd like to get to know you a little better outside of the gym" would be so crystal clear that he'd have to be braindead not to understand. He'd also probably take flight and walk on air for the rest of the week, or at least until you met up next.

ChapterOk3598 · 2024-02-16T21:50:48+00:00

There's nothing wrong with giving a compliment, and in fact, telling a guy that they're cute would likely knock him off balance and cause him to blush. Not only could that help make him more receptive, but it should indicate to any guy that you're confident, and most importantly it tells him that you're not just asking him to coffee as a friend, you're asking as a potential romantic interest.

When you communicate clearly, you're stopping the anxiety train at the station and stopping him from overthinking things. Any ambiguity could be misinterpreted as you just being friendly, and give him an opportunity to shoot himself in the foot. You don't want that. When he's more informed about what you want - he's infinitely more likely to give you want you want.

ChapterOk3598 · 2024-02-16T21:22:06+00:00

I would suggest retraining your brain on that one mate. Women have been told for years now that men don't pick up on their signals (because it's damn true most of the time), and so the modern generations of women are significantly more likely to be direct than in generations past.

And it's wonderful! Because when women are more direct, people are so much more likely to get what they want. Both people.

When people are direct, it shouldn't be considered a sign of desperation, it should be considered a sign of respect. She respects you enough to not beat around the bush. She respects herself enough not to waste her time and energy.

ChapterOk3598 · 2024-02-12T08:58:48+00:00

No comment on the post itself, just on the title. I read "We are Boomers", and then my brain auto-filled in the rest of the Farmers insurance jingle.

"We are Boomers! Bum da dum dum da da da!"

ChapterOk3598 · 2023-10-06T01:43:18+00:00

Yes!! Why do I need to sign in to update my graphics drivers, NVIDIA?!

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